Combining with everyone's actual situation, consciously improving their ideological level is a direct countermeasure to eliminate and dissolve jealousy. Bertrand Russell is one of the most famous and influential thinkers in the 20th century. 1950 won the Nobel Prize in Literature. When talking about jealousy in the book The Philosophy of Happiness, he said: "Although jealousy is an evil and its function is terrible, it is not entirely a demon. Part of it is a heroic expression of pain; People grope blindly in the dark, perhaps towards a better home, perhaps just towards death and destruction. In order to get rid of this despair and find a broad road, a civilized person must expand his mind as he has expanded his brain. He must learn to surpass himself, and in the process of surpassing himself, learn to be as carefree as everything in the universe. " 1. Generous to others 65438+At the beginning of the 9th century, Chopin went into exile from Poland to Paris. At that time, the Hungarian pianist Liszt was already famous in the music industry, while Chopin was still a nobody. However, Liszt deeply appreciated Chopin's talent. How did Chopin win his reputation in front of the audience? Liszt thought of an ingenious way: at that time, when playing the piano, the lights in the theater were often turned off and it was dark, so that the audience could concentrate on the lecture. Liszt sat in front of the piano, and when the light went out, he quietly asked Chopin to come and play instead of himself. The audience was conquered by the wonderful piano performance. After the performance, the lights came on. People are not only happy with the appearance of this new piano player, but also deeply admire Liszt for recommending new people. 2. Self-knowledge and objective evaluation of yourself. When jealousy is budding, or has certain performance, you can actively adjust your consciousness and actions, so as to control your motives and feelings. This requires a calm analysis of one's thoughts and behaviors and an objective evaluation of oneself, so as to find out certain gaps and problems. When you have a clear understanding of yourself, when you get to know others again, you will naturally feel something. 3. Good medicine for happiness can cure jealousy. Happy medicine can cure jealousy, that is to say, we should be good at finding happiness from life, just as jealous people find pain for themselves anytime and anywhere. If a person always thinks: what is my little happiness compared with the happiness that others may get? Then he will always be in pain and jealousy. Happiness is an emotional psychology, and jealousy is also an emotional psychology. What kind of emotional psychology dominates is mainly regulated by people. 4. Less vanity means less jealousy. Vanity is a distorted self-esteem. Self-esteem pursues true honor, while vanity pursues false honor. For jealousy, it is a vanity, an empty psychological need to be proud of others in order to belittle others and raise themselves, and not to want others to surpass themselves. Compared with jealousy, pure vanity is relatively easy to overcome. The two are closely linked and interdependent. So overcoming vanity is less jealousy. 5. Self-restraint is a bitter medicine for jealousy and a specific medicine for jealousy. Jealousy is also a painful psychology. When it has not developed to a serious degree, it is quite necessary to relieve it with various feelings, which can be said to be a good downhill. When this kind of venting is only in the stage of venting anger, it is best to find a close friend, or relatives and friends, talk enough, seek psychological balance for the time being, and then get guidance from relatives and friends in time. Although jealousy can't be fundamentally overcome, it can interrupt this venting and develop to a deeper level. If you have certain hobbies, you can vent and channel them with various hobbies. Such as singing, dancing, painting and calligraphy, playing chess, traveling and so on.