How hard is a 30-year-old woman? The netizen in Zhihu gave the answer: Work is hard. At the age of 30, I no longer have the mentality that a newborn calf is not afraid of tigers, and I dare not be arrogant in front of Party A. I am lucky to keep a stable job, but I am really helpless in the face of stagnant wages. Love is hard. 30-year-old, with a clear concept of mate selection, seen the world and self-sufficient economy. He is not impressed by roses or jewels, nor does he directly ignore his own dishes. Wandering in various blind date corners, most of them encounter "wonderful flowers" and inexplicably carry the name of "leftover women". It is difficult to lose weight. At the age of 30, metabolism slows down and the body begins to decline. If you indulge in a little diet, your weight will rise quickly, and relying on a simple and rude diet has no significant slimming effect. Only by persisting in exercise can you look younger. Netizens can't help but sigh: "I feel that my ceiling is overhead, as if I can touch it with my feet."
It is often said that every ten-year-old age is a hurdle for women. After the age of 30, there is no need for fear and anxiety, and the world with quiet years is still wonderful.
? 0 1 ? Thirty years old, don't set limits for yourself.
When my friend Fan Xiao reaches 30 years old, it is logical to fall in love and get married. Both parents start the birth mode. Coupled with their age, it is not conducive to postpartum recovery, and pregnancy is on the agenda. However, Fan Xiao encountered a bottleneck in his work. The boss's son came to work in the company after graduating from college, took over Fan Xiao's job and changed her to a leisure post. Usually, Fan Xiao can't stand this "cold palace" treatment. Fan Xiao is very nervous, so it is unrealistic to consider changing jobs at this time. The resume says that she is married but has no children, or goes to the interview with a big belly, and the company manpower has very good reasons to refuse her. With this in mind, Fan Xiao began to indulge. At work, every day when monks hit the bell, they spend their time on crazy drama, waiting for a little life, and every day is very sad. In fact, Fan Xiao doesn't have to do this. Behind this mourning is that she has set limits in her mind: pregnancy and childbirth will become obstacles to her career. In fact, there are no obstacles in life, but they only bind themselves.
1996, Yang Lan became pregnant, but this did not stop Yang Lan from pursuing her career. Pregnant, she is overworked: as a screenwriter, host and producer of Yang Lan's Sight, from topic planning, contact shooting to post-editing and follow-up; I am about to graduate from Columbia University with a master's degree in international relations, and the design of graduation works is under great pressure. This year, Yang Lan easily shuttled between her career and life, enjoying and harvesting the gifts given to her by God: a child, a degree and a program. It is not so much a gift as Yang Lan's own efforts. A truly amazing woman has never been trapped by pregnancy. She can enjoy being a mother and have her own career.
Don't set limits for yourself, as long as you work hard, there will be unlimited possibilities. If you plan to have a baby, you will get pregnant. If you are going to jump ship, you can start over, even from the beginning.
? 02 ? Thirty years old, choose what you love.
Life is short, a life without passion is flawed, and it is a pity not to have a career you love. One of my classmates, who worked in the system for seven or eight years, sent me a WeChat one day. She wanted to resign, but she didn't have the courage. She is tired of the complicated interpersonal relationship in the system, delays efficiency and finally looks to the future. She doesn't want to be bound by the shackles of reality. She wants to change and quit her job as an electricity dealer. She discussed with her husband, who said that she was melodramatic and stable within the system, especially this year's epidemic, and the difficulty of starting a business can be imagined. She also flinched, lacking knowledge of e-commerce operation, and worried that she could not keep up with market changes. When she came out to work hard at the age of 30, she always lacked some confidence. I understand her, but I advise her: "Make sure what you want and like before you resign, and make sure and do it."
Grandma Moses picked up a paintbrush at the age of 58 and held a solo exhibition at the age of 80. 100 has six paintings after he was old. She encouraged Junichi Watanabe, then 30, to leave a message on the postcard: "Do what you like, don't be afraid, don't hesitate, and God will be happy to help you open the door to success, even if you are 80 years old now". Encouraged by Grandma Moses, Junichi Watanabe resigned from the hospital and concentrated on his creation, so we saw Paradise Lost, Light and Shadow and other works.
The story of Grandma Moses tells us that it is never too late to choose what you love. As long as you have a dream and passion in your heart, you can restart your life at any time.
? 30 years old, love home.
? You can concentrate on your career at the age of 20, and spend special time with your family at the age of 30. Your parents are no longer young, and your parents and children need your company.
I was busy taking the bar exam for a while and didn't go home for more than a month. When I got home, I found that my mother had changed a lot. He has a bad temper, doesn't like to talk, and always quarrels with his father. She and her father opened a shop, and her former kind mother is now indifferent to customers. Her indifference angered several customers. I knew my mother was going through menopause, but I didn't expect it to be so serious. I began to blame myself. I should go home and spend more time with my mother and chat with her. Maybe she'll be better.
When I was studying day and night, I often looked through a blogger's video. Blogger is a housewife who updates her cooking videos every day. She cooks home-cooked dishes, and she doesn't have any profound cooking skills, but I just like her unhurried pace of life and her attitude of loving life. I thought to myself, "When I finish this period, I will make breakfast for my husband like her and cook a big meal at the weekend." Then I did it, and the relationship between husband and wife really improved. My husband stopped complaining that I ignored him, but he also made a change. He reduced the time of playing games every day and began to buy new things for his family and tidy up the house. The home was filled with fireworks, which warmed the hearts of two people.
? At the age of thirty, your life has just begun. Have a cup of tea, light an aromatherapy lamp and start your new life. Don't set limits for yourself, choose your favorite career, find the right direction, and then stick to it. This process may be very long. Take your time. The most important thing is that you have to change, don't be in a daze, even if you try again and again, there will always be a way out after repeated failures. Quote a sentence from Only Thirty as the end, "Nothing can trap us now".
1. There is nothing on TV except thirty.
2. Morey wrote Grandma Moses's Philosophy of Life Course for Young People.
3. Yang Lan and Zhu Bing's "Ask a World"
4. Q&A from Zhihu netizens