I summed up two points, which can help you to be self-disciplined and become a better self.
1. People with a sense of purpose are more likely to get rid of the influence of indiscipline.
Mr. Wang Jianlin, in an interview, talked about the small goal of earning 100 million yuan first. The word "small goal" holds up half the sky.
The biggest feature of target management is self-control, that is, when you see that other people's success can be replicated and you want to change your goals, when you watch your friends play with tears to complete your schedule, and when you feel a little lonely and cold because you give up a lot for your goals, you should remember: in a sense, you don't manage your goals, but the goals manage you.
How to manage by objectives that suits you?
The starting point of management by objectives is not single. Instead, we should comprehensively seek from three dimensions: site, construction period and project scale. The best goal setting is to surpass your ability a little bit in your most capable field and within the time you can persist.
As an exercise, you can try to make a detailed weekly plan for yourself and see if you can finish it next week. According to this exercise, analyze your feasibility in planning and specifying. Within a week, except for 8 hours of sleep every day, the remaining effective time is about 100 hours. If ordinary people don't have superhuman willpower and mobility, it is enough to make a plan of about 50 hours for themselves. It is best to include your schedule, what you want to do and what you really want to accomplish.
Why have Jobs, Dell and Li Ka-shing made remarkable achievements? Almost all of them have one thing in common, that is, they have a strong purpose.
On the contrary, those who can do this or that in the face of unfavorable environment often lose their way and go with the flow.
Therefore, when cultivating your self-discipline ability, you must have a detailed, clear and gradual goal, and it is best to write it down.
Don't say "My goal is to lose weight to less than 100 kg a year", but "My task today is to run 5 kilometers, and I can only have a rest on the way".
2. Persistence day after day
Is it enough to have only one goal?
Of course not.
Strong motivation can ensure your "three-minute fever". To cultivate "self-discipline", you need to do one thing repeatedly. There is a rule in psychology. If you insist on doing 2 1 day, it will gradually become a habit.
Of all the people I know, no one is more self-disciplined than Miss A who successfully lost weight and kept in shape.
158, 120 kg, she lost 32 kg in just two months in the summer vacation, and then kept her figure of 88 kg.
How?
Miss A said that she wanted to change her fat and ugly state at first, so she went on a crazy diet+exercise to lose weight. The most bitter is the bottleneck period. No matter how you exercise, you are not thin. That week, you only ate a fruit and a cup of cereal in the morning and kept exercising for 2 hours.
Because she has lost weight and rebounded, she still keeps a light diet after losing weight. She eats lunch and fruit every day. She never eats starchy food for dinner, but only fruits and vegetables and high-protein food.
Although she keeps up well, she still leaves work 30 minutes early every day. Inadvertently, I practiced the vest line. ...
Until now, she still eats very little. If she eats more than two pieces of meat, she will feel uncomfortable, and she especially likes fruits and vegetables.
I asked her if she had been working so hard.
She said: I am used to it. Now you let me eat more, which makes me physically and psychologically uncomfortable.
The fitness coach once told her that muscles have memories and cells can be replaced.
Stick to a light diet for a long time, and the cells in your body that crave "greasy food" will be replaced; Exercise for a long time, your muscles have memories, and all sports can be easily handled.
The highest state of a person's self-management is physical management. When you can control your weight, you can control your life. When you can do it, do something that will make you better, stick to it and turn it into a habit, even at work.
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Self-discipline is also related to nature, but it is definitely an acquired ability. Although it takes a long process, I hope you can walk on the road and your dream will come true.
Dostoevsky once said, "If you want to conquer the whole world, you must conquer yourself".
Finally, the so-called freedom is not arbitrary, but self-control. And those choices that really make people better will not be very comfortable. Only when you are eager enough can you have strong willpower to support and motivate yourself to stick to it. Only by sticking to the end can we get real freedom.