First, the way to seek happiness: happiness is that you take the initiative to find and create, so that you will find happiness everywhere. For example, helping others, making friends, exercising, working, studying, calligraphy, dancing, planting flowers, fishing, playing chess and so on.

Second, the method of self-measurement: a person should have self-knowledge, both self-esteem and inferiority, and don't try to be brave, so that his mentality is always in a peaceful and stable state.

Third, masturbation method: when you encounter unpleasant things in life, others can't help you. It is best to comfort ourselves, sum up experience and lessons, find out the key to the problem and take correct measures to turn unhappiness into happiness.

Fourth, forbearance method: As the saying goes, forbearance is temporary, so as not to worry for a hundred days, and it is not stupid to suffer losses, which makes people not obsessed, distracting and enjoying life.

5. Adaptation method: everything should conform to nature, so that one's psychology can adapt to the changed new situation and new role as soon as possible, and avoid psychological conflicts.

6. Forgiveness: Forgive others by forgiving yourself, and blame yourself by blaming others. Uniting with people who disagree with you is called taking pleasure in leniency.

Seven, heart-to-heart method: When you are upset or unhappy because you can't figure it out, don't stay in your stomach, find your own good friends to confide in each other and inspire each other, and your mood will be comfortable.

Eight, understanding method: be good at understanding, in order to live in harmony with others, understand others, others can understand you, mutual understanding is happiness, this is joy.

Nine, transfer method: life is inevitably unsatisfactory. In this case, you can do something else or leave this environment. Divert your emotions and attention by doing other things.

Ten, cultivate the mind: a person's heart should be just, selfless, helpful, respectful of others, do nothing wrong, and naturally get praise and respect from the masses, and friends will naturally be willing to help you.

1 1. Humor method: Keep in touch with people who like humor, learn humor, or watch cartoons, jokes, comedies, humorous sketches, clown performances of acrobatic troupes, and listen to cross talk more when you are upset, which will produce beneficial laughter. You can't live without laughter. Elegant laughter can benefit your brain, strengthen your heart and prolong your life.