I have asked many people who regard "self-discipline" as the Bible, but no one can completely answer the same question.

In our time, "you should be self-disciplined" seems to be the only methodology for everyone to succeed. Everyone follows the online public opinion and holds high the banner of "self-discipline army" for fear of falling behind.

However, everyone is urging you to be self-disciplined, but no one has ever told you the essence of self-discipline

Get up at 6 o'clock in the morning and study with a yawn, and can't concentrate all day;

Lunch break at noon was used to improve reading, and I almost fell asleep at the workstation several times in the afternoon;

Have coffee in the afternoon 10, and go for a long-distance run. As a result, I was sore all over the next day and couldn't get out of bed. ....

They always use the seemingly most self-disciplined actions in exchange for the worst health and the most anxious mood.

So today, I want to talk to you in depth: the biggest lie I have ever heard: you should be self-disciplined.

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Almost everyone is telling you to be self-disciplined, but I want to say:

People who tell you to be self-disciplined may not have any bad intentions, but they really can't help you.

Because they don't even know what self-discipline is, and no one tells you why. They just tell you to suffer, work hard and lose weight.

Go to bed late and get up at 5 o'clock. Who won't suffer?

The big deal is to work overtime until midnight 10. Who won't work hard?

Who won't lose weight after running 5 kilometers in the morning?

All the methods they give you to improve self-discipline, all kinds of self-discipline codes of conduct, are teaching you to pretend. These are just the appearances of self-discipline.

The reason why you can't find the problem is that this way of action is low in cost, but it can give you enough sense of gain.

But why are you so miserable?

What are you working so hard for?

What is it for to lose weight desperately?

I can't even find the meaning of doing this. How can I persist?

And as long as you can't persevere, there will be serious problems:

It will constantly wear away your self-confidence, consume your mental and physical strength, and at the same time, it is likely to make you have serious self-doubt and even self-degradation.

If I can't lose weight, can't I control my greed?

Can't get up early on weekends and overcome laziness?

Did you find out?

People who ask you to be self-disciplined often just tell you how to do it.

But the most essential and core "why", they often won't tell you.

Therefore, the more self-disciplined you are, the more you will be trapped in this network and constantly deny yourself, the less likely you will be to be self-disciplined.

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To put it bluntly, so many people want to be self-disciplined just because they believe the fallacy on the Internet, and self-discipline is the standard of a successful life.

But I want to tell you:

Self-discipline is not necessarily related to success.

If you emphasize self-discipline, you will never succeed in this life.

Even in the end, I can't find the reason for my failure.

Many people give themselves chicken blood, be self-disciplined, be successful, and don't be a basket case.

Ok, reduce sleep time, get rid of entertainment, squeeze out all the time to study, work overtime, and live like an intelligent AI.

Then such efforts brought them one unqualified medical report after another, which didn't help them in their work and life.

Because in their cognition:

Hard work = self-discipline. As long as I work hard enough and have enough self-discipline, I can marry Bai and go to the peak of my life. ......

However, if we only look at hard work, those workers who are squeezed by their bosses every day should be the most successful.

They crowded the subway every morning, worked overtime until eleven or twelve in the evening, and telecommuted on weekends. They can reply to work emails at any time when they turn on their mobile phones during the holidays. Don't they work hard?

They never feel the sense of accomplishment brought by work, because life has to find this job.

Life forced me to listen to my boss;

Forced by life, they have to leave early and return late, but they dare not leave their jobs. Don't they work hard?

Effort equals self-discipline and self-discipline equals success. This is the biggest poisonous chicken soup in this century.

Those comments on the Internet:

What is self-discipline to desire?

Self-disciplined people are people who know how to control their desires?

Too poisonous chicken soup.

If someone around you tells you this, ask him: the difference between suppressing desire and self-abuse.

He can't answer because that's what makes you torture yourself.

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Self-discipline is just a wrapped noun.

The self-disciplined people you see are not self-disciplined, let alone suppress their own desires and live an ascetic life.

On the contrary, they can persist because they are full of desires, and they especially enjoy the process of satisfying their desires:

Are those who insist on going to the gym to press iron every year self-disciplined?

No, it's because they pursue the body and enjoy the praise of others;

Is it self-discipline for those entrepreneurial elites to get up at 6 o'clock every day to watch the news and devote themselves to their careers all year round?

No, because they pursue their careers and enjoy the process of wealth accumulation;

Do the top students and Wang Juan who study all night in the dormitory survive by self-discipline?

Of course not, because they want to get high marks and scholarships. ......

Don't run away from desires, don't be afraid of desires, and don't be ashamed because you have various desires;

On the contrary, you should respect every desire that appears and find a higher desire to push you.

Several colleagues in our company who are in charge of visiting stores in Tik Tok just come to the company to get a camera every day and shoot videos outside the rest of the time.

Even if our working hours are 10, these people can come to the company at 8 o'clock to shoot a video.

Are they self-disciplined? Of course not:

They said that every day, they can earn promotion fees by thinking that businesses will let them eat and drink for free. They can't wait to go to the store for three meals a day, and even give themselves a snack.

Many people think that people who do new media insist on making content every day is very self-disciplined. In fact, only positive feedback comes much faster than other industries.

If you post a content, you will get opinions and attention, and you will get favorable comments from fans. What self-discipline is needed when the reward mechanism comes so quickly?

What you see is that they can resist the desire to play games, brush dramas and go shopping. In fact, it's just that for them, eating and drinking for free is much better than playing drama and playing games, that's all.

Find your highest desire, invest time and do what you love, and you will naturally be self-disciplined.

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Therefore, most of what we need is not self-discipline at all.

Instead, face up to your own desires, respect your own desires, find a higher-order desire, and make it the source of your progress.

The so-called self-discipline of many people is either to suppress their own desires or to squeeze out all the time to work hard:

For example, no more sweets and entertainment software, all I can think about is study and work. ......

Every ten days and a half, they can't hold on. Is it their problem?

No, this way.

Such self-discipline is deformed.

And the reason why you can't keep trying so many ways is precisely because those abnormal self-discipline have hurt you;

You try to bind the beast of desire by force, but it eats you back, so you will never be self-disciplined and always feel frustrated.