You Shi and Mrs. Xing have many similarities:
One is to fill the house and have no children of his own.
Er Niang's family has no background, and Jia Fu's situation is also a person.
Their husbands are all dissolute and shameless.
Judging from these three points, neither of them is in a good position. However, their status is quite different. Mrs. Xing is obedient to Jia She and dare not sayno. Jia She wants to get a little wife, but Mrs. Xing not only dares not object, but also goes to work for him. However, Ji You can compete with Jia Zhen, who dare not deviate from You Ji. Why is this happening? It's simple. Your talent is far superior to that of Mrs. Xing. She overcame these shortcomings by herself.
There were three kinds of unfilial in ancient times, and it was very important for a woman to have children. You Shi failed to have children, but she had a way, and that was to improve her relationship with Jia Rong. You is a "model stepmother" and has a very harmonious relationship with Jia Rong, so that readers who are not very careful think that Jia Rong was born by You, but it is not. You can see it from at least two places. Second, during the Mid-Autumn Festival, you said to Jia Mu that "we have been married for more than ten years", that is, she and Jia Zhencai had been married for about ten years, and Jia Rong was seventeen or eighteen years old, which was obviously not born to you.
For the second shortcoming, your countermeasure is to create your own background without it. In particular, she attaches great importance to rallying people's hearts, and her works focus on people in the building. Moreover, especially the family regardless of high and low. Anyone can win one. On Xifeng's birthday, Jia gave it to You Shi, showing that the old lady had long trusted You Shi and You Shi made full use of this opportunity. She returned Pinger, Aunt Zhao and Aunt Zhou, and these three people naturally appreciated her.
Why do you want to return these three people instead of others? This is also reasonable. Grandmother Jia asked Pinger, "Your master is celebrating his birthday, so he won't come here?" Pinger said, "I have another one in private. This is official, and I should share a piece of it. " From this conversation, we can see that the master's birthday should be paid by the slave, and Pinger should pay here. When she goes back, she needs to spend money for Xi 'an's birthday again, which is obviously too disappointing. What's the reason for Aunt Zhao and Tuesday? Because menstruation's status is very low, her monthly income is only twice that of a maid, but the burden is much heavier. At first, no one thought of asking Aunt Zhao and Aunt Tuesday to pay for her birthday. They were not invited to the meeting at all. It was Xifeng herself who said, "There are still two aunts who can't go out. Ask them. Try their best to be reasonable, otherwise, they should only underestimate them. " This is actually a strong demand for money, which is very nice to say. Since the old lady asked, she sent a maid to ask. So each of us has to pay 2 Liang.
You Shi quietly scolded Feng and said, "I'm going to take your little hoof!" " All these aunts and uncles have come to collect money for your birthday. Why are you dragging two bitter scorpions? "Judging from this sentence, although the grandmother turned to Xifeng for help, this practice of Xifeng was very unpopular.
Since you is in charge of this matter, Bi will spend money, and it is impossible to return all the money to everyone. She wants to win people's hearts by paying back the money, and who will not become the most important issue. If you can never get rid of Mrs. Jia and Mrs. Wang, first, you don't care about money, and second, you blame her for not obeying the rules. Quitting others will cause complaints such as "why quit him instead of me" Only when these three people are removed, people who hear you will think that you people are good and help the weak and the poor. No one else will have a problem except winning the gratitude of the parties concerned.
In this way, when you deal with the affairs of Ningfu, you won the unanimous praise of Fu Rong from the Jia family, thus raising his social status.
For the third unfavorable factor, the practice of swimming is a word, "forbearance". Jia Zhen eats, drinks, whores and gambles. You clearly saw him, but he didn't interfere. This is how much capital he has and how much business he does. You Shi knows he can't do anything about these things, so he won't interfere forcibly.
Xifeng usually feels very capable, but You Shi doesn't seem to show off. This is just a superficial phenomenon. In fact, two people have their own strengths. Xifeng is in charge of the family affairs, and the Ningfu affairs are all decided by the Youjia family. In Youshi's disease, Feng Zhuning. Feng was seriously ill, and You Shi also assisted Rong. Xifeng is good at sports warfare, improvising and living within her means. You are good at positional warfare, step by step, slow and steady.
You Shi and Feng have a relationship of "cooperation first, struggle second". They help each other and take care of each other when managing a country's affairs. At the same time, they have been arguing verbally. When you were first mentioned in the book, you admitted, "When you meet the wind, you must laugh first." It can be seen that bickering between them is a common occurrence, and you can deal with it with Feng's clever teeth.
When Feng was ill, Mrs. Wang first asked Li Wan to be the housekeeper. "Whenever there is a big event, I advocate it myself, and I will leave the small things to Li Wan." But Li Wan was so incompetent that she couldn't even manage the younger ones, so she sent Tan Chun and Baochai to help her. A few days later, an old lady died, and all the important people in the family were going to pay their respects. It's really troublesome. In aunt Zhao's words, it is "the corpse hits the corpse, and the bed is very good." Obviously, in this way, the troika explored by Li is useless. This time, the way is to "report your birth, liberate him, and assist the two governments." Look, although the troika is strong, it can only take care of small things. You can take care of big things instead of Mrs. Wang.
The most embarrassing time was when Feng made a scene in Ningguo Mansion. He was really "fed up with humiliation". However, it is no wonder that it is Jia Zhen Jia Lian Jia Rong's fault. These three men are so confused that they have different plans to marry Jia Lian behind Xi- feng's back. However, from your point of view, this is equivalent to a formal declaration of war and an aggressive attitude. This is tantamount to nailing a nail directly under Feng's nose. In fact, if Xi- Feng has lost power and influence at this time, it is indeed a good move. If Sister You is equivalent to the Soviet Union during the Cold War and Xifeng is equivalent to the United States, then Sister You plays the role of Cuba. Although Second Sister You has no skill, she has three advantages: first, she is beautiful, and Jia said, "I think she is more handsome than you (Xifeng)"; Second, virtuous, popular, people say good; Third, the most important thing is to have children. In ancient times, concubines were far inferior to their wives, but if concubines had children and wives had no children, the situation would be very different. Mothers attach importance to their children, and this situation will gradually reverse as the children grow up. Why does Aunt Zhao dare to fight, while Aunt Zhou can only be unknown? It is because Aunt Zhao has a son. Fortunately, as the first wife, Mrs. Wang has a son and a grandson, and her quality is far better than that of Aunt Zhao.
If Second Sister You marries Jia Lian, she can have a son again. In a few years, she will die, Mrs. Wang will be old, and Xifeng will have no backer. Perhaps Third Sister will remarry Baoyu, and the internal affairs of Harmony will be largely controlled by You Group. But Xifeng will be more and more depressed and closer to Aunt Zhou's situation.
However, these things are impossible to realize, because at this time, Xifeng is in full swing, and she will never let these things become a reality. She is bound to carry out desperate resistance and revenge. And how is she going to fight back, "Filial piety is a felony"-even entertainment such as singing opera is forbidden, how dare you marry a wife? "Filial piety is a felony"-Jia Jinggang died not long ago. I still remember Yuanyang's saying that "no mother died before he married his little wife". You can't even forgive Jia for such a thing. How dare you, Jia Lian? "It is a felony to get married without your parents' knowledge"-marriage must be ordered by your parents, and you are not allowed to get married without permission. "It is a felony to prevent his wife from remarrying"-concubinage is allowed, but it is not allowed to remarry, which is equivalent to the current crime of bigamy.
You's family knows this well: "No, Miss Xifeng is not easy to mess with", but it's a pity that Jia Zhen, Jia Rong and Jia Lian can't be beaten. I finally did it. Sure enough, after Xifeng found out, she immediately found out that Jia Zhen was scared and slipped away. You Shi and Jia Rong took the correct countermeasures-pretending to be grandchildren. I can't help it This is all I can do now. I passed the test after all. Unfortunately, second sister, she is not your own sister, but your remarried stepmother. I can't say there is any sisterhood. In this case, she can only be sacrificed.