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I struggled for 18 years, not to have coffee with you.
A few years ago, an article "I struggled 18 years to sit with you for coffee" caused a lot of abuse. It took a farmer's son 18 years to get the same rights as his peers in metropolis, which is a true portrayal of a generation.

However, after several years, I suddenly realized that he was precocious. 18? No matter how rich the years are, I still can't sit and drink coffee with you. That year, I was 25 years old and got my master's degree in countless sleepless nights. The lines on my forehead are particularly obvious, but I dare not stop at my feet. I don't want to go back to my hometown, and there are countless descendants. I have to find a job in Beijing quickly.

What about you? You're not in a hurry, World of Warcraft and Red Alert? I'm tired of playing! You have an ambitious plan to start a business. At that time, Robin Li, Chen Tianqiao and Zhou Yunfan were not born yet. Baidu, Google and Perfect Time and Space were even more distant terms, but youth was invincible. You set up a distribution website on campus, recruiting people with great fanfare, and reporters from various media flocked in. The dormitory 334 soon became famous in the whole building. The little girls sent pink stationery from all over the world and wrote admiringly, "I learned your wonderful story from the newspaper …" When I was free, I climbed onto the roof to blow the wind. You cheerfully turned to me to take care of my own people and said, brother, how about getting rich together?

Unfortunately, I can't. Entrepreneurship is a chess game for you, which can be advanced and retreated, and can be attacked and defended. Start-up funds shall be raised by three aunts and six relatives as soon as possible. Even if it fails, the parents' three-bedroom and one-bedroom heater will not fail. Failure means to me that the water under the bridge is a complete failure. Every summer, in order to save three or five hundred dollars in machine money, my parents have to harvest five acres of farmland in the sun.

I finished my first interview in a borrowed suit and had my first date with my beloved girl in a borrowed watch. When you got the first investment and reported to the whole class excitedly, I calmly crossed half of Beijing to be the last tutor. Yes, "this job has a low technical content", but before the first month's salary was paid, my rented land and rations depended on it.

It didn't take long for the internet to encounter a cold snap, and you are also depressed about starting a business. You entered a state-owned communication company and I was hired by a foreign company. Sitting on the sidelines, I foolishly thought I had pulled back a game. On the surface, my salary is a little higher than yours. Spend 8000 yuan after tax, stay in a 5-star hotel for business trip, and take a paid vacation for one year 10 days. I try my best to believe that there will be a fairy tale ending in a few years, "living a happy life with the princess."

The good times didn't last long. Soon, I understood why people call white-collar workers dirty words. The 35-pound office package is almost unattended. At lunch time, the most sought-after is the microwave oven in the corner of each floor. White-collar workers lined up with lunch. Later, the property allowed fast food companies to stay, and there was a grand occasion of "thousands of people waiting in line for Lihua". People with a monthly income of nearly ten thousand save money. A colleague, 10 yuan's cold medicine went to the insurance company to claim compensation; The other stayed in a messy railway station for three hours in order to get an extra dinner allowance from 150 yuan when he returned after 8: 00.

This comedy failed to make me laugh. I can understand that every figure embodies overtime and humiliation; Be exploited by the boss, in order to build a square meter nest for yourself. The process of starting from scratch is arduous and long. For three years, I have never taken a long vacation or eaten duck neck once. I am not surprised to hear that Hu Xinyu, a 25-year-old employee of Huawei, died of overwork. The phenomenon of exchanging sweat and youth for money is too common in this industry. Next time, don't be surprised when you see a group of people in suits and ties holding IBM notebooks in the street. We are a group of IT workers.

The only consolation is that we are getting closer to our ideal goal step by step.

Suddenly, your good news fell from the sky: invite everyone to the new house for heating at the weekend. How is that possible? You are faster than me? Bright 100 square meter, red apple furniture, 37-inch LCD color TV, there is no doubt in front of you. You said in an understatement that the old man gave 654.38+million, and her family also gave 654.38+million, which kept urging us to get married ... On the way home, my girlfriend was depressed and didn't speak. Like me, she comes from an unknown mountain city. I grabbed her shoulder and encouraged her and myself. It doesn't matter. Let's trade time for space.

You spent half a year's salary easily on your honeymoon in Hong Kong. When you come back, it doesn't mean anything, not as beautiful as it was filmed on TVB TV. My wedding, cruising in the dirt road of my hometown and the onlookers of the villagers, worshiping heaven and earth in the low and dim old house, sleeping on the cold heatable adobe sleeping platform with my lover. Fortunately, many years later, in my wife's blog, the gloomy picture turned into a radiant picture. She recalled: "Where there is love, there is heaven."

We all want to give the girl we love a heaven, but the meaning of heaven is very different. Your wife has become a full-time wife, downloading friends and jailbreaking with an electric donkey every day. I want to do the same thing, but my wife doesn't agree. If you support me, who will support my parents? I can't bear to let you raise seven people by yourself. When your girl put on Clinique mask and lifted her feet comfortably, my girl fought tenaciously in the sea of people.

Two people make money much faster. By the end of 2004, we also saved the first sum of 65438+ ten thousand yuan in our life. Who knows that the China property market was awakened by the devil at this time, like a tsunami surging, destroying all the weak individuals. In March 2005, the down payment was enough to buy Licheng in the West Fourth Ring Road. In July, I had to go to Cheng Nan to clean the building. Our savings could have bought a 90-square-meter two-bedroom apartment. In mid-September, just in the past two months, only enough to buy more than 80 square meters.

Never studied the principles of economics? It doesn't matter. Life vividly explains what asset bubbles and liquidity flooding mean. At this time, experts jumped out to speak, "Beijing housing prices will drop by 30%, and Shanghai housing prices will drop by 40%." Otherwise, wait? I almost lived in an empty camp in Winton, and you stood up and pointed out the maze: buy it quickly, and the house price will go up. The news of buying a house was sent back to my hometown, and my parents sighed assiduously: It is worth our busy work for half a year. In their view, 7500 yuan per square meter is an incredible sky-high price. Three years later, in 2008, my younger brothers lamented that you had made a fortune. The average price in the fourth ring road is 1.4 million, and there is no building to buy.

A few days ago, I saw Shui Mu's last message, and I was very emotional: "I really deserve it if I don't buy a house after working for five years. In 2003, the property market was in a downturn. Today is not only the gold property market, but also the whole life. "

I really appreciate you telling me what is consumption and what is investment when I don't know what is financial management.

Not everyone has a forward-looking vision and investment philosophy. Many brothers, like me, came from a small place, only knew how to work hard, paid too much attention to the wheat fields under their feet and missed a bright starry sky. Your theory is that making money is for flowers, and only in circulation can you add value, buy your favorite goods and make your life relaxed and happy. And my peasant brother-here refers to the brother who came from a peasant family and stayed in a big city after graduation-is used to holding the RMB tightly in his hand.

The increase in the number of passbooks fascinated them. When it is time to buy a house, they are renting a house; When it's time to repay the loan, they would rather bear the loan interest rate of 7% than save it for five years. Hard-earned silver shrank and depreciated while waiting. They are often at the peak of housing prices and have no choice but to take the last stick; I also naively made a wish to go home and buy a house after earning 1 10,000. But when that day really comes, the house prices in my hometown, second-and third-tier cities and even towns have skyrocketed.

After I paid off the loan, you bought a second house; The Shanghai Composite Index is 6000 points. When I finally test the water and become a stockholder, you clear the warehouse and move to the gold market. I send back 1000 yuan every month to assume the responsibility of supporting my parents. You just smiled and said that I would support the elderly. When I was thinking about whether to have children or not, and to what extent the cost of raising children would damage the quality of life, four old people have already paid for your second generation; It's good to go to Jiuzhaigou during the Golden Week. You are not satisfied. You say Germany is too formal and America is too casual. France is the fashion capital you yearn for. ...

My story is a true portrayal of a generation of "immigrants"-I was forced to leave my hometown and my motherland was vast, but I moved around like a migratory bird and chose to live in wood. Today's society is doomed to have richer educational resources, medical resources and convenient life in big cities. Even if you get a paper account, the process of integration is still full of suffering. It will take five years, 10 years or even longer to get everything that the aborigines can reach at their fingertips. I used to be indignant and pursued, but now I have learned not to complain and to be calm between cracks. Although there is a gap, it is not regrettable. It is this gap and the efforts made to make up for it that strengthen the tension of life and make life more hierarchical and diverse.

The foreseeable future is that one day our descendants will gather in Disney (I still have this confidence) to tell my father's story. Mine, though not necessarily more exquisite and colorful, is undoubtedly much more tortuous and interesting. This story is about independence, courage, Jedi rebound and resurrection. I can't afford a luxury car for my son, but I can give him a growing heart. I want to tell him that whether he is rich or poor, millions of dollars or displaced, he should be equally calm and open-minded.

At this point, what does it matter whether you drink coffee or not? The elegance of life posture does not depend on where you sit, what utensils you hold, or the money you pay for tea. It depends on your attitude towards tea tasting.

I struggled for 18 years, not to have coffee with you.