For a long time, the brain has been running at a high speed, ignoring the feelings of the body. As a result, I felt the edge of insomnia. If I wake up at three o'clock in the morning, my brain is clear and I am excited, I know it is "broken". It takes a long time to feel the weight of my hands and feet, and my brain is spinning away from my body. I will take a long time to stop and go back to sleep. If you wake up at three in the morning, you may have time to adjust. Wake up at five o'clock, almost waiting for dawn.

This week, he used Steve Weiner's gestalt therapy to put forward my "downhill inertia" and kept going. I just said goodbye to him. I noticed the split between my mind and my body, and I couldn't tell whether it was my real need to stop my body or the pressure of external criticism (for example, the book I read said I would listen to my body's call, and I don't know if my mind would just go in and convince my body to stop).

So we went deeper, and I found that I couldn't figure out the physical requirements during the day, and my mind couldn't stop, because I was faced with too many responsibilities: taking care of children, cooking, work pressure, and my own fitness plan. . . But when it comes to the coffin, the body demands the upper hand and wants to stop the brain, but it seems that the brain can't stop if it wants to stop, and it can sleep when it wants, like before the age of forty.

Everyone went on talking, and finally formed their own self-criticism voice, opposing those made up by the outside world.

"You said you didn't know whether you really wanted to slow down or someone told you to slow down, so you persuaded yourself to slow down."

"yes." I answered. "There are many voices outside, accusing me of being too fast and causing great pressure on others." As I talked, I suddenly felt bored, angry and a little out of breath.

I am well aware that lattice therapy cherishes every upcoming emotion, so I continue to dig with anger and boredom: "I don't think there is anything wrong with my speed." The fast running makes me feel excited, and the whirlpool makes me feel fun. "

Steve Weiner took my words: "Yes, you make me feel my agility, make me feel excited and interesting, and appreciate my keenness and cleverness."

"But this quick response made me criticized." I feel depressed.

Then those painful memories began to pour in, and they all had the same characteristic: I easily opened my vulnerability, but I was repeatedly hit and didn't get any support when I was hit. My anti-stress mechanism was not established with support, but in the case of complete independence and anger, I finally decided to close my sensory system.

For example, I am particularly excited about newly discovered things, jumping up and telling people everywhere. Since kindergarten, I have been constantly told, "You are too excitable." And kept being laughed at.

(This time, as we said before, the establishment of children's "resilience" quality can only rely on support, not "abandonment")

We let those painful memories sweep through, and Gestalt therapy guided me to stay in the center of pain, stay, feel and not leave. My powerful mind is very clear that this is the only way I can really get in touch with my children and accompany them-with myself, so my powerful mind encourages me to stay in the center of pain and experience it like the pain of natural childbirth.

Only this time, when I was completely exposed to pain, a therapist injected a voice: "I totally understand you." If I were there, I would support you. You have every reason to feel what you are feeling now. You deserve all the support. "

This process is the process of rebuilding the emotional tolerance space. Gestalt therapy, also called "Gestalt Psychology", is to establish relationships, return to the "unfinished business" of life, re-experience feelings and rebuild self-reliant institutions.

The key is to stay at the center of the emotional storm and feel it wholeheartedly.

Many growing wounds seem to be scarred. In fact, the wounds have not been carefully treated, and there is still pain under the scars. We usually "forget" the pain and think we are better.

But I'm in poor health. My "insomnia" comes from the division of body and mind, and this division comes from "forgetting"

So we began to "recall" and go through the process that should have been completely, so as to adjust the deviation of body and mind.

I talked to Steve Weiner twice in a row this week. At present, I obviously feel my head suddenly stopped, and I woke up at three o'clock in the morning for three consecutive nights and fell asleep quickly. I slept for nine hours last night. After waking up, it is obvious that back pain is related to "inner child" and back pain is related to "attention gain", so you can fall asleep quickly.

This is the feeling I haven't had since I gave birth to the boss for eight years.