It's like being sick, feeling uncomfortable, and not going to the hospital for examination at the first time. I just searched the internet for my cause, what kind of diseases matched it, and even diagnosed myself.
If you are lucky, you can be cured unexpectedly, but if you are unlucky, a small problem will drag you into a serious illness because of a small loss.
Solving problems in marriage, like this, Xiaomei's situation is typical.
The thing is this: Cece and her boyfriend have been together for two years, and there are problems in foreign love. It is extremely difficult for them to maintain their feelings.
Cece often complains that she is dating people on her mobile phone, especially when she sees that all her friends are boyfriends. Someone sent her to work, someone accompanied her on Sunday, and someone took care of her when she was sick, but she only received her boyfriend's cell phone \/letter:
"Drink more hot water, remember to take an umbrella and take care of yourself. I've been too busy at work recently. How to love? Summer vacation batch not to come out ... "
_ After a long time, there are more and more small differences. Finally, when her boyfriend forgot their love anniversary, Hong Chen definitely broke up.
Originally, I was worried that my boyfriend would make amends. I didn't expect my boyfriend to be sad at work in those days, and he immediately agreed under the mentality.
Cece deleted all her boyfriend's contact numbers in a rage, thinking that in two days, her boyfriend would take the initiative to coax herself.
_ If a week has passed, it hasn't happened yet, but my boyfriend added his mobile phone \/letter on his own initiative.
What should Cece do when she searches for a breakup online? Many people say they want to break up, so they break up for a while.
A month has passed, and I haven't found a comprehensive guide book online, saying that I basically need to build my own circle of friends and show my positive side.
Insist on running, yoga, fitness, baking, and gathering with basin friends, which is overjoyed. After a month and a half, the boys began to make noise.
Later, I saw an example of success based on stimulating my ex-boyfriend's exclusive desire. Cece asked a member of the opposite sex for help and took a photo of eating in a western restaurant. The boy's hand was exposed at the edge of the photo.
After the word \/circle of friends came out, Cece was still thinking that her boyfriend should be in trouble. _ If she looks at her boyfriend \/circle of friends, it is blank. After checking the transfer, she realized that she was not another friend.
Found everyone in despair.
At first, when Cece came to consult, she still had doubts. Do you think this organization can handle my emotional problems? I also think that many things are privacy protection and it is not convenient to say.
However, when the problem is not optimistic, she has missed the golden period of reunion when she wants to say it.
Her ex-boyfriend not only blacklisted her, but also showed signs of new love. Because the compound method is not correct, I missed the original good marriage.
Why did Cece look up so many guides and use so many methods, but her emotional problems became more and more serious?
Today, I will talk to you from two levels about what went wrong with Cece's comprehensive Internet strategy book:
On the first level, it is a knave to keep realistic problems without in-depth analysis, and it is a shirking responsibility just because others don't teach them.
Things to do in love, after mastering the emotional situation of Hong Chen and his predecessor, I learned that Hong Chen's boyfriend chose to break up at that time for two reasons:
First, there is no time to take into account emotional differences in busy work:
When I am sad at work, I need Xiaomei's application and understanding. _ If she came to break up, who hasn't lost her temper at all? Who's afraid of who?
Second, we must calm down and sort out our emotions.
Cece has been complaining about not spending enough time with her recently, so she doesn't care. She doesn't love her anymore, and she feels so tired. Women are just inconvenient. How to coax her out of trouble?
The communication between two people is getting lower and lower. Is there anything wrong with the relationship, you must be rational?
For two reasons, Xiaomei's boyfriend is willing to break up, and he is ready to be rational for a while and then coax Sissy home.
_ If the boy can't find the North after a series of practical operations, he finally adds a mobile phone \/letter, thinking about communicating well before going. _ If there is no reason at first, he has all the connections.
Then I saw all kinds of photo actions in the circle of friends, which seemed very happy, not like a lovelorn person at all.
Then I caught a new feeling. I suspected it was a stone hammer. Is it a seamless connection? I'm afraid I'll be sad here for two months, so I decided to delete it. Don't be infatuated with me.
After such analysis, we should find that Hong Chen's comprehensive strategy book retrieved from the Internet and her pursuit of comprehensive purpose are completely putting the cart before the horse.
What do you say about falling in love? The direct reason is that Cece _ prescribed the right medicine according to the emotional connection and situation between herself and her boyfriend, and didn't understand how to grasp the timing of recombination, not to mention the psychological state of her boyfriend after breaking up.