Effective communication methods between parents and teachers;
First, pay attention to the ways and means of communication with teachers.
Parents should be positive, and contact should be timely and appropriate. Some parents mistakenly think that taking the initiative to contact the teacher will disturb the work and life of the teacher, fearing that the teacher will not welcome them. In fact, it is more convenient for parents to contact teachers actively, because a teacher has to face dozens of students, and it takes a lot of time to go home to visit one by one. Parents can take the initiative to learn a lot of important information and discuss educational methods, which is what parents and teachers are willing to do. Always keep in touch, don't wait until the problems pile up or get serious before you force yourself to go to school. Contact should be timely and appropriate, according to the child's situation, but also respect the teacher's opinion. Too frequent contact is unnecessary, and too long an interval will not achieve the effect.
Second, communicate with teachers rationally and wisely.
Parents should be calm when the teacher reflects their children's problems. Children are bound to make mistakes at school, and the teacher informs parents to pay attention to correcting them at home. If parents scold their children on the spot, they will not only fail to achieve the purpose of education, but may also make their children dislike schools and teachers. Parents should make a detailed analysis of the teacher's point of view and fully affirm the teacher's education and help to their children. Of course, teachers are human beings, and teachers make mistakes. Parents don't have to listen to what they say, they can analyze their children's actual situation and try to make teachers aware of their mistakes. In order to escape punishment, children sometimes send wrong messages, and parents should communicate with school teachers in time. If the communication channels are unblocked, they will know the real situation of their children and will not be smart.
Third, learn to communicate in various ways.
Including face-to-face, telephone communication, WeChat communication, e-mail communication and so on. In order to achieve the purpose of frequent communication with teachers.
4. Willing to undertake what you need to do.
Teachers may already feel heavy about the existing workload. To tell the truth, some teachers will find it challenging to add one more thing to their full work schedule. You need to make sure that teachers know that you are willing to cooperate with their work and support them at home.
Fifth, become allies with teachers.
You and your child's teacher should be partners, not rivals. Try to establish a relationship through some informal chat. If you complain or keep attacking your child's teacher every time you meet him, the teacher will start to avoid you or guard against you. Please don't forget that you and the teacher have the same goal, that is to help your children.
6. Don't be arrogant to the teacher.
First of all, be sure of the teacher. Teachers are also under pressure to be seen by others. If you are good at discovering the teacher's advantages and praise and recognize him as soon as you meet him, he will have a good impression on you, make the teacher happy and feel important, and then he will be willing to communicate his shortcomings.
Tell the teacher that you and your children trust him very much.
Trust is very important to teachers. We don't usually teach doctors how to see a doctor, but we often tell teachers how to educate children. Teachers want their major to be recognized, not only by parents, but also by children.
Eight, use positive language when evaluating children.
The way parents talk about children's problems will greatly affect teachers' views on children. For example, the teacher reflects that your child likes to talk in class. You can admit the problem, but at the same time explain it in a positive way: "My son really likes to express himself. When we are at home, we are also trying to set rules for him, hoping that he can be more self-controlled. Teacher, do you have any good suggestions? " But if you just respond, "Yes, my son is really in trouble." As for the type of question you suggested, he will think that the child is really difficult to discipline. If negative comments gradually become labels, teachers may no longer be willing to bother to discipline children.
Talk to the teacher concisely, not at length.
Sometimes after the parent-teacher conference, many parents want to meet the teacher at last and talk to the teacher about their children. But some parents always pester the teacher to talk endlessly, but they still can't get to the point. Once, a parent talked with the teacher for a long time, and the teacher asked, "What do you want me to do?" It not only delayed the time of teachers and everyone, but also failed to solve the problem in the end. To tell the truth, there are dozens of children in each class, and it is impossible for teachers to pay attention to all the problems of each child. Parents communicate with teachers, on the one hand, to attract teachers' attention to their children, on the other hand, to concentrate on their studies, so as to be effective.
Think about what to say before you go to the teacher.
Every time I communicate with my teacher, I prepare lessons in my mind and think about what I want to say. Teachers have to take care of so many children every day, and time is limited. Therefore, before calling the teacher, he always goes over what he wants to express first, and even writes the questions to be asked on a piece of paper, which neither wastes time nor misses the key points.
Communicate with the teacher, not instruct the teacher's teaching.
Some parents are very thoughtful. When chatting with their teachers, they are always given many specific suggestions on how to teach, which is undoubtedly interfering with their teaching activities. Teaching has a syllabus, and each teacher has his own set of methods formed over the years. Parents give advice to teachers in teaching, and sometimes teachers will accept it in a friendly way to take care of their parents' face, but in fact, most teachers are resistant and think that parents' hands are too long. Naturally, most teachers are good, so they won't leave a bad impression on children, but it doesn't rule out that some teachers are of poor quality, which will pass on the bad impression on parents to children and have a bad influence on children's learning.
12. Don't treat guests and give gifts, and communicate with a sincere and natural attitude.
As a result of communicating with many parents from all over the country, I learned that the atmosphere in some places is really not good enough, and even the phenomenon of buy buy seats has appeared, which is surprising. It is the duty of education to guide children and communicate with parents. As I said before, it's best to organize if there is a problem. However, some parents will always think of other ways, such as bringing gifts to the class teacher's house, and the class teacher is very helpless. Undeniably, there will be very few class teachers who will accept parents' invitation to dinner, but the vast majority will not. Moreover, the class teacher works very hard and often has little time at home. At this time, the arrival of his parents is undoubtedly an impact on his life.
Thirteen, pay attention to the first parent-teacher conference.
In order to establish a preliminary communication platform for teachers and parents, the school will organize the first parent-teacher conference soon after the general freshmen enter school. At this parent-teacher meeting, the new class teacher will generally introduce himself and the class briefly. You must not miss this parent-teacher meeting. Through this parent-teacher meeting, you will have an overall evaluation of the teacher's temperament and style, and you will grasp the discretion in future exchanges.
Communication between kindergarten parents and teachers;
When communicating with teachers, communicate with respect and don't always complain. Since you send your children to kindergarten, you should give the teacher 100% trust. When communicating with them, it is the best choice to call them teachers, including life teachers. Please don't call them aunt! Respecting teachers also includes respecting teachers' private time. You should know that teachers are a profession and a job, and they also have their own time and freedom. They are not 24-hour nannies and private housekeepers hired by their parents, so don't contact teachers in the middle of the night. In addition, when communicating with teachers, parents should keep a relaxed atmosphere. They should not be afraid of offending others carefully, nor be arrogant and arbitrary.
The most taboo for teachers is that children have problems before meeting their parents. Parents are busy and stressed, but we should also do a good job of communication at ordinary times, and don't wait until we find problems to ask the teacher angrily. Usually, communicating with teachers more about children's performance at home can help teachers better understand your children, educate them according to their situation, and let parents know their children's performance in the garden, and make some concrete improvements at home in view of their shortcomings. These communication should be carried out at ordinary times, instead of waiting until the child hits someone in kindergarten, stops eating in kindergarten, and wets his pants in kindergarten before asking the teacher:
1. Why didn't anyone remind our children?
2. Why not pay more attention to my children?
3. Why are there so many problems when children are handed over to kindergartens?
Many parents like to communicate with teachers when they enter or leave the park, because they can get in touch with teachers at these two time points, but these two time points are not good opportunities for communication! Because these two hours are also very busy for teachers, teachers need to pay attention to every child, guide them out of the park, greet every parent, ensure that every child is in the hands of parents, and there is not much time to communicate with parents in depth. Therefore, if parents want to communicate with the teacher, they can stay alone for a while after leaving the park and spend more than ten minutes face-to-face with the teacher to understand the current situation of their children in kindergarten. If parents are busy and can't communicate face to face with the teacher, they can also communicate with the teacher by phone or WeChat.
Note: When communicating by phone or WeChat, you'd better ask first: Teacher, I want to talk to you about your child's recent situation in kindergarten. What time is convenient for you? Communicate with the teacher in detail when the teacher is free. Not too long. Twenty minutes is enough, because you also take up the teacher's private time.
Describe the child truthfully:
Parents should not be afraid to expose their children's shortcomings or praise them too much. It is true that children are getting smarter now, and every parent thinks their children are the best. But teachers are responsible for dozens of children in a class. Who should be praised for being clever? So just communicate with the teacher and truthfully reflect the situation. You know, many children behave completely differently at home and in kindergarten. Only a true description can help both sides understand their children better. Teachers can guide children more comprehensively and objectively by knowing their real performance at home. For example, if a child is picky about food at home, let the teacher take advantage of the opportunity to eat with everyone in kindergarten to help the child change. For another example, children behave well at home, especially like reading books, reviewing classroom knowledge seriously, and doing things by themselves. You can also communicate with teachers and get praise and encouragement. In the communication with teachers, we can also ask teachers how to better train children at home according to their performance in kindergarten, so as to realize home-school education.
Control your emotions and don't be preconceived;
Parents with high emotional intelligence will control their emotions when chatting with teachers, and will not be preconceived. For example, the teacher called, "Is it convenient for you to come to school this afternoon?" ? Talk about your children. "Parents with high emotional intelligence will not think that their children have done anything wrong or control their emotions when they hear about their children. They will call the teacher soon and start talking now. Because of this kind of tossing, it may disturb the teacher to do other things and make things that are more convenient for face-to-face communication more complicated. Once the teacher is tired of communicating with parents, the education of children is not good, and it is difficult for children's grades to get the help of parents and go up a storey still higher.
Have your own opinions, don't follow the teacher in everything;
Some parents chat with teachers, mostly in this form of dialogue. The teacher said, "Your child had a fight with his classmates today", and the parents immediately replied, "I'm sorry, this child is really naughty. Never mind, don't ask me. If you should fight, you should be punished. Our parents have no problem ... ". This form of chat seems that parents have 100% trust in their teachers, but they are actually shirking their responsibilities. Their children don't care, just let the teacher take care of them. This kind of chatting will make teachers feel very stressed, and it is not good for educating children. Parents with high emotional intelligence will have their own opinions when chatting with teachers, and will not follow the teacher in everything. They will ask about the cause and effect of things and discuss with teachers how to educate children well. Giving children timely education helps to improve their academic performance.
Talk more about children's performance in school, not about birth and family background;
Some parents may have higher social status. When chatting with teachers in private, they will intentionally or unintentionally reveal their children's origins and family background, suggesting that teachers usually pay more attention. However, parents with high emotional intelligence never chat with teachers like this. They only talk about their children's performance at school, not about their origins and family background. Because teachers are engaged in education, most teachers have the spirit of sacrifice and dedication. Parents and teachers talk about relationships and interests, and they are likely to be disgusted by teachers. Moreover, for children, what they need is not a doting teacher, but a teacher who can really educate him. Otherwise, they will not go far on the road of learning and their grades will be difficult to improve.
Parents should correctly and sincerely express their feelings and avoid negative emotions:
Teachers are human beings, eating and drinking Lazar and secular desires, so the rules of communication with ordinary people are universal. When a parent and a teacher communicate sincerely, the teacher can feel this sincerity. Parents of freshmen are prone to anxiety. Children will inevitably have problems during the adaptation period, and parents are eager to help their children solve them but can't start, so anxiety arises. Once anxiety occurs, it will lead to negative emotions. I met a new mother whose daughter is introverted and quiet. The deskmate is a lively boy who often plays tricks on her daughter. After a week of school, my daughter cried and refused to go to school, saying that her deskmate would bully her. My mother got angry when she heard it. On the one hand, she felt distressed. On the other hand, she wondered how the teacher arranged such a deskmate for my daughter. She called the teacher and said that if the deskmate is not good, it will affect the children's study. Can you change it? The teacher said that the deskmate is arranged according to height and eyesight, and it is usually changed once a semester. The new mother is even more angry, wondering why the teacher is so unreliable. My daughter cried and refused to go to school, which has not been solved. If my mother continues to communicate with the teacher in this way, she is bound to think that the teacher is irresponsible with emotion. Later, she accepted my suggestion. Let go of the prejudice against the teacher, talk about the problems existing in the communication between the daughter and the deskmate, and how the daughter feels after returning home, and sincerely express a mother's concern for her children. The next day at school, the teacher paid attention to the communication between her daughter and her deskmate and chatted with her deskmate. It turns out that my deskmate is very lively. She told her daughter several times, but she didn't respond. He would move her hair and pull her clothes to attract her attention. The teacher made appropriate intervention, and the communication between the two deskmates was much better. My daughter went to school happily, and my mother was relieved. She called the teacher back and said that she was too anxious before, and she was afraid that her daughter would suffer, so she directly asked for a seat change. Therefore, parents should first learn to express their ideas correctly and communicate sincerely. Once they are found to have emotions, they should stop temporarily. You know, if parents' negative emotions breed, it is easy to have conflicts with teachers. Whether the conflict is fierce or not, it must be our children who are affected.
Keep a proper distance and don't disturb too much;
Some parents want to get on well with their teachers, and this "enthusiasm" is usually intentional. Because you have my child, I try my best to flatter you. Interpersonal communication, once deliberate, will be uncomfortable and easy to trouble teachers. The relationship between teachers and parents is based on children. For teachers, "working relationship" is more important than "personal feelings". We should respect this communicative attribute and realize a healthy "home-school relationship". Xiao Xin's mother is an enthusiastic full-time mother, and she usually has more free time. Children's teachers are often invited to go shopping for dinner on weekends. The teacher politely refused every time. Xiao Xin's mother thought about it. Is my child not good enough for the teacher to come out for dinner? Am I too enthusiastic to scare the teacher? Maybe, the teacher just thinks it is necessary to keep a proper distance, and too deliberate communication will make the teacher uncomfortable. Let nature take its course in private communication, actively cooperate with the teacher's work and show real respect from the heart. This is our correct attitude towards teachers.
Pay attention to the communication between parents and teachers in junior high school;
Respect teachers:
Most teachers are still very dedicated, so from any angle, parents should be full of respect for teachers. It is really not easy for a teacher to straighten out the daily content. To put it simply, these children are difficult to teach. So tell your child that the teacher's hard work is not easy, and don't protect your child and say that the teacher is wrong, not to mention that the teacher has too much homework. School is the first social platform for children. It is very important to get along with teachers in a friendly and trusting way. I hope that children will become people who respect teachers and respect their work.
Actively trust teachers:
Since you have given your child to someone else, you should choose to trust the teacher and trust the teacher. Only after judgment can we look at the actual situation fairly and objectively, so as to make positive digestion and feedback.
20 sentences of communication between parents and teachers
1, your efforts are our children's motivation, our children's success is your pride, and we and our children will be proud of you!
When my children first entered school, they hated math class. Their head teacher is a good teacher. Every time she sees her child's slight progress, she gives appropriate encouragement to make her child interested in mathematics. At this moment, her grades are much better than before. But after the physics class, he couldn't afford to learn, and he only got more points in the last exam. I strongly encouraged him and told him that there is at least a% chance of success if he works hard, and that if he doesn't work hard, he will fail. I hired a tutor to tutor him during the holiday. Slowly, he became interested in physics.
If I am the CEO, you are the CEO's teacher. If I were the president, you would be the president's mother. No matter what my future life path is, I will always love you, teacher!
4. Your efforts are the motivation of our children. Our children's success is your pride, but our children will be proud of you!
Stepping through every corner of my heart, every inch of my heart is full of deep respect for you. Thank you, dear teacher!
6. You lit up my way forward with the torch of life. I want to say to you sincerely: thank you, teacher. 7. Silkworms will weave until they die in spring, and candles will drain the wick every night. Teacher, you have worked hard! Thank you for your cultivation and care for your children!
8. I would like to condense my blessings and gratitude into wishes for you. I wish you every day of the year is full of happiness and joy. 9. The spring rain dyed the world green, but the self disappeared silently in the soil. Teacher, you are the spring rain in our hearts, and we will always thank you.
10, parents should pay attention to that the teacher's encouragement to children is not only in this direct form, but also in an indirect form, that is, a parent's message.
1 1, you not only taught children knowledge, but also taught them the truth of being a man and helped them develop good habits. You are a good teacher in the eyes of parents.
12, you are a rocket carrying a satellite. You are a compass at sea. You are our children's most beloved teacher. Thank you for letting my children know that "learning without thinking is useless, and thinking without learning is dangerous."
13, this semester, my children's grades have improved, and you have the potential to teach my children better. As parents, we firmly believe in you, and I am very relieved that the child is in your hands.
14, three years later, everything turned into that yellow picture. Miss the playground, miss the classroom and miss you more! ! My teacher! Happy Teachers' Day!
15, how I hope Niu Niu can grow up happily and freely with your love and tolerance. When a child enters a new group, it will inevitably be novel and timid. His behavior may surprise you, make you laugh and cry, and even make you angry. Dear teacher, I hope you can control your emotions, share your children's happiness and tolerate your children's "mistakes", because your children will definitely care about your emotional reaction. Motherly love is irreplaceable, and so is teacher love. Because of your love, children will embark on a happy learning journey. During this journey, I expect him to love you and be attached to you. It is your happiness that children love you, and of course it is also the happiness of children.
16. Among all directors, the position of the head teacher is the lowest, but among all directors, the head teacher has made the greatest contribution to society. Teacher, we are forever grateful to you!
17, Dear Teacher: Thank you for everything you have done for me with your hard work and sweat. Your perfect figure will never be erased in the hearts of students.
18, you are a magical beach, where I can pick up those beautiful shells in the world. I wish you a happy Teacher's Day!
19, we like you, young teacher: you are as handsome as spruce and as deep as blue sky; You are very knowledgeable and have a tolerant heart.
20. With your education, the children's writing level has improved, which has unloaded a heavy burden for me and my children. My children and I will always thank you.
note:
Repeatedly emphasize that you are busy and have no time to take care of the children. Don't say anything. Now the pace of life is getting faster and faster, and the expenses on children are not small. Parents are usually very busy, which is understandable. In this case, many parents feel that they just need to do a good job, and the education and management of their children can be handed over to teachers. When communicating with teachers, they will also use busyness as an excuse to prevaricate and shirk in the face of teachers' requirements. Such behavior will leave a bad impression on teachers, because no matter how busy they are, parents should shoulder the responsibility of educating their children. If they blindly say that they are busy and neglect the education of their children, teachers will think such parents. It is irresponsible and will lose the will to continue to communicate. In the final analysis, children are their own. As parents, we must attach great importance to children's education, and we can't put all these things on teachers. In fact, no matter how busy the work is, you can also cooperate with the teacher to complete the children's education, so when the teacher asks, you must actively cooperate.