"As a woman, she is not attached to a person-her husband, nor to a family that is morally United, nor to the capital that extracts surplus value, let alone exploitation by the ruling class."

Clara Zetkin

I wish you both men and women can get the equality, freedom, independence and respect you want, and live a confident true self!

Nowadays, magazines, TV advertisements and social media all convey a unified body aesthetics: women need to be slim to look good, and men need to be muscular to become men. The actress will say that her weight has never exceeded 100 Jin, and the portrait of the actor is full of eight abdominal muscles. Then I looked down at myself. There is neither a collarbone for coins, nor a small waistline of A4 size, nor a pair of cartoon legs. Suddenly, the milk tea in my hand is not fragrant.

You start to be dissatisfied with your figure, start to pay attention to some ways to lose weight, and do your homework for local shaping. Later, you began to fall into the trap of consumerism, or urged yourself to exercise hard or even starve, but you found that your waist and legs didn't seem to change much ... so you fell into a sad and anxious mood and felt that you were nothing and nothing was good. You are always thinking, I wish I had a thinner waist, thinner legs and lighter weight.

What makes us feel this way is actually our body image. It is a multifaceted structure that represents people's thoughts, feelings and behaviors about their body shape, appearance and attractiveness. Body image consists of three components: perceptual component, which mainly refers to the accuracy of estimating the size of body image; Subjective component, mainly refers to the satisfaction, attention and cognitive evaluation of the body; That is, commonly known as attitude components or emotional components; The behavioral component mainly refers to the avoidance behavior of some uncomfortable feeling situations caused by paying attention to the body surface.

Social comparison theory shows that people will spontaneously compare with others. When compared with people who are better than others, it will reduce individual happiness and affect individual self-esteem. Compared with mediocre and poor people, it tends to improve individual self-esteem and happiness. According to this theory, women will evaluate their appearance by comparing the beautiful and slim body images posted on social media with the ideas conveyed; Repeatedly seeing a slim and sturdy figure that is usually unattainable may make men constantly compare it with their own figure. Many studies have found that browsing photos of celebrities of the same age or different ages on social media will lead to people's desire for slim figure, dissatisfaction with their figure, unhealthy diet, and serious depression and anxiety.

If your body shape has begun to affect your health, then a reasonable diet and regular exercise are necessary, and the body shape change in this process is a natural result. But if you just want to make your body more perfect, consider a question first: If your body is perfect, what will make you happy afterwards?

Is it the envy and praise of others?

If you want to get compliments from others through your perfect figure, have you ever thought about whether such compliments are necessary for you? Do you have any other advantages to be praised by others? Such as your personality, your major or your knowledge. Do you always feel that you are not doing well enough in many places? If you think so, what you need to do may not be the pursuit of a perfect body. Try to focus on what you are good at. In this way, you should see more of your own bright spots, so as to affirm and appreciate yourself from the heart. No one is perfect, and your affirmation of yourself doesn't need to be perfect.

Do you think you will be more easily liked by the people you like?

If so, a person likes you because of your figure, and he may also like others because they are better than you. Do you want to be hard on yourself because of this love, and let yourself suffer physical and psychological torture? Although being in good shape can really make some people like you, this quick liking is often superficial. If you give up your unique self in order to win the love of others, you may lose more than you gain.

Or is it pleasant to go further from your ideal self?

In your pursuit of perfection, your ups and downs have actually explained everything: you are too bad to yourself. Your harshness and perfectionism may have made you feel depressed and anxious, or have symptoms such as stomach trouble. So in this process, can you give yourself some self-sympathy and care? For example, accept that your weight exceeds 100, but you also exercise three meals regularly.

Have you been poked by the above situation? If so, try to let go of your anxiety about your body, develop good eating habits, keep a happy mood, and be more sure and care for yourself!