So, how to improve the problem that children who have just entered kindergarten are unsociable?
First of all, we should find out the reasons why children don't fit in. Make a general analysis first. Usually, there are two reasons:
Personality problems are certain. A child who doesn't fit in with others will probably have some personality problems. For example, if you are introverted, afraid or don't like talking to other children, you will gradually become unsociable; Or children are spoiled and arrogant, and other children are not easy to get close to. Such children are usually unsociable and are easily excluded in kindergartens.
Some children with communication difficulties have no personality problems, but poor interpersonal skills. For example, if you can't speak, you will be offended when you export it, and it is difficult to communicate with your friends. If many attempts to communicate are unsuccessful, the enthusiasm of children to make friends will also become lower, which will directly lead to unsociable.
Parents can try the following methods to integrate their children:
Parents with parenting experience usually take their children to play in public places such as parks, with the aim of exposing their children to more peers. In fact, this is a good way to improve children's social skills. After entering kindergarten, children will not feel social difficulties.
Speaking of which, I thought of my sister's children. Sister and brother-in-law are introverted, and children tend to be withdrawn. I am afraid of this kind of problem, so when I was very young, my sister often took the children out to play and went to public places to have more contact with other children. Even if they don't have time, they will let grandparents take their children out for a walk, go to the children's park and play with toys on the grass with them.
Slowly, the effect is obvious, and it also changes the child's personality. At the sight of me, my niece stopped hiding, but kept talking, very cheerful and optimistic.
Helping children find small partners, unsociable children must be afraid of many people at first. At first, my sister's children were like this, always hiding in a small room to play by themselves. At this time, parents can help their children find small partners and try to be cheerful. For example, the children of neighbors in the same community, or the children of friends, will go for a walk together when they are free, or invite their families to play and get together. At first, if the baby doesn't want to, parents can play with him first, and when the child is familiar with it, the baby will play by himself.
Encourage children to learn to share, learn to share happiness with others, and they will become very happy. My parents told me this sentence when I was very young. Indeed, sharing happiness with others will double the feeling of happiness. You can try to get children to share their toys or delicious food with others.
To tell the truth, although it is simple to say, it is really difficult to learn to share. It must be based on the child's willingness.
So what should we do? You can do it. You need to set an example in your daily life, such as making some snacks and sharing them with your neighbors and grandparents. This kind of interesting activity will be followed by children. Children can also be involved in daily family work, so that children can feel that the process of cooperation with others is recognized by others, and the happiness they get from it is willing to share.
Teach children what "friendliness" is. Imagine if you are hostile to other children, who will play with you? Not to mention the problem of gregarious.
Therefore, friendship is the foundation of interpersonal communication, an attitude and an ability. Only by learning to be friendly can we be more popular. You can do this on purpose: when you meet a friend or neighbor, you need to come forward and say hello. Then tell the child: "it is friendly to do so." After repeating it several times, the child can understand and know what to do.
In short, in the process of guiding children, we should be more patient and understanding, give children enough time to learn and experience, and gradually become cheerful and gregarious.