To tell the truth, it would be more reasonable if people could have the above thoughts and wishes in their later years. After all, no old man would want his old age to be miserable, but the real problem now is that many of us really live a happy old age every day after we get old, surrounded by children and grandchildren, filial piety and calmness. Now we still have a large number of elderly people in their old age. At this time, an 80-year-old man gave his advice: If you want to spend your old age happily, you might as well write down these four rules!
I am 80 years old, and now many of my peers praise me more often after seeing me. It's just that they praised me, not because I am old, nor because I have a high pension. Although I am just an ordinary old man now, there is nothing extraordinary, but I am living very, very well now. I can describe it as happiness and comfort.
At this time, I'm afraid some of us will say that you lived so well in your old age, it must be your good fortune or your good luck. But from the bottom of my heart, this is not the truth at all. The reason why I can live this old age now is because I did and did the following things a long time ago. Maybe this is what many of us often do.
First, don't spoil children too much, but cultivate their sense of responsibility.
When some of our old people are young, they always feel that their children are too young to do anything. For them, this is often a kind of doting psychology. Even if the children have grown up and got married, they still don't know how to let go, that is, they still "do their best" for their children and are unwilling to let go.
On the other hand, I don't do this. When my three children grew up, I never cared about the big and small things at home. Everything is up to me, but more often, I put things out and listen to my three children's detailed views and attitudes on this matter, so that my three children can participate more.
Since then, the three children have not only become more and more mature, but also become more and more responsible and responsible, which has made me less worried. As a result, after I was old, my three children never worried me, worried me. On the contrary, they still think about me every day.
Since my wife died, I have been living alone, but I have never felt lonely and lonely, because my three children usually come to visit me at home when they are free, and there is nothing to do at home. I don't have to speak at all. Anyone who reads it will do it for me, which makes me just need to enjoy myself more.
Second, children should be treated "equally" at all times, and no one can be partial.
Some of our old people have the wrong idea of "son preference" at a very young age. Even after children grow up, they still have the foolish idea of attaching importance to capable children and despising incompetent children. In doing so, the old people not only hurt their children's self-esteem to a certain extent, but also hurt their relationship invisibly.
I have two daughters, a son and three children, but when I was young, one night was always equal. I will never give him more benefits just because he is a son, but she is a daughter, so I will give her less benefits. I've never done anything so wrong.
When the three children grew up, the youngest son started a company and became the boss, the eldest daughter was an executive of a listed company, and the second daughter was just an ordinary office worker. Obviously, the second daughter is not very good in all aspects, but even so, the status of the three children in my mind is always the same.
Even sometimes, my wife and I will help my second daughter a little more because she is not doing well. No matter who comes to my house at ordinary times, I have the same hospitality specifications. At the same time, in front of outsiders, I will never say which child is capable and which child is not. All I can say is that all three children are fine.
Third, we must leave a way out for ourselves and understand the importance of saving money.
Some of our old people always feel that their children are especially filial to themselves, so when they get old, their children will certainly try their best to provide for the elderly. Therefore, there is no need to think about other things when they are here at ordinary times. On the contrary, more often, how happy they are and how to live comfortably.
In fact, some of our old people have this idea in their hearts, which is not only wrong, but also dangerous. We old people should always understand a truth, that is, no matter who we rely on, it is better to rely on ourselves. Children's usual filial piety may be based on the health of the elderly, but once the elderly are sick or unable to take care of themselves, who can guarantee that their children will be filial?
It is precisely because I understood this truth very early that I left myself a posterior approach very early. To put it bluntly, I have begun to save money for myself slowly. After many years, I now have hundreds of thousands of deposits in my hand. With this money, I feel particularly practical every day.
I needed to be hospitalized for surgery last year for physical reasons. During this period, I didn't ask my three children to share the cost of the operation, nor did I ask my three children to take turns to take care of me. I didn't say I would pay for the operation myself, but I also paid a nurse to wait on me. If I can do it myself, I will never disturb my children too much.
Fourth, pay attention to your health, suffer less in your later years and worry less about your children.
Although it is normal and inevitable that we old people will have various problems in most cases when we are old, if we old people can develop a good life rule and actively pay attention to our health in peacetime, then the probability of getting sick in our old age will be greatly reduced.
When I was young, I never had any bad "bad habits", and I actively took time out to exercise, because I knew the importance of a good body, because when I was young, my body was basically excellent, and I hardly had any serious illness, even when I was old.
Only this time is mainly to take care of the body, supplemented by exercise. Although I am over 80 years old now, there are basically no other major health problems except some common senile diseases. On the contrary, many old people my age are either sick in bed or in wheelchairs.
Now I am basically healthy. I can not only avoid serious diseases, but also take care of myself completely. Of course, the most important thing is that I can let my children worry less without disturbing them. I know very well in my heart that what I am now is more often brought to me by my healthy body.
After listening to the story of 80-year-old Uncle Zhao, I really benefited a lot. As Uncle Zhao said in this article, sometimes, some of our old people live happily in their later years. This is not to say that the old man is lucky, or that his life is good. On the contrary, it is because our old people put all the right and useful things a long time ago. That's what I mean, and in fact it is. Otherwise, Uncle Zhao's later life will certainly not be envied by so many old people, which proves that no matter when we are happy in our later years, we need to "create" ourselves, and it is by no means in vain.
Therefore, when people are old, we old people hope to live a happy old age. More often, we old people must do the following four things. Old people should not "spoil" their children, but cultivate their sense of responsibility and responsibility. In this way, our children can not only shoulder the burden of family life, but also rely on them when they are old and need help. The old man is always impartial to his children, so that the relationship between the old man and his children can be effectively maintained, and so that the children will do their best to support us old people. Old people usually save more money for themselves, which not only firmly grasps the initiative of providing for the elderly in their later years, but also helps their children to some extent. Old people attach importance to their health. In addition to less suffering from diseases and improving the quality of life, it can also make children worry less and have multiple purposes. So you think it's true?