First, you don't need to change yourself for a man, you don't need to keep 3 thousand long hair for your husband, you don't need to lose weight and beauty for him, and you don't even need plastic surgery. At most, it is touching, not love.
I have met many young girls, and they all have a declaration: I want to grow long hair for him! I want to lose weight, thin into a bolt of lightning, and make him fall in love with me! I will be gentle and lovely, and he will like me.
Sister, it really doesn't have to be like this. Even if you make a lot of changes, he accepts you and his feelings are not pure. If one day, you can't help getting fat and speaking softly, his impression of you will be discounted. Moreover, in the process that you can't really be yourself for him, you will be exhausted and crush your love.
You can lose weight and make yourself more perfect, but only for ourselves, not to please others. Zheng Shuang had plastic surgery for Zhang Hans, but Zhang Hans fell in love with Naza.
Being true to yourself and being loved is a happy thing. There you are. I am right here. You go, stay, don't send. Back again? Sorry, no one will wait in the same place forever. Being yourself, being yourself, is the most important thing!
Don't think that doing something stupid can touch a cold heart. One day, you will meet a box of people who will respond to you without doing anything stupid. That's true love.
Second, don't degenerate into another ghost just because he doesn't love you. He won't feel bad or change his mind. It must not be love in the end, but guilt at most.
Some young girls paralyze themselves because of lovelorn love, give up their studies and the future, learn to smoke, drink and even self-harm, and use physical pain to alleviate their inner trauma. This is more unreasonable than the first kind of girls.
A friend recalled being lovelorn ten years ago, moving out of her boyfriend's house in the middle of the night, taking a taxi and wandering the streets, being homeless in a foreign land, hating herself for walking all the way to a man, and finally ending up like this. Finally, under the driver's repeated persuasion, she left her luggage at her friend's house, went to the bar alone and got drunk and had stomach bleeding for several days. Fortunately, her friend arrived and was sent to the hospital ... In the process, her boyfriend and ex-boyfriend never showed up, visited, comforted or sent messages, making her give up completely.
There are also some girls who will take more extreme measures to hurt themselves in order to alleviate the pain of lovelorn. They are dressed in a sneaky way, which is quite different from their former selves. They burned a few cigarette scars on their arms and even committed suicide. It seems that this will attract the attention of his predecessor and make him regret looking back. No, absolutely not. Even if some ex-husbands come back to you with mercy, there will be problems in the future. Your depravity will make him feel guilty at most, not love.
When I was very young, I witnessed a tragedy. A relative committed suicide by cutting his wrist in love, and his blood gurgled. When relatives and friends found out, they immediately advised her to see a doctor. She refuses to live or die, but she must see her predecessor. The predecessor finally came. Whether he came voluntarily or was escorted, he just stood there and looked on coldly ... At that time, he felt that man was too heartless and once left a shadow on my young mind. I don't think I can be like that relative. When I grow up, I don't want to fall in love or get married. Now that I have grown up, my thoughts have changed. The man is not so heartless as the woman is too stupid. You don't care about yourself. How can he love you?
In recent years, it is not uncommon for infatuated women in Taiwan Province Province to commit suicide by jumping off a building for the husband of an derailed male star. Woman, don't be silly. When a person doesn't love you, wherever you get hurt, it's hypocritical, and even getting sick is wrong! If you double suicide and let him be reviled by everyone, he will still scold you in his heart for what you deserve!
Third, don't pin your hopes on another man just because you are occupied by another man, or even cheat him. In exchange, you will lose both sides.
Even if your man changes his mind and cheats, don't answer blows with blows. A woman once told me in tears how much she hated her husband for giving birth to a third child. Her years of efforts were in vain, and her youth, money and people were gone. When she met her first love in college again, it was a pity that the other person was already married, but because of different ideas, she hated her third child and became the third child of others. She thought she got back at her husband in this way, but she was not happy at all, but even more lost and at a loss.
I said, honey, it's not someone else you're getting back at, it's yourself.
If some people let you down, don't transfer your feelings to another person, so you may get more disappointment. Let us pay attention to one thing. No matter how much money you spend on a person, you may not get a reciprocal return. If you work hard on one thing, you may get a surprise.
Fourth, don't turn into a dissatisfied housewife, a shrew or a big momma for him. In the end, what you get is not treasure, but boredom.
Everyone knows how desperate Li Mochou was when he fell in love with Lu Zhanyuan. However, every desperate beginning has a regret. Regardless of the suspicion of men and women, Li Mochou cured Lu Zhanyuan, but was expelled from his old school. At that moment, I believed that Lu Zhanyuan really loved her, but people will change. The world is full of things called temptation. Lu sympathized, which led to hatred because of love, and he did not hesitate to kill innocent people, and eventually he was buried in the sea of fire. More cruel than both sides-mutually assured destruction.
Do not give everything, but also get the same love and response. When you are wishful thinking, it is love. When you are wishful thinking, it is self-love. Anyone can be endlessly kind to a person, provided it is worthwhile.
It's not that you are not good enough, nor that you are not beautiful enough. Cecilia Cheung has been dumped. Yuqi Zhang is young and beautiful and divorced. Even if you try your best, you can't keep a heart that wants to leave.
All leaving, just because I no longer love, and "for your own good" are grand and shameless excuses. Companionship is the longest confession.