"Sowing behavior can harvest habits; Sowing habits can harvest character; Sowing character can harvest fate. "

Our life is driven by this so-called fate.

In an era full of impulse and temptation, the key to harvesting fate is to start with sowing behavior.

Three suggestions to help you develop self-discipline and have a good life.

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Self-discipline begins with self-control.

Life is made up of days.

Looking at the road we have traveled, you may regret that you didn't work hard enough in a certain aspect and lacked a persistence, so that something passed us by.

Like youth, like exuberant energy, as scarce as time; Like a person you once met, like a first love, gone forever.

Self-discipline is not a restriction of freedom, but a better formulation and planning.

Control external factors, form a new situation, and let it realize our wishes more effectively, including establishing our own internal driving force.

So, how can I become the person I want to be?

Everyone has the habit of making excuses for himself, which is the most difficult to change. Therefore, first of all, you need to find the "incentive" goal you want to change.

For example, if a female friend wants to have a graceful figure and clean skin, you should quit staying up late and refrain from tempting food; Then make a reasonable fitness plan, persevere and don't give yourself any chance to find out why.

This is like Mr. Haruki Murakami in "I talk about running, what do you talk about?" "I won't stop for a day unless I have to."

If you want to cultivate an elegant and intellectual temperament, you should throw away those invalid screens and unlimited browsing, but use these time fragments to learn and constantly improve and improve yourself.

Start a new page in life through "goal induction", from self-control to habit.

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Change yourself from behavior.

A healthy body is the basis for life to create more possibilities. When we have and realize this, we can go further.

Make good use of the sharp weapon of self-discipline to create conditions and opportunities to change the environment.

As the saying goes, "Diligence can make up for mistakes", and diligence is also a good medicine.

Zeng Guofan was an important official in the late Qing Dynasty. He has been extremely disciplined and diligent all his life. He climbed the rock step by step and established his achievements by his "clumsy" spirit of seeking.

He established the Xiang Army, pacified the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom and launched the Westernization Movement. ...

You may not believe that such a famous minister of the Qing Dynasty who "saved the day and saved the nation" did not make a lot of achievements because of his talent.

On the contrary, many materials describe him as "stupid".

There is a short story "More Stupid than a Thief", which proves this point:

It is said that Zeng Guofan was not talented when he was a child, which can be said to be stupid and very difficult to learn.

One night, he was reading at home. I reread an article many times and still can't recite it. He reread it over and over again and recited it over and over again.

It's late at night, and he's still worried about being alone.

It turned out that a thief came to his house and hid under the eaves of his study, hoping to wait until he finished reading and went to bed before entering the house to steal things.

Can wait and wait, Zeng Guofan can't sleep. The thief couldn't stand it anymore. He jumped into the room angrily and said to Zeng Guofan, "What are you reading, so stupid?" I memorized it after listening to it several times! "

So the thief recited the article from beginning to end, and then walked away.

There is no need to delve into the truth of the story, but it can be said that Zeng Guofan is not the kind of "other people's children" in his studies.

He was born in an ordinary farming and reading family, but he studied hard since childhood and constantly adjusted and changed himself on the road of growth.

"Stupidity" didn't stop him, but made him more diligent.

According to statistics, there are 20 million written messages (including works, letters and diaries) left by Zeng Guofan, which is staggering.

This is related to his extreme self-discipline and strict requirements for himself.

Although Zeng Guofan made some achievements in his early years, he offended Emperor Xianfeng and many ministers because of his straightforward temperament and sincere advice, so that he was caught in the situation at that time.

Zeng Guofan stayed at home for three years until his father died. In the case of extreme depression, I came into contact with the philosophy of life of Laozi and Zhuangzi, and finally realized that I was too sharp-edged and arrogant.

Since then, Zeng Guofan has been harmonious in his life, becoming amiable, modest and tolerant, and willing to take care of the emotions of people around him. This paved the way for better work in the future.

If you want to "apply what you have learned", you should not only rely on hard work, but also make good use of the surrounding environment to realize your own value.

The current explanation is: co-ordinate resources and help each other and win-win.

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Plan your life.

All qualitative changes are caused by quantitative changes.

God is extremely fair, and everyone's day is 24 hours. How to use it has created different life situations.

What kind of person do you want to be, what kind of career do you want to engage in, what kind of partner do you want to be with the opposite sex, and spend the rest of your life together … these are all life plans.

Although "following fate" is also an attitude towards life, some things can only be won by hard work. With a clear direction, you can get closer to the person you want to be and the life you yearn for.

In a limited time, how to plan your life and make yourself live a wonderful life?

Xiaoye, the author of Self-discipline, gave some suggestions for reference:

Reduce the bondage of material, be a person who is not swallowed up by material desires, and give your eyes more freedom.

2 Have the courage and confidence to choose. All the strength and achievements we have achieved under self-discipline are our confidence in facing the future and the unknown.

Attitude is how we feel about the world.

Sometimes objective conditions and environmental factors will certainly have an impact on people, but what really determines the direction of our lives is our attitude.

Life is not as simple and broad as success or failure. More is the experience of life and the value it produces.

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Self-discipline is freedom.

The so-called freedom is not arbitrary, but self-control. We should create more choices for life on this basis.

Marshall? There is a sentence on the cover of Goodsmith's Self-discipline: Create lasting behavior habits and become the person you want to be.

Instead of enviing others' freedom because of self-discipline, it is better to change yourself from now on.

* * * Encourage!

Author: Jane Y, a member of intensive reading club, draws the fragrance of life from simplicity.