For single dog, who has read several parenting books, before becoming a mother, I have made more preparations than most mothers. This self-confidence made me swear to say at home: I have finished learning the knowledge of bearing children in advance, no problem, everything is fine, don't rush me (lion roar)! ! !

However, after I joined the group of 330 novice mothers, I thought I was king before giving birth, and I didn't know it was bronze until after giving birth-wow, I underestimated it.

After staying in the group for a week, I sent a deep feeling from a rational level: the world has never been the same, especially when welcoming new life, but sometimes people are conscious, even if they just look at those trivial things, they can feel collapsed and helpless.

The whole group has ***330 mothers. Except me, others are either pregnant or have children, ranging in age from several months to several years.

Many people will wonder why a single woman broke into the mother group, so I have to explain the reason, lest everyone think I am a conspiracy theory, hahaha.

In fact, there are several main reasons for joining the group:

First, the group owner is a sunny, beautiful, gentle and educated person in my circle of friends. I like her very much, so I want to join the group to see what she is always saying. Can we get closer? People always want to be close to warmth, and she is the existence of warmth.

Secondly, children have been in my life planning, holding "If there are no children, what I have learned about parenting and the revision of Origin and Fate are useless?" Thanks for the idea of "ah"! Well, I just want to apply what I have learned and not suffer, hahaha. But imagination is always too conceptual, and I lack real details and real dilemmas, so I can prepare myself mentally by knowing the group in advance.

Third, just as some of my friends have just become novice mothers, they may need it on their way to becoming novice mothers. When I can invite them to join the group, they can face all kinds of problems in the process of parenting with these hundreds of mothers. If you have any problems in the process of raising your baby, you can consult at any time, and it is not easy to be depressed after childbirth. Holding a group can better resist hardship and helplessness.

Mao, a female doctor of Shengmen Obstetrics and Gynecology, can't bear the pain of uterine contraction.

I joined this group with my own career. Of course, there is no welcome, because everyone is busy discussing various issues enthusiastically. Their communication topics include

There are many little girls posting, what should a good husband do?

In the process of children's growth, they are physically as small as burping, defecating and vaccinating, and psychologically confident, optimistic, brave and anxious;

What to eat after childbirth and what to lose weight with can be solved;

How to avoid postpartum depression;

How to deal with the tension and anxiety of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law;

How to treat the change of husband's attitude before and after;

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These questions, which I have heard more or less before, will really collapse and be helpless in detail:

? One: all kinds of fears before giving birth:

I was so scared before giving birth. I have a lot of worries. I am very nervous: Is the child healthy? I didn't do much exercise before, will I have the strength to give birth naturally? Can I give birth safely? Will dystocia endanger my baby and my life? Is it bad for the baby's health not to give birth naturally? The baby can't give birth naturally. What should I do if I leave a scar by caesarean section? Really, I thought too much before, and even though the doctor repeatedly stressed that it was okay, I was still so panicked. When I was born, I thought I was awesome.

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? Two: the various conditions of the baby after the birth of the child.

1, the child is always restless, so he has to hug and coax and cry all the time. How dare I rest when he cries? Last night, I tossed and turned until three or four in the morning. I didn't sleep well and my mood was unstable. I still took it out on him later, and then blamed myself for tears.

Always crying at a fixed time does not rule out gastrointestinal cramps. The reason may be overeating. Breastfeeding mothers need to pay attention to the amount of breastfeeding and your diet.

My two-month-old daughter insists on holding her arms vertically, but she refuses to hold her arms horizontally.

? Not yet, right? My body is still too soft. Almost three months. Just let the child's head and body lie on your shoulders and hug his waist.

3. What should my son do if he always rubs his feet and doesn't wear shoes? How can he learn to walk without shoes? I was so worried.

You can study in bed or hold the fence, which is safer and more reassuring. You can also put toys in front, and then adults can help him sit down and hold his crotch in the back. As an adult, climb in front and let him imitate. I think the doctor taught him that.

4. Why do my children always pull green?

(Throw me an article link: Children's stools are all green stools, foam stools, bloodshot stools, milk petal-like stools and egg-shaped stools. )

5. Is it free to vaccinate the baby or is it five-linked? We have called for free. I just want to ask what to do at my own expense. Vaccines are divided into type I and type II. Type II is at your own expense. If you have money, you can play type II five-way.

6. Bao Ma and her children are required to feed 70 ml of milk powder every three hours for one month and give breast milk from time to time. What happened to the baby's stool?

It belongs to breast flap and has indigestion. Here is an article about children's poop. Please have a look.

The 7.24-day-old baby went to the hospital today and was diagnosed with hernia. The doctor told him to observe more and not to have surgery after a year of self-healing. Now he's really scared. I want to ask if there is any treasure mother in the group who has such an experience?

I have a hernia, but I'm fine. I was in the same mood as you at that time, but I got better later. In this case, I suggest you go to a specialist hospital. Don't worry too much.

8. When teasing your baby, you burp every time. What happened?

Hiccups are common in infancy, mainly because newborn babies are not fully developed. When they are slightly stimulated, such as inhaling cold air or sucking milk too fast or too much, the diaphragm will suddenly contract and spasm, leading to rapid inhalation and burping. Burping itself has no effect on your baby's health, so don't worry too much. It takes a while for people to grow up, and so does nerve development. Hiccup is a normal reflex of hiccup nerve.

9. I am particularly worried about my baby's jaundice now.

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There is something wrong with the baby. Parents want to give up. The doctor is persuading them.

Three: the physical and mental pressure that mothers need to face.

1, (overcoming countless food temptations and unbearable pains) My mother cooks chicken soup every day and my mother-in-law cooks water and fruits, but all I can think about is pickled spicy fish, lobster skewers and hot pot, braised pork spicy powder. I am so greedy that I must eat if I can.

When I was pregnant, I vomited for four and a half months before I could eat. It's a blessing to eat it

2. (Body aches) It's stuck again, and it really hurts to swell.

You can use iced potato chips and cabbage. If the pain is unbearable, please call a nurse.

3. (My husband's indifference and the chill caused by the gap between before and after attitudes) I was measuring my waistline in my room when my husband came in and saw me and said, You care about your waistline now. What you should care about is whether the baby has enough milk to drink. I almost flew over with a dart;

? After giving birth to a daughter, I feel like a third party every minute. She and her father are family. In the past, friends were all basking in the sun, but now they are basking in the baby. Also said that I can't call my baby anymore, because I have my own baby.

4, (foreign enemy attack) beautiful mom, your husband is so excellent, will you worry about a little girl posting it?

Yes, many little girls show their love in various ways, but I am not afraid, because I am not bad either!

? 5. (Anxiety without income) My mobile phone broke down at home, because I was used to apples, and I wanted my husband to buy me a new one, but my husband prevaricated that it was too expensive to buy millet, and I was going to divorce soon, leaving my children to earn money. Only the money he earns is the most emboldened.

6. (postpartum depression) At that time, postpartum depression was particularly unstable, and my husband didn't understand it, and I didn't know. Once he went out to participate in unnecessary entertainment activities, and I was so angry that I wanted to directly pick up a knife and cut people.

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"Shengmen" Xia Jinju fell off the uterus after delivery and stopped breathing.

? We are just spectators, but this is their daily life, and it is only a trivial part of daily life.

? The reason why I want to write the first half in a slightly relaxed style is because the triviality of the second half will scare away a group of people who are already afraid of getting married, but my original intention is not here, but I want girls and pregnant mothers who want to have children but have no children to prepare psychologically, so that young men or married childless men who have no idea about having children and being fathers can see the hardships of being mothers in advance and face up to a problem: having children is a serious and full of hardships!

But even if it is hard, my mother will say: the happiness brought by children is far greater than happiness!

Every progress is a surprise, which will bring emotion and feel surrounded by happiness.

The times are progressing, people's choices are more diverse, and cities are more tolerant, so many people want to find themselves, so they choose not to have children. Of course, this is a way of life and a cool and modern choice.

But isn't it cool that these mothers who choose to have children exchange their life safety and career stagnation for the birth of new life? They are selfless, to some extent, greater than those who love themselves and take on more social responsibilities.

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? Emmm, I am lazy and don't write often, but I really want to record this topic. 20 19 I will overcome my laziness, write what I see and think here, and output as much as possible. If you are interested, you can also add me to WeChat and talk to me about entrepreneurship, products, operation, nutrition, sports, beauty, psychology, parenting and beauty.