There is a joy, after the child falls asleep. ......
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Just put the foaming facial cleanser on his face, the father shouted through the door, "Is it ready?"
"Why?" I didn't good the spirit replied, the in the mind very uncomfortable. If you hide in the toilet and don't even belong to yourself, I really don't know when I can be left alone.
"Little cub asked you to wipe her ass."
"Wipe or not!" The fire in my heart soared upward.
"I wiped it for her, but she didn't want it, but she insisted on it ..." The father of the child heard that I was in a bad mood and explained it quickly.
"Mom, mom, I want my mother to wipe it for me." My daughter stood naked by the small basin and cried.
"Come, come!"
Scribbled water washes my face, and facial cleanser accidentally enters my eyes, making me want to cry.
Half squinting, I quickly drew some paper on the table. ......
Although I have also learned some parenting theories, I also want to cultivate a child with high emotional intelligence and no yelling. I also want to correctly handle the unreasonable and negative emotions of children. ......
But sometimes being a mother is really tired, and sometimes I really lose my temper because I can't handle Xiong Haizi. Anything will do as long as you don't cry!
Good mother, you can't be so unprincipled!
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"Don't look at the phone, go and read a book."
My daughter's study status is not very good recently. Seeing her looking at her mobile phone, I felt like an enemy.
"hmm",
The daughter snorted without looking up.
Ten minutes have passed.
"You are still watching!" I can't help shouting.
"Bang ..."
My daughter slammed the door and left me rolling my eyes.
All kinds of information tell me that the more parents care about raising their children, the less they will rebel. There must be something wrong with the way children are brought up!
I accept and believe all the above theories.
Therefore, in order to set an example in front of children and establish a positive role model image, we began to strictly control the time of watching mobile phones, and at the same time completely insulated the TV.
Just like an ascetic, pay attention to your words and deeds, restrain yourself from those careless bad habits that may come out inadvertently, and be a good parent, just like an invisible hoop on your head, which often makes you have a splitting headache, but you can't get rid of it.
A good mother should be a good example.
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It is my vision and goal to be a good mother, give children a happy growing environment and give them a trauma-free family of origin.
But the reality makes me feel that no matter what I do, it is difficult to satisfy myself. There has always been a voice in my heart accusing: "You are not a qualified good mother!" "
Being a mother really depresses me.
This makes me very sad and depressed.
So, seeing other people's mothers drying food in a circle of friends, I also learned to do it, determined to be delicious. I expect my daughters to eat my delicious food, which is nutritious, healthy and delicious.
But in fact, it is often good-looking or not delicious, delicious or neither good-looking nor delicious!
Seeing that other people's mothers have raised their children to be elegant and versatile, I am also determined to be an interesting and good mother. I bought calligraphy stickers, signed up for painting classes, and moved back a lot of books. I imagined a beautiful scene: under the warm light, with the background music of the leisure field, one large and one small were sitting around the table, or writing or flipping through books, and the years were quiet.
But the props were just set, and the plot didn't start normally. When Xiao Zi ran to grab the pen, the ink got all over the table and he was in a bad mood.
Seeing other people's mothers clean up their homes and their children clean up, I also began to learn to break up and tidy up. The house was really clean, but in less than half a day, the things in the drawer ran to the bed and the things on the table fell to the ground. All the neat storage boxes have been removed and scattered all over the floor ... the fruits of a hard day's work are gone in an instant!
Why did I end up doing so badly no matter how hard I tried?
Other people's mothers can earn money at work, take care of their children after work, dress up beautifully and get together with friends.
I lost my mind about the east and the west, and I was flustered and flustered!
I hope I can get a score of 100, but I find that I can't even pass the exam.
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Maybe I'm not mature enough to be a good mother. It may also be because this era is too demanding of mothers.
There used to be such a joke on the Internet:
Now it's time for a woman to have a baby after running a marathon. After giving birth, she can easily lose weight, cook with an iron, have meetings with milk, grow flowers at home, help her children with their homework and ring the bell for her listed company. People are becoming more and more beautiful.
There are indeed many excellent women who balance their families and careers well, but how many people really see the efforts behind them?
This era has given the post of "mother" too much responsibility and expectation. What "a good mother is better than a good teacher" and "the hand that pushes the cradle is the hand that pushes the world" and so on, "mother" was kidnapped on a high altar, and there was no room for any flaws.
But I want to say that "mom" is not a god, but an ordinary person with her own emotions, decadence and depression.
When she is depressed, allow her to vent her emotions happily;
When she is sad, allow her to be weak and sad enough to cry;
When she is lazy occasionally, allow her not to be nervous all the time. ......
Dear mothers, please take good care of your children and pity yourself! You are "mom" and you are yourself. Do your best. Don't compare and don't blame yourself. No one needs to grade you on your mother's test paper!
Don't be confused by the definition of "mother", don't panic, don't be anxious, face up to and accept your disappointment.
Accept yourself as an ordinary person, face up to your imperfections, leave room for yourself, simply be a mother, give people warmth, love and accompany the growth of life happily.
Beating heart
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