"There is nothing wrong with you, but you haven't met the right person."
In fact, I have always wondered who invented the concept of "the right person". It's like a powerful sedative. When you are frustrated, lonely, confused and helpless, drinking this bowl of chicken soup will make you feel that you have found psychological comfort and happiness is beckoning. However, this is just an illusion after injecting drugs. The image of the "right person" is too abstract and illusory. He may be a passerby who just passed you by, or an unborn baby in a corner of the world. He may appear in your life tomorrow, or he may live in seclusion in the mountains and forests all his life, so that you can't find him. Therefore, instead of looking forward to an unknown existence, it is better to cherish the present. Everyone in this world is unique, and no one is tailor-made for whom. Two rough stones can be polished into beautiful jade, and two people can work together to achieve a good marriage. When you are looking for the "right person", you should also ask yourself, are you qualified to be the "right person" in others' hearts? If you can't be the "right person" in other people's minds, then even if you meet the "right person" you want, you can't seize the opportunity.
If you have to believe that your so-called "right person" will be a hero in the world, he will come to see you in a dazzling manner, wearing a golden robe and stepping on colorful auspicious clouds, then you can continue to wait slowly.
You just haven't met the right person-an 80-year-old single man said.
"At the age of 20, you won't spend a few months' salary to buy clothes you like. At the age of 30, it is not too expensive, but it is no longer suitable. "
Don't you see that these views are all about merchants encouraging you to shop and spend, stimulating domestic demand and contributing to GDP through soft writing? Why do merchants advocate men to buy lipstick for women? To promote the sales of lipstick. Why does the media use the number of WeChat red envelopes as a benchmark for feelings? For the benefit of the enterprise (I will be convinced when I can see the real estate license in my circle of friends on holidays). If you have money, you should eat and drink in buy buy, buy buy. You can't wronged yourself without money. When you can't afford the money, you are worthless to the merchants. What "a woman should be willing to spend money for herself" and "a gift from a man on holidays is true love" are essentially irresponsible propaganda slogans and moral kidnapping. After all, after satisfying the desire to buy, the credit card is overdrawn, and you still have to pay it yourself. You think you know love, but in fact you have no idea what love is like. All your love knowledge is the result of marketing by major companies. Do you think the love praised in TV series, pop songs and commercial advertisements is true love? Then you may be really pure and unpretentious. True love is actually very simple and ordinary. It happens right next to you. Look at your parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts, and you will know what love is like in life. Sometimes, it may only taste a little more than boiled water.
Ok, back to the original question, forgive me and be honest, but will the clothes you saw at the age of 20 really be seen at the age of 30? If so, it can only show that your aesthetic level has remained ten years ago and has not improved.
"You must marry the man who treats you like a princess."
This is a very popular sentence on the official WeChat account recently, a big chicken soup. At first glance, it seems that people feel very happy, and the social status of women in China has improved! Every woman should be a little princess full of stars and moons! However, on second thought, there seems to be something wrong with this sentence. First of all, a real princess doesn't need to emphasize her identity. People who are used to princess life have long been used to it and despise the pursuit of others. Then, in fact, only those who have a princess dream without a princess life will concentrate on living like a princess. However, the fact is that you have neither the life nor the potential to be a princess. When you ask others to treat you as a princess, do you treat them as a prince? You want to be a princess, but you treat others as servants. If you don't even understand basic equality and respect, then your princess dream will always be just a spring dream.
Wake up, in fact, the reality is that you are not a princess and he is not a prince. You may just be an ordinary peasant woman.
"Time management makes a successful life."
Time management is a very scientific concept. It can improve our life efficiency, improve our living habits and make rational use of time management, which can really help our life become more efficient and full. However, many chicken soup articles overemphasize the role of time management, ignoring that people are people, life, not machines. We can't run according to the written program code, we are not clockwork, we are not products on the production line. People need to relax, breathe and live a free and flexible life. Excessive self-discipline will suppress your real needs, but it will cause greater psychological pressure and more life problems.
Just like breathing, you should not only inhale, but also exhale. If you just inhale and don't exhale for too long, it's like blowing a balloon, and it's not far from the original explosion.
"Reading and fitness is a universal magic weapon for self-improvement."
Reading is a good thing, so is fitness. Maybe reading and fitness can't solve all the problems. Many people's problems are social environment problems, and the problem of family background is their own personality problems. These problems cannot be solved by reading and fitness. Moreover, what kind of books do you read when reading, and what kind of exercise do you do when exercising? Not everyone is suitable for reading and fitness, just as not everyone is suitable for the examiner to be a teacher. Not every book and every sport is suitable for everyone, just as not every disease can be treated by western medicine. Therefore, the most important thing to improve yourself is to prescribe the right medicine. The premise of the right medicine is to know yourself. If you blindly follow the trend without knowing where your problems are, the result may bring greater burden and pressure to your life.
You will be extremely embarrassed by achieving the so-called "Excellence". For example, the more books you read, the more stupid you are, and the more meat you lose.
"Women chasing men is fall in price's problem."
When you measure yourself by value, you are just a commodity, and no matter what is valuable, you are just an expensive commodity. Therefore, please don't use the word "falling price" to judge the meaning of an action. The starting point of all actions should be whether you are willing, whether you are willing, and whether you will regret it in the future. While shouting equality between men and women, you expect Aidit to wait for the pursuit of others in a high-profile manner; You call a man unreliable, but at the same time give him the right to choose happiness. Obviously, you are so fond of tossing and turning that you are ashamed to take the initiative to be nice. If this goes on, you may really die alone. Dear middle-aged and elderly babies, please take action to implement gender equality. Pursuing happiness and love is everyone's innate right and instinct, not a man's patent.
Don't think of yourself as a hunter's prey. Women can also be good hunters if you like.
Many articles like to throw an idea in the title of the article, and then give an example to illustrate it. Finally, it comes to the conclusion that this narrative and argumentative writing method is very readable, which not only meets the needs of the public to learn new ideas in their busy lives, but also meets the mentality of reading stories after dinner. And some stories of colleague A, classmate B, relative C and friend D are just carefully arranged stories by the author. Not only is the plot exaggerated, but the authenticity of the content remains to be verified. So these stories themselves are not representative and extensive, and these views are not all suitable for everyone's life. Some articles that make people feel suddenly enlightened after reading them are mostly arsenic chicken soup. Drinking too much will not only make you addicted, but also lose the ability to think independently.