I really hate "being a mother is rigid". I saw someone advocating that "being a mother is rigid" before. It's not that I don't admire those great mothers, but that being a mother should not be bound by hard standards and become a universal moral standard in society. As a mother, I am willing to be fair, but I don't want to be fair. As long as I try my best to be responsible for my children, I am a good mother. Even if I can't be as good as those models who are as good as my mother, I shouldn't unnecessarily increase my guilt because I have tried my best. Not because some people say "women are not weak"!
This heroic praise invisibly brings mental stress and even moral kidnapping to novice mothers. Don't be fragile, don't be melodramatic, postpartum depression, these three things don't exist. This seemingly praise of maternal love actually overemphasizes and exaggerates the importance of the identity of "mother" in a woman's life, while ignoring her value as herself. As long as a woman has an independent personality, free thinking and enthusiasm and efforts for any career or life, she does not need to rely on any gender roles shaped by society such as mother, wife and daughter to complete herself, but can become strong as an independent individual.
That's part of people's work. The princess just came out to show her face. That's part of people's work. Someone said, "foreign women will go out for a walk after she is born." This is probably the group of people who said that "women used to work in the fields after giving birth". It is suggested that they ask the price of surrogacy, and it does not include breastfeeding and coaxing children day and night, and working during pregnancy to make money. If having a baby is really good for women's health, why does surrogacy cost so much money? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Kate has a professional parenting team and professionals in education. If ordinary mothers do the same after giving birth to their children, they can sleep all night without getting up frequently after work to coach their children. I believe that most people are willing to stand in front of the hospital in a dress when they leave the hospital, have a photo taken, and then get on the bus and go home.
There are many girls who don't feel uncomfortable eating ice during menstruation. It's just that western women dare to eat ice when they find it's okay, but in China, people always stop girls from eating ice on the grounds of "being good for you", and even say that girls who don't listen will get sick or something, as if all domestic girls have to rely on medicine. On the other hand, girls with real dysmenorrhea take painkillers, but there are still many screaming and refusing to eat them because they are "bad for their health". Although I asked her what was wrong, nine times out of ten, I couldn't say it. Anyway, "I don't feel so good."
Different people have different reactions to stress and shock. Some mothers think the sky is falling. As a person, their children are still young. Don't let them suffer more, or some will feel that there is no place for me in this family, and of course there is no place for children. Why don't we die together? Wait. I don't know what this mother is thinking, so I made this decision. I sympathize. As an unmarried girl, in fact, I am psychologically prepared for the pain of giving birth. I am afraid of postpartum depression, stretch marks, sequelae, not being able to take care of children, and being rejected by my mother-in-law and husband. I feel that compared with the pain of giving birth, I am afraid that my family will ignore my needs, which is the root of most women's fear of education in marriage.
To sum up, people always have to bear unimaginable pain in this life. Of course there are bitter and sweet. My second child and two children were brought up by my sister alone. Honestly, it's really hard. I remember when my sister was the most tired, she coaxed the children to sleep. Beautification is to encourage girls in the world to have more children, because the aging is serious, but brainwashed people often don't need to have children, so the fear and pain of childbirth, coupled with the advocacy of bad media, make things backfire.