The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a headache for husbands. When many men see their wives and mothers fighting with each other, fighting with each other and quarreling with each other. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law endangers family stability. At present, many complaints focus on the husband's war on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law In fact, there are many ways to solve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Men play a vital role in the middle. Let's have a look. Smart men handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
First, mix
A man should be good at reconciling his wife and mother. If my wife and my mother accidentally disagree, and neither of them can apologize, then the boy must adjust from it. Women are more rational, so they must be relieved verbally and lured by a little chemical substance. Generally speaking, I can buy some gifts that my mother likes, give them to my mother first, then tell my mother that my daughter-in-law bought them for her filial piety, then say a few words of comfort to myself, and then say one or two irrelevant criticisms to her daughter-in-law; Then buy some gifts that my daughter-in-law likes and give them to my daughter-in-law Tell her my mother bought it for her. Tell her that the old man is old and has a ladder to stop the loss in time. My mother wrapped jiaozi up and waited for her warm taste. In this way, the differences between mother and wife can basically be reduced.
Second, mixing
Blending here means that a man should dare to transfer the differences between his mother and wife to himself and take the initiative to act as an exhaust bucket for two people. For a simple example, if your daughter-in-law cooks at home, what you like to cook is light and what you like to eat is heavy. At this moment, mother will definitely be angry with her daughter-in-law because of heartache. In this case, can the boy stay out of it and say something positive? Mom, you don't know. I'm prone to get angry recently and I'm afraid of eating too salty, so I'll ask her to make it light, so mom wants me to argue with you again. In this case, I think my mother will laugh it off and my daughter-in-law will thank you very much. The next time I cook, she will remember that your tastes are light and heavy, and vice versa. If my daughter-in-law chooses her mother's reasons, there is no need to teach her a lesson regardless of good or bad. Daughter-in-law like a stranger has an irrational desire to go out. It should also be said that my mother made it according to my taste. You need to dislike me. The actual things must be deeply analyzed. The key to blending is to properly pull the fire that mom and wife want to send to themselves and don't let them send it to each other.
Third, even with
When a man looks at his wife and mother, he doesn't have to favor one over the other, don't leave the impression that he married his wife and forgot his mother, and don't leave the argument that his daughter-in-law only needs true feelings but not feelings. Actually speaking, don't forget to buy a present for your mother when you give it to your daughter-in-law on March 8. Give your mother a present on Father's Day, and don't forget to buy one for your daughter-in-law, because your mother is your mother and your daughter-in-law is your child's mother. Remember to celebrate your daughter-in-law's birthday and your mother's birthday. When you go home on a business trip, you need to bring gifts to your daughter-in-law and your mother, otherwise no one will. Even if you say sweet words, if you are in front of them, you will have the knack of boasting them all.
Fourth, incitement
There is an advertising slogan that everyone is familiar with. Mom says Chinese herbal medicine is good, daughter-in-law says medicine is good, and boys only say Chinese and western medicine. If you are in front of your mother and wife, both of them need to love and take care of you. If you only accept one, it will cool the other and cause differences between them. There is no way but to mix them together and adopt the most appropriate method without annoying them. Take jiaozi as an example. Mom knows that you like eating meatballs since you were a child. In the case of looking for a daughter-in-law, in order to better find a daughter-in-law to love and cooperate with each other to keep fit, you tell him that you like to eat cabbage. What should you do if two people get together to package jiaozi? If your mother who packs cabbage will undoubtedly say that she married her daughter-in-law, then her daughter-in-law who packs meatballs will undoubtedly be unhappy because she wants to lose weight. In this case, you should give full play to your deception skills, tell your mother that eating more vegetables is good for your health, tell your daughter-in-law that eating only vegetables without meat will lead to lack of nutrition, and finally convince both parties to chop jiaozi's cabbage meat. Don't laugh. If you don't want to do it, wait for your home to become an arena.
Verb (abbreviation for verb) to make peace
When you are alone with your wife, you often exhale in her daughter-in-law's ear, telling her how much her mother loves you, how much she wants to hurt her daughter-in-law, how afraid she is that her daughter-in-law will suffer in this family, and telling her that she expects her to be filial to her mother with you; When I am alone with my mother, I often exhale in front of her, saying that her daughter-in-law is virtuous, that her daughter-in-law often takes the initiative to be filial to her mother, and that her daughter-in-law is afraid that she will not be a good husband and be unhappy. In short, let them feel that they care about others in their hearts.
Although each family is likely to have different specific circumstances, they are basically the same. As long as boys are willing to be a good bridge between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they will certainly be able to solve it. On the contrary, if a boy lets go, no matter how obedient his mother and wife are, they will fight sooner or later. If a woman is very rational, because a word or even a look will produce contradictions, mother and daughter can get along for a long time, let alone housewives and daughter-in-law
So, what about the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? If you want to solve the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, boys should never be lazy, and you don't need to give them examples to demonstrate and reason. Because they won't listen to you, just try according to the above.