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Xiaowen is the worst girl I have ever seen in these years. Because she confronted the leader face to face, she "hid in the snow".

All the short messages and emails sent to the leader, the other party doesn't answer, and the phone doesn't answer, treating her like air. However, much remains to be done. At that time, she was responsible for the gift procurement of the exhibition, and she went in and out all day, either in the office or on her way to the factory.

She did her best, worked overtime every day, completed the procurement task in a short time, and saved a lot of design fees for the company by using her professional expertise. But after the work was finished, the leader still ignored her. We all feel wronged for her when we look at her.

She is very free and easy, saying, "Any job will be difficult. I can't control other people's attitudes, what I can control is my work. "

Later, she saw the business opportunity of the beauty shop and decided to leave her job to open a shop. Two years later, I opened another one. I got married in the middle, gave birth to two daughters, and the family was happy.

During the time when I was left out, there was always resentment in my heart. But she didn't complain, didn't wait, didn't wait and see, but put her strength where she could catch it.

There are always unsatisfactory places in life, unreasonable places in the company, and difficult places in work.

An active girl knows not to waste energy on complaining, discouragement and anger.

When they encounter setbacks, they will be sad, anxious and at a loss. But they won't stay, they won't wait and see, they will dry their tears, put on their armor quickly and continue to fight against the world.

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When Big S first debuted, it was not as white and beautiful as it is now. She is positioned as a comedian. She was born with a black ass and even laughed at herself for being a pig's head compared with other female stars.

In order to whiten her skin, she began to learn various beauty maintenance techniques from the age of 17, such as pulsed light, Botox, whitening needle, electric wave skin lift, etc., just to whiten herself until her skin glows.

She has been a vegetarian for many years, but in order to have children, she broke her own precepts, suspended her acting career, drank chicken soup, ate donkey-hide gelatin and made up her body. Finally, she gave birth to a son and a daughter.

After giving birth to the second child, her figure has never recovered, and her face is swollen to the point where netizens say "she looks like Ni Ping". But once she decided to lose weight, she lost 20 pounds a month by perseverance.

The world is not always smooth sailing for her, and she is not the heroine of Marisol who is sought after by thousands of people in the novel. But now, she has everything she wants.

Even Zhang Lan, the mother-in-law who didn't admit her son's flash marriage, couldn't help admiring her son: "No one can stop what your wife is determined to do."

An active girl is to really control her life in her own hands.

They did not open plug-ins, nor did they expect a perfect life from heaven, nor did they fantasize about riding a white horse to save their prince. Step by step, they will only find pumpkin carts, polish their glass shoes and turn themselves from Cinderella to princess.

Such a girl has the power to struggle to reverse her fate: I won't sit at home and wait for the happiness I want, I will get it myself.

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My friend Beibei, a key professional student of a 985 University, went to France for exchange training for one year at the undergraduate stage. If she graduates successfully, she can get degree certificates from two famous schools.

She is smart and excellent. All subjects are among the best, and the French certificate has reached the highest level, which is the earliest batch of classmates who went abroad. However, just before graduation, she gave up. She said that the more she studied, the more she felt that she didn't like mechanical major.

After careful consideration, she chose to drop out of school and finally got a degree certificate from a domestic university.

When we get home, we have dinner together. She said that although she almost got a degree in France, she had no regrets at all. Because, after the real experience, I don't want to waste another minute on things I don't like.

Later, Beibei went to Shanghai to start a business, founded a study abroad consulting agency, and finally found something she liked to do. Although she is under great pressure and stays up late every day to do copywriting, she is extremely happy.

Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said: The meaning of life lies in choice. When a person keeps making choices for his life, no matter whether these choices are right or wrong, his life will be rich and colorful because of his choices, and his psychological energy will continue to increase.

Many times, we need to face a dilemma. Maybe I don't like my job, but I can't bear to give it up, so I lie to myself and complain about compromise. Maybe it's chicken-ribbed love, knowing that the other person is not the one you want to be with, but lusting after the familiar warmth and single vanity.

Active girls will give up and know how to choose.

They dare to bear the sunk cost of giving up and any consequences of choosing. Because they have confidence in themselves, they can have the confidence to start over after giving up.

Their lives have become vivid and powerful in repeated choices.

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Some people say that vitality has two manifestations, desire and destructive power. Desire and destructive power can be summarized in one word: initiative.

There are many such girls around me.

They got excellent grades from childhood, graduated from high school and were admitted to famous universities. After graduating from undergraduate courses, they took the master's road and entered famous enterprises after graduation. Have a good trip. They are obedient and never do anything wrong. After work, I am more diligent and become the most practical person in the office.

However, many of them have never been in love until they graduated from master's degree. Their life seems to be all right, except for a little "vitality" and a little confidence in facing the power of the world.

They always stand in the same place, waiting for fate or the arrangement of their parents, like a seaweed, swaying from side to side in the torrent of life.

They don't know what they want, and even if they do, they dare not reach for it. They won't even say "want".

This kind of life is not "bad" or "good", but it is inevitably a bit "boring", a bit weak and a bit "not enjoying life".

And active girls, under any circumstances, will not shirk their responsibilities, nor will they push the decision out. They will make a heartfelt choice and then try their best to take responsibility for it.

This kind of life, whether wonderful or embarrassing, successful or unsuccessful, happy or both, is worthwhile, free, proud and full of vitality.

Because, this is a life that is completely set by yourself.