Perseverance is a quality that everyone wants to have.
However, perseverance can also be divided into good perseverance and bad perseverance. Terrorists also have the quality of perseverance and persistently undermine peace.
I believe that each of us wants to have good, positive and firm qualities. Good perseverance requires careful training and experience.
The first element of perseverance is enthusiasm. Doing things that can make us full of enthusiasm is naturally easy to persist, and we have enough confidence and courage to take risks and deal with difficulties.
If we can't find something that makes us passionate, it's better to start with interest. People will always be interested in something, but if they are not interested, there will always be something curious.
Writing is a big coffee, including high flyers Jun Cheng Yue, a graduate of Peking University, and the baby's mother, who writes while taking care of the baby. Work and family are under great pressure. For many years, she insisted on writing every day, and later published a book and opened a network writing training class.
In class, she once told students that writing was a hobby and interest at first, and she was full of enthusiasm for writing. Later, she realized more value of writing and set more goals for writing. For example, insisting on writing 30 thousand words every day is a small goal of writing, and she has been insisting on it.
Now, together with Cheng Yue, she has discovered a new continent. She became a director, writing plays and directing short films. Writing is still relatively persistent, and I take time out to spend time with my family every week. Her youngest daughter is only one year old and her eldest daughter is four years old. Because my lover is very busy at work, she often takes care of the baby alone.
She worked hard, but because she was full of enthusiasm for these things, she gradually formed a determined character, which enabled her to persist, become better and gain more.
Many people think that success will bring happiness, but it is not, because happiness is easier to succeed.
We have seen many anti-Japanese war films, and the same plot often appears in them. When a soldier is caught by the enemy, the interrogators will always tell the interrogators that your organization abandoned you, your wife remarried, and your child called someone else's father.
At this time, some people with weak willpower are prone to mutiny.
Why did you tell the person being interrogated this? Because the interrogator wants to destroy the happiness of the interrogator.
Once people are unhappy, they are easily captured and even go astray.
Those who have antisocial personality in society are also the best examples, because their hearts have been hit and their happiness has been destroyed, so they want to retaliate against society.
Therefore, happiness is the second ingredient of perseverance in this cake. We want to be a happy person.
Happiness has nothing to do with what we have. People who have nothing can be happy, and people who have a lot of money can be miserable.
To be a happy person, first, you must have positive emotions, just like the energy law mentioned in the last article. Positive emotions will produce positive energy and attract more positive things and people, so that we will be more likely to have a sense of happiness.
The second is to invest, do one thing with your heart, and feel your own mental journey in this process.
For example, write an article, take a photo, draw a picture and so on. We feel the psychological process of doing this and absorb feedback in time.
No matter what others say about what you do in the end, you will have a sense of accomplishment, gain something from what you put into doing, and feel happier more easily.
The third is good interpersonal relationship. If we can handle the relationship with family, colleagues and friends, we can establish a good interpersonal network. Then we will certainly get more attention, love and respect, and it is easy to have a sense of happiness.
To establish good interpersonal relationships, I think respect and love are the key elements. Respecting ourselves, respecting others and loving ourselves and others will help us to establish good interpersonal relationships.
The fourth is to give meaning. Everyone we know and everything we do has its meaning, but it is easy for us to ignore it and even see the negative side of things more easily.
When we can give meaning to things, we are more likely to get happiness.
Have you tried to write down your 100 goals?
Textual research, promotion, buying a house, getting married, having children, slimming, health preservation, traveling, etc. , you can continue to write, write within 100, and write as much as possible.
After writing, you will find that your blood is boiling, time is simply not enough, there are still so many things to do, and the vision is still so far away, so that we will have more motivation to do the things in front of us.
Also, when I am frustrated and confused, I will always take a time trip after achieving my goal, close my eyes, think about life and think about the beauty of life. Suddenly I feel full of strength and determined to stick to it.
Therefore, our goal is to stick to the third ingredient of the cake. Constantly set goals for yourself, look forward to the beauty after achieving the goals, and often take a time trip to bring yourself full motivation and determination to persist.
In the 1960s, researchers recruited some kindergarten children to do experiments alone.
During the experiment, the researchers put a marshmallow on the plate and told the children at the table that they had something to go out. If the children can wait until they come back to eat marshmallows, they will reward them with one.
However, after the experiment started, some children watched the experimenter leave and immediately ate the marshmallow, while others diverted their attention by looking around the room and playing with their fingers, thus not eating the marshmallow. Some children picked it up and smelled it, and finally put it back until the experimenter came back.
Later, the researchers followed up all the children who participated in the experiment for several years, and found that those children who could restrain themselves from eating marshmallows were often more successful in their careers.
Therefore, researchers put forward the concept of "delayed gratification", believing that children with better self-control ability have higher achievements. This statement has been widely recognized in the field of psychology.
Therefore, self-control is the fourth element of cake. If we can improve our self-control through self-regulation, then we can resist the temptation in life and stick to it effectively.
You can try to design some small adventure opportunities for yourself and be prepared for adventure at the same time.
For example, buy a wealth management, start a business and so on. Only by taking risks can we cultivate our adventurous thinking and constantly improve our ability to cope with risks.
Just like the broken thinking mentioned in the last article, making changes will be risky, but it can also break the status quo and inspire us to move towards a better life.
With the continuous improvement of our ability to cope with risks, we will not be afraid of setbacks and difficulties on our way forward.
Therefore, adventure is the fifth ingredient of this cake.
One thing to note is that when taking risks, don't always discuss with people with negative ideas. They will often block your thoughts and make you depressed.
Also, we can change "why" to "why not", and you will find that open-ended questions make you feel completely different.
Why not give it a try? Why not start a business? Why not exercise? Why not study?
Patience is perseverance, which is the sixth ingredient of the cake.
There are some ways to cultivate patience, such as playing chess, cleaning the room, or waiting in line.
Delaying decision-making can also cultivate patience. We don't have to make a decision at once, so we don't have to make a decision or judge in a hurry. It is better to calm down, think seriously and make a decision after a while, which can also cultivate our patience.
Learning to appreciate works of art, such as looking at paintings, can make people have a delicate mind and insight into life. In short, slow things can often improve patience.
Humility is the sixth element of perseverance in this cake.
There are several ways to build humility, such as stopping taking selfies in your circle of friends.
Make plans for yourself, listen to others more and talk less about yourself.
Find someone to criticize yourself and ask for advice.
Write a letter with sincere feelings, sincerely thank others for their help and so on.
Not humble because you don't know how to be grateful. A humble person is full of happiness because of gratitude. He will be in a soft and comfortable state and be able to give generously to others.
It should be noted that modesty should not slide to inferiority, but should be able to face and accept yourself calmly.
Perseverance The eighth ingredient of this cake is perseverance.
We can do this and record three difficult things we did that day every day, that is, those things that are stressful and challenging and need to break through our comfort zone.
You can also try to collect some perseverance stories and provide yourself with spiritual nutrition. Or you can bet with yourself and challenge your potential.