Hi! Girl, well done, you are only 25 years old, still young, in the prime of life, a great life has just begun, the next love will be better, happiness will knock on your window and usher in warmth and sunshine.
This is the story of a girl named Dandan.
- 1
The first time I met her was during the May Day holiday on 20 14. She came to Shanghai with her husband and three-month-old daughter to visit her aunt's house. At noon that day, the sun shone gently on the earth. I stood lazily on the balcony on the second floor, looking at more than twenty people in the small yard. These men and women, like me, are migrants. They fled their hometown and came to this bustling Shanghai to make a living. The house we rent is an old house, located in the suburb of Shanghai, outside the industrial park of a town, surrounded by farmland, communities, schools and streets. This house is very big. Probably a two-story two-story conjoined house in the 1980s and 1990s, with more than one wing around 10, full of people from all corners of the country. There are nearly 20 rooms, large and small, leaving two landlords to live by themselves, and the others are rented out. The house is simple, the furniture is simple, and the rental price varies from 180-300 yuan. Because it is cheap, it is very popular with people with poor economic conditions.
After the holiday, there were many people in the yard and it was very lively. They fell in front of their rented house, and some fellow villagers or relatives stopped by. There was an argument about cooking and laundry, and the children were yelling. It's noisy, but it feels a little warm.
"Aunt, are you at home?" A female voice came from downstairs. I followed the sound and saw a young girl dressed in fashion with a baby in her arms. There is a tall young man standing next to her. When they saw me, they smiled. It was a kind smile, the kind that I felt very warm after seeing it. Few people laugh like this when I wander outside.
"Ah, it's little sister!" I heard the little girl standing next to me making a noise. She waved to the two people downstairs and shouted to her room, "Mom, I'll bring my little sister up!" " "
"Xiaoya, you have guests at home again!" I looked at the little girl and asked.
"Well, my little sister is in Kunshan now, come and play today. My father picked her up. Oh, I didn't see my dad! Dad, where are you? " The little girl put her head out of the balcony to look for her father again, but she couldn't find it and ran downstairs.
My youngest daughter's family of four lives next door to me. Her parents and younger brother are both from Hubei. I call her mother Xu Jie and her father Dong Ge. My little girl 14 years old, is in junior high school here. My brother was born last year. After Xu Jie gave birth to a child, she took care of her son at home and made Taobao. Brother Dong is a sports car. They have been here for more than 20 years. We are fellow villagers and have lived together for two years. We know each other very well.
Sister Xu also came out with her son in her arms and said with a smile, "Sister Lulu, Xiao Ya's little sister, come and play this holiday."
Lulu, I remember, is the girl who came here to work after planting seedlings in her hometown not long after I lived here. She is only 24 years old and has a son over 3 years old, but she doesn't look married at all. She is young and full of energy. After coming, she huddled in a Xiaoya 1 meter-wide cot, helped her aunt and looked for a job everywhere.
Half a month later, Lulu entered the factory where she used to work. She is the eldest daughter of Dong Ge's elder sister. /kloc-When she was 0/2 years old, she came to Shanghai with her brother Dong to help her uncle take care of the older children. After taking her to school, she stayed in a small factory to work. A few years later, she went back on a blind date and married her husband in a neighboring village. Although she was born in the countryside, her husband's family is a first-class rich family, and her parents are very powerful. Her father-in-law flexibly undertook construction work in other places and organized a certain number of people.
A younger sister got married early, that is, this Dandan, saying that she married love.
Lulu's husband is tall and handsome, uneducated, but very diligent, as long as he does anything to make money.
Lulu left her son at home to take care of her mother-in-law and went out to work by herself. They want to buy a big house with shops in the town, which is expected to be more than 600 thousand. So, the whole family struggled for this goal, found a good job and lived in an apartment arranged by the company. Later, there was nothing to do on the construction site, so my husband came to work as a short-term worker, working hard at a high salary in the factory, or doing temporary work. Later Lulu came out to rent a house by herself. But she cooks by herself or with her husband. She doesn't eat at her uncle's house. She buys a lot of dishes and takes them to her uncle's house every weekend or holiday. She is a very independent and confident woman.
"Aunt, my brother is half a year old!" Dandan wants to hug Xu Jie's son. I saw that they were all happy smiling faces, and they looked so beautiful in the sunshine in May.
Dandan is taller than Lulu, thinner than Lulu, whiter than Lulu, with waist-length hair, light makeup on his face, thrush, lipstick and nail polish, and high heels on his feet. The whole dress is fashionable, youthful and beautiful, but it makes people feel that she is a little sad and unhappy and can't see happiness. Although Lulu often wears a ponytail and doesn't wear makeup, she keeps herself clean and gives people a whole person's appearance.
"Xiaofeng, how do you come to play with so many things? My aunt has everything. Don't spend money next time. " Jeff said to the man next to Danny, I looked at this tall and burly man with a child in one hand and several bags in the other. Although he is smiling, the fatigue between his eyes cannot be hidden. He looked at the child in his arms, full of love. Like Lulu's husband, tall and handsome, he smells like a farmer, his hands are rough and yellow, and he speaks boldly and loudly. "Xu Jie smiled at me, I'm a little embarrassed. Then they talked about Mandarin with strong local color. Compared with Lulu's husband, they are all from Xiangfan, and they all speak local accents.
"Let's all go into the house. Lulu and Cao Xing went shopping. They will come later. " Xu Jie called them into the house, and Xu Jie asked me to play when she came out. I didn't go, so I didn't want to disturb their party. Laughter and laughter came from time to time in the room, and occasionally two dolls cried.
Not long after, Dong Ge came back with a case of beer, and Lulu and her husband came back with food.
"Let's have a look at menstruation, little doll!" Lulu put a pile of vegetables at my feet and ran to see which child. Her husband looked at me apologetically. I quickly said, "Nothing, everything is handled here. Your aunt usually washes vegetables and clothes in this balcony corridor. " He put down his things, cleaned up quickly, washed the fish in the pond and put salt in it, then washed the shrimp, chicken and other vegetables and handled them skillfully. I watched and imagined how happy Lulu was.
When he's done, ask Lulu to come out and cook. Lulu fried several dishes and ran into the house to play. He did everything else. Xu Jie's small table lists several bowls of dishes, which are full, and my stool is also borrowed. Finally, I saw a group of them eating vegetables happily around the table, and heard several female voices and several male voices. Lulu's husband seldom makes a sound when he goes in. Most of them are Dandan's husbands crying for drinks.
After dinner, Cao Xing was busy packing chopsticks and went back to their rented house to have a rest. I heard that he caught the local train for nearly twenty hours and arrived this morning. As soon as he arrived, he went shopping with Lulu, and Lulu stayed to play. Xiaofeng came out and stood on the other side of the balcony, looking at the crowd downstairs.
"Which is Shaanxi, your hometown?" I pointed to the downstairs. In front of that house, a woman in red shoes and green clothes looked down at her daughter's homework. Through the open door, a man is lying in bed, his feet on the table watching TV.
"Shaanxi people, no!" He doesn't want to talk to me. I think he hates me. I left without saying anything and went back to my room. I went back to my room and smelled smoke. I saw him smoking through the window, which seemed very comfortable.
-2
The next afternoon, the man named Xiaofeng went to Kunshan and said that he would go to work. Danny stayed and said that he would play for a few days. Lulu went downtown and came back with an iphone in her hand as a supplementary birthday present from her husband.
In the next few days, in their spare time, everyone gathered on the balcony to bask in the sun, hug dolls and chat. A conversation between two sisters attracted me.
"Is Dawa okay at home?" Lulu asked.
"I don't answer the phone after the Chinese New Year. I don't know what her grandmother taught me Last year, she said I was not her mother. Hey! It's been three years. The baby has been lost for too long and has lost his feelings. This time, she gave birth to a baby girl. My mother-in-law was unhappy when she heard that it was a baby girl. The first child looks like a baby girl, and the whole child looks like a bitter gourd. I didn't care when I was confined, and I suffered a lot. This time, I was born outside and didn't see any complaints or worries. Hey! " Dany is holding her second daughter, full of sadness and feeling so bitter!
"It is your own death to live, and it is difficult for us to get married in such a remote place. How many people advise it is useless! " Lulu seems unable to say it again.
"It's all my fault, okay!" Whoops, Danny seems to have been poked in a sad place and began to cry.
"What are you crying about? I told you not to go. You have to go, so regret it! " Brother Dong is angry, too.
"Well, forget it, it will get better gradually in the future, just have a son!" Xu Jie some helpless.
Slowly, I also started chatting with Danny and started hugging her little daughter. She was cute, liked her and was a little beauty.
-3
It turns out that Dandan also dropped out of school early and went out to work with relatives. When I was working in Suzhou, I met my current husband. At that time, a teenage girl, with princess complex and romantic feelings, liked to watch good love novels and TV. In that monotonous and boring assembly line life, Dandan was attracted by a young man with a little romantic heart, the tall and handsome northwest guy. That man named Feng is good at pleasing girls, but he has lost his heart. Every morning, Feng sends a message to Dandan, ready to fall in love. Every morning after work, he will accompany Dandan to go shopping, watch movies, be generous, send roses, give exquisite gifts and say a lot of sentimental words, all of which show the charm of men. Dandan felt the beauty of love, lost and addicted to Feng's love network, unable to extricate himself.
They talked for a year, and Dan Dan thought he had found his own prince charming, the one who was destined to be. When Feng proposed, Dandan felt that happiness fell on her, and agreed without hesitation. She felt lucky and happy because she didn't think she was married on a blind date like her sister. She is free to fall in love, and they love each other. She is a lucky girl, and she is lucky to marry the love she wants.
After Danny promised Feng, the two moved in together. They feel very happy and live a sweet life like husband and wife. After learning that Dandan was pregnant, Feng proposed to take Dandan back to Shaanxi to get married. Dandan had to tell her family that her parents and relatives were very angry and strongly opposed after learning about it, because they didn't want their daughter to marry far away or in the remote north, where it was still very poor. It is said that many people can't get married and spend money to buy women from other places. People there are backward in thinking and extremely patriarchal. As in feudal times, the mother-in-law was in charge of the power in the family. Naturally, parents will ask about it in many ways. I don't want my daughter to really go to that place to suffer. I suggested that Dandan abort the child. She is still young, 65,438+08 years old, and she is doing well. Danny can defend his little life to the death. The crystallization of her love, she was locked up, she went on a hunger strike or self-mutilation, and went to many extremes. Dandan turned against her parents who gave birth to her and raised her, and turned against all those who came to persuade her. Everyone regretted the stubbornness of this girl who was confused by love. The parents were moved to tears, only blaming themselves for not having a good discipline. No way, they had to agree to Dandan's marriage and silently wish their daughter happiness.
Dandan was full of joy and took his parents' dowry of 50 thousand yuan to a small village in a ravine in remote Shaanxi. In addition to being full of pain, her mother's family did not receive any gifts or other things from her in-laws in Shaanxi like the local custom, so her daughter gave them away for nothing. Of course, Feng's family is very happy. Her son found a beautiful girl without spending a penny, even pregnant with a doll, with dowry money. How worthy of her mother-in-law's radiant face.
Dandan thought that after she got married, her husband's family would love her as much as her husband, and she would be loved by her parents-in-law as her sister got married, so that she could go everywhere, but nothing was like this. When her mother-in-law saw that her husband was obedient to her, she scolded her son for forgetting her mother-in-law. Everyone knew that everyone scolded her, and she also found out secretly, teaching her husband how to manage and discipline. At first, her husband didn't listen, but her mother-in-law's harsh words were listened to every day, which gradually had an impact. Mother-in-law's money is reserved for the eldest son and the second son to get married, but it costs a lot of money. The eldest son is Danny's husband's eldest brother. When they were in love, Dandan never asked and didn't know how many people there were in their family. It was not until she came to Shaanxi that she was a little blindsided. Three sons, the eldest brother is 28 years old, the second brother is 24 years old and Feng is 22 years old. Her family is poor and lives in a shabby adobe house. The three sons have worked outside for many years, never sent money to their families, and never renovated their houses. Their mother-in-law and father-in-law farm at home and grow fruits to make a living, saving about 8,000 yuan a year.
Danny is pregnant, so it is inconvenient to go out to work. Her husband stayed to take care of her, and her mother-in-law and father-in-law were too busy to take care of the traffickers and fruits, so they had to stay at home to work and take care of building a house. The three brothers * * took out 60 thousand, and Dandan's husband took care of her while looking for someone to build a house. After a long time, the new house was ready, each with four bungalows and a big room, which was simply repaired.
Dandan was relieved and his family knew what she was thinking. Finally, she doesn't have to live in a hot and humid adobe house. After she moved into the new house, a new member appeared. She is a little princess, and Danny is full of joy, but everyone is unhappy except her. She didn't know why, so she was locked in bed and wanted to eat porridge. My mother-in-law insisted on giving the batter, but she also shouted, whether she liked it or not, and then she listened. Every day, steamed buns and steamed bread are cooked in a pot, and then occasionally eat steamed bread or noodles with corn paste. She put up with it for the sake of the child, thinking that the child should be given some good special care when it comes out, but she was disappointed. Originally, she was married far away, and it was not suitable for anyone except the one who loved you. Food, clothes and shelter are completely different. In order to change it, she had to accept many strange customs. Danny really blindsided those people. Facing the cruel reality, she looked at the crystallization of her love, her infant daughter, and the husband around her who gave him the desire for love and made her desperate to marry. She lowered her head and thought, We are still young, we will be fine in the future, maybe we will move out of here and live happily.
It's been more than a year, and the child has been four months. They stayed at home and spent 50 thousand yuan she brought. My mother-in-law looked at them and saw that they might want to ask her for money. She quickly discussed: "Dandan, you should make more money while you are young. You'd better go out and find a job early. I'll take care of the children for you. You pay me a part of your salary every month to help you raise your children. You see, my aunt's daughter-in-law has just left for a month. " Dandan's husband is busy going out as soon as possible and has contacted his eldest brother and second brother in Kunshan. Dandan is reluctant to take her daughter away, and her mother-in-law and husband can't help it.
In the end, instead of going to Kunshan, they went to Guangdong and worked there for two years. One third of their wages are paid by their mother-in-law to support their granddaughters. Eldest brother spent hundreds of thousands on getting married and borrowed some money. 2 1 year-old, Dandan was pregnant again, her husband changed her account, and her sister-in-law was pregnant. My mother-in-law had to take care of her granddaughter and sister-in-law, so Dandan went to Xiangfan to have a baby, and her husband went to Kunshan to work with his brother. Hearing this, the mother-in-law was not happy to be a daughter, nor did she let her eldest daughter call her. This time, Dandan paid attention to the serious son preference there and how important it is for mothers to rely on their children.
-4
She talked about how painful it was to give birth to a child. It was death, a narrow escape, and she wanted to have a son. Who knows if the next child will be a boy or a girl? Does she want to be a fertility tool? She said she was a little sad. Many pregnant women there went to have a B-ultrasound, and found that they were girls and ran away or were forced to run away by their husbands. She said she was afraid of getting pregnant again and being a daughter again. What should I do? Smiling foolishly, he said, "What a good daughter, little cotton-padded jacket. My mother said that my daughter is a little cotton-padded jacket, intimate and warm. "
Half a month later, Dandan and his little daughter were taken to Kunshan by her husband, and they rented a four-bedroom and two-bedroom house with his two brothers. They each pay 65,438+0,000 yuan a month to live together. Dandan takes care of the children and her husband goes to work. This May Day holiday, my aunt and I went to play.
Dandan played for a week, and her husband kept calling her to come over. Brother Dong drove her back to Kunshan. When he left, he said to me, "It's better to be a family. I used to like people I would always have a relationship with. I seem to be wrong, really wrong. "
"Danny, it is brave to choose to marry love. You were right. Live well. Everything will be fine. We must live a good life with good hopes. " I patted her on the shoulder and sincerely wished her happiness in the future.
-5
One night in October, the weather was still very hot. Jeff got a call from Danny. Dandan's little daughter was scalded by boiling water. The neighbors who live together put a bottle of boiling water on the living room floor. The little girl just left. The responsible father was busy watching TV, ignoring his daughter's danger. When the child tripped over the water bottle, the water flowed out to the girl's ass, thighs, calves and feet. The girl screamed in pain until her father found out. I silently prayed for Dandan's daughter, hoping that she would be safe.
The next night, Jeff came back and said that the situation was not good. She burned her ass, thighs, calves and lower body. When she grows up, she can't wear shorts and skirts. Fortunately, she didn't hurt anywhere else. When the Dandan family was busy going to the hospital, the neighbors quickly moved away and disappeared. On the phone, Dandan's mother-in-law screamed again and scolded Dandan for not taking care of a child. After that, Dandan took care of her little daughter and did nursing, which was very hard. During the Chinese New Year, Dandan and Xu Jie went back to their parents' home and took care of their daughter for several months. Her husband asked her to work in Kunshan, and she went to work in her husband's electronics factory for the children's medical expenses.
-6.
/kloc-in the spring of 0/6, I heard from Dandan again, saying that she had been working in Wuhan.
It turned out that after Dandan went to work in Kunshan, her husband began to have doubts about her. Dandan is just a girl in her twenties. It is her age to love beauty and dress up. As soon as Dandan put on makeup and bought new clothes, she began to ask who she was dating and seduce that man. Dandan didn't say anything, but her husband didn't believe it. She secretly follows Danny every day, trying to find evidence of her infidelity. What Danny says to colleagues of the opposite sex on the road will be repeatedly questioned at home. At first, Dandan used her husband's love as an excuse and was questioned and doubted every day. After a long time, Dandan felt scared and wanted to leave, but her husband, who was suspected to be seriously ill, confiscated her wallet, bank card, ID card and even mobile phone. Once, Dandan went out to eat with his colleagues and came home very late. Her husband beat her up without asking why. She was beaten black and blue and wept bitterly.
The next day, my husband felt that he had gone too far and begged for forgiveness. Dandan went to work silently and secretly borrowed someone else's phone to call Jeff. Xu Jie didn't know what to do. After all, that's their husband and wife's time, and outsiders are not allowed to intervene. In the days that followed, Dandan was often subjected to inexplicable domestic violence by her husband. She forbeared to compromise, silently waited for the opportunity, and finally took advantage of the Chinese New Year to go to Xiangfan to get those things back and go back to her family.
After that, Dandan took her daughter to continue nursing treatment at her parents' home. Her husband didn't provide her daughter's medical expenses, and Dandan spent all her savings, so she went out to work. The husband took the opportunity to take his little daughter back to his hometown in Shaanxi and kept calling Dandan to go back, saying that his daughters missed her and Dandan would never be fooled by her husband again. She knew she would be trapped when she went back, and then it was over. When Jeff said this, we were relieved at the same time. Dandan is only 23 years old.
-7
/kloc-At the end of 0/6, when I saw Dandan again, she was younger and more beautiful than when I saw her two years ago. She has a ruddy face and doesn't need to wear a lot of rouge as before. Her skin is smooth, her eyes are sparkling, full of confidence and happiness. She said: "I spent 6000 yuan to learn dream makeup for three months, and I have a certificate." This has always been my dream. "
I said, "it's amazing, and then a master was born!" " In the future, I will introduce you to my clients. The cosmetic industry is still quite promising. I'll give you the news of decades of makeup. I've met a promising girl. "
Dandan said, "I just started this course and have no experience. Now I have to support myself first, do general work in the factory first, and then make plans when I have savings, hehe! "
I am very supportive of her. I asked, "Where are the children?"
"ah! Marriage means divorce. The child wants a little girl, preferably. The older one is Hue. You only hate me. Save money first, find a lawyer to go to court, and see if there is any hope? " Danny is a little sad and uncertain.
"I hope that as you wish, you are now in the prime of life, you still have a good life, your previous experience is also a fortune, and your new life will be very good and happy." I sincerely wish her well.
During the Spring Festival this year, Dandan came to menstruation's home from Hangzhou and wanted to stay and work in Shanghai, but all the better companies were full. I suggested that she go to Kunshan and work in my former electronics factory. She said that her husband who didn't want a divorce was there, but she didn't go. Dandan failed to apply for a divorce, entrusted a lawyer to file a lawsuit, and had no money. The baby said that couples can divorce automatically after two years' separation, but she said it was impossible.
Finally, without finding a suitable job, Dandan returned to his hometown in Xiangfan. It is said that he is in real estate sales, and the salary there is not bad.
This is the end of the story. I asked Dandan if she could record her story, and she said with a wry smile, "Good! Youth is happy and painful. I just regret marrying love. I failed a good young man. "
Dandan, eager to be young, married love with the beautiful heart of a girl. Unfortunately, the marriage with love is only a moment, and it did not bring her the happiness she wanted as scheduled. Although she didn't see everything clearly at first, and suffered some undeserved setbacks and sadness, she was still young. The short marriage has made her learn a lot and grow a lot, and her future choices will only get better and better. Metamorphosis is inevitable, just like the metamorphosis of silkworm, it will break out of cocoon and give birth to beautiful wings.
Dandan's sister Lulu has gone home and bought the house as she wished. She took care of the children at home and started a small business. She didn't choose to marry love, but married life really gave her the best love, a lovely son, a husband who loved her as a treasure, a pair of in-laws who tried their best to help her live, and a stable and peaceful well-off family.
This is a character story written last year. I added some today and insisted on writing every day.
PS: When writing, listening to the beautiful flute from the dormitory building opposite, I feel that life is really beautiful!
A quiet night in the wilderness, an island, and a flute player. Good night, see you tomorrow!