-Krupskaya
Once material stimulation becomes the main incentive means in family education, children will be psychologically distorted.
The orientation of this incentive model is based on obtaining material rewards. We know that people's greed is endless, and children will not be satisfied no matter how many material rewards they get in the process of growing up. As a result, in the reward again and again, children's demand for material things is getting stronger and stronger, and the psychological ladder effect appears: after satisfying the low-level desire, they have a high-level desire.
One of the most important reasons why the material incentive mode leads to the psychological state characterized by ladder effect is the vague will of wealth.
Wealth can satisfy the owner spiritually. When our children get money from their parents and spend it according to their own wishes, they get great pleasure in spirit, as does the material stimulation with physical objects as prizes. However, there is no long-term stimulating mechanism for this kind of pleasure gained by consumption-when children finish consuming, the sense of satisfaction will soon disappear, thus triggering a new round of consumption desire.
According to the results of physiological research, there is a special area in the human brain. When our activities just stimulate this area, the brain will secrete a substance called dopamine, which constitutes the primary driving force for pleasure.
However, this substance is unstable, it can only stay in the human body for a short time, and then it will decompose. When we want to experience a new round of pleasure, we must stimulate this area of the brain again, so repeatedly and endlessly.
Judging from this result, this stimulation mechanism is no different from online games, alcohol, nicotine and even drugs, and it is short-lived, repetitive and increasing.
We have seen that under the reward mechanism of material stimulation, when children reach the goals set by their parents and get the rewards promised by their parents, they often show spiritual pleasure, but often this pleasure will disappear without a trace after only a few days.
At this time, what our parents can do is to set new goals for their children and ignite their new excitement with higher-level material stimulation.
Just like taking drugs, the same dose of stimulation and repeated use can't achieve the original effect. The only way is to constantly increase the dose; The same level of material stimulation, the expanding desire for children, can not produce the original incentive effect. Therefore, parents must constantly improve the gold content of material stimulation.
For most families in China, the material conditions that can be provided for their children are limited. One day, children's desires will swell to an unsustainable height. In this way, parents will no longer be able to meet this requirement, and naturally they will not be able to fulfill their promises to their children.
When this day comes, it is bound to be a major setback for family education.