Many times, I don't want to touch the memories of the past, so I will find that my scars are still there, as if I should forget everything clearly, but all the memories about that time are reproduced because of this theme.
My mother, an out-and-out housewife, looks ordinary and has read some books. She married my father before she was twenty.
Up to now, I can't understand how mom and dad feel about each other. People in those days were often matchmakers, and they decided to live for life. They have never been in love, but they have been in love all their lives.
My mother always said that she was a busy person and didn't even have time to live, die and die. No one knows the hardships and bitterness of this sentence better than I do. Everything is because of my father!
Dad grew up grumpy and paranoid, which is a typical male chauvinism. He often feels depressed. Because of a little thing, my mother will be scolded by him. In front of my father, my mother always looked down carefully, but still dared not say anything, for fear of causing more beatings ... once my mother couldn't stand it, drinking pesticides in the middle of the night. What makes me afraid to ask?
At that time, I was young and often hid in terror. I hate my father, his temper, his lawlessness and his inhumanity to my mother. Every time I hear my mother say behind my back that I won't talk to my father, I am filled with joy and naively expect them to divorce early, because then my mother will not be so painful, but in the end my mother still can't bear to part with my sister. For this family, for the children, she spared no effort to pay silently.
So, in the later years, I was carried by my mother through a long dark mountain road in the middle of the night and bumped back to my grandmother's house; There are countless tossing and turning nights, I saw my mother burying her head in the quilt and sobbing silently. So I hate myself, I hate myself for not growing up quickly, I hate myself for not being a man, I can't protect my mother, I can't stand up for my mother and stop my father's evil deeds!
My mother won't allow me to hate my father. She told me that my father's heart is actually good, but his bad temper determines what he does. His parents died young and didn't study for a few years. The hardships and frustrations of life made him taste the hardships of life prematurely ... I believe my mother's words, because my father will regret it every time afterwards, but he can't control himself as soon as his temper comes up.
At home, dad is a tiger. He is arbitrary. If he is a little unhappy, he will take it out on his mother. She must listen to what he says and do what he tells her. She must find something at once. If he is angry and doesn't eat, she will always persuade him to eat like a child. Otherwise, none of us dare to eat this meal.
Stubborn and stubborn when I grow up, I can't stand such a family environment. I escaped from it and tried to run away from home many times, vowing never to return to this home that made me sad and tearful. I didn't know how worried my mother was at that time. Until that day, I had another quarrel with my father for my mother, and my father told me to get out of this house. My mother pulled me desperately and cried not to let me go. Facing my heartbroken and tearful mother, I almost woke up hysterically. I can't stand up to my father like this. How sad my mother will be if I leave, and how my father will take it out on my mother. I can walk away, but only my mother will suffer. I must apologize to my father for my poor mother's sake. In any case, I can't leave this house!
I know that my father still loves me, but his autocratic thought can never tolerate the children's resistance to him, just like the mother's obedience to him all her life, so should we!
In my father's mind, I always thought that I was my mother's sky, and marrying him was my mother's blessing. Without my father, my mother will live a hard life for farming like other rural women.
In the face of such a father, I will be even more disgusted. It is clearly the fallacy that he is unreasonable, but he is so overbearing and unreasonable!
Mom is not easy. How can he understand? Has he ever worked hard at home and outside? For decades, my mother has been like a spinning top, supporting this family with her thin shoulders. How can I live without my mother outside my home? It has been a habit for many years. Whether it is a father or a sister, the first thing to do when entering the house is to find a mother. The first sentence is "Mom". When mom was away, the whole family was at a loss. Father doesn't know where to change clothes every day, and the lights are on and off. But even so, he still won't admit his dependence on his mother. With her warmth, he felt at ease, but he disagreed!
In other words, as long as his mother is by his side, he will never understand how important his mother is to him!
For many years, my mother worked hard to serve my father, but my father never knew how to pity my mother. My mother has coronary heart disease, and she often feels chest tightness and can't breathe. But in such a family environment, why doesn't she get angry? She knew that she was ill, and even if she was ill, she quietly found some medicine for herself, for fear that her father would blame her for being angry.
"After all these years, I still don't know what your father's temper is, and I'm used to it," my mother always said calmly.
My heart ached like a wrench. This is my mother. My mother has suffered all her life, but she still doesn't think about herself bit by bit!
Today's mother has become haggard and aging, and my retired father has changed his temper. I have grown up, married, and gradually stopped hating, and learned to be patient and tolerant. I know there are still many responsibilities waiting for me in my life. For this family, for my mother, I can only silently love you with my kindness and filial piety for 1000 times and 10000 times, and repay you, my dear mother!
There is no limit to learning the sea.
"There is a road to diligence in Lushan, and there is no limit to learning the sea." This famous saying, which has been passed down through the ages, has inspired many people with lofty ideals to devote themselves to the sea of books, study hard and make beneficial contributions to mankind. In real life, how many people have proved its correctness with their own personal practice. But today, some people think that students study too hard, and the word "bitter" should be changed to the word "happy" and "clever", that is, "there is no limit to learning, and it is difficult for a clever woman to cook without rice." I think this statement is very inappropriate and harmful.
Why can't we change "bitter boat" into "happy boat"? Since learning is hard work, only the spirit of hard work can make progress. How can we regard learning as an entertainment and a game? Some people say that learning is an interesting and enjoyable thing. Only through "hard work" and "hard study" can we enjoy the pleasure of continuous progress and success.
Why can't we change "bitter boat" into "clever boat"? Since learning is a kind of hard work, you need to have an honest attitude, and of course you can't have tricky ideas. Some people say that "cleverness" refers to scientific learning methods. Of course, scientific methods are indispensable for learning, but with scientific methods, can you learn effortlessly? With a good method, you still need to study hard to achieve higher efficiency. Imagine, can you have good ideas without studying hard?
People who have made achievements in learning since ancient times cannot do without the word "bitterness".
Balzac, a famous French writer, was called "an outstanding novelist" by Marx. Why can he achieve such a high achievement? According to records, he worked hard day and night for more than 20 years, writing continuously for more than 16 hours every day, and only sleeping for three or four hours. This is not bitter enough! His great achievements were bought with "hard work".
China women's volleyball girl said humorously, "Bitterness is a panacea. If we want to be strong, we must take this medicine every day. Although bitter, there is sweetness in bitterness. Flowers will bloom in sweat. " How well this is said! We say that any success, any achievement, can not be separated from a word "bitter", all with sweat.
To sum up, we believe that "there is no limit to learning the sea, and there is no limit to building a boat" should always be our motto, so that we can always be inspired to study hard, study diligently and keep climbing on the scientific road.
Behind success is sweat.
In our world, there are some successful people. We often envy these people. But most people only see the joy of their success. How many people can see the hardships of their efforts?
I think: if people want to succeed, they must struggle. We should not forget that our athletes won 28 gold medals for our country and won honor for our motherland at the Sydney Olympic Games. How much sweat they paid for the honor on the podium! The gold medal is the result of their intensive training every day. Athletes' struggle can be exchanged for gold medals; The struggle of inventors can change our world. Therefore, struggle is the only way to succeed.
On the road of struggle, we need to sweat. God is very fair, how much you pay, how much you get. In today's world, who can succeed without effort? If no one had worked hard for China's revolutionary cause before, People's Republic of China (PRC) would not have been established. If people didn't struggle and sweat for the "four modernizations", then we wouldn't have a happy life now; Similarly, if we don't work hard now, China will gradually decline in the future. So, how should we struggle to succeed?
Edison said, "If you want to succeed, you should regard persistence as your good friend, experience as your reference, caution as your brother and hope as your sentry." In my opinion, the first step to success should be to have a clear goal and establish a correct outlook on life. This is a necessary condition for success. If there is no goal, then success will become empty talk. Secondly, we need to make unremitting efforts. On the journey of success, it is full of ups and downs. Someone once said: "success is the crystallization of struggle to overcome difficulties and obstacles." If we give up after a small failure, we will never taste success. Edison had more than 65,438+0,000 inventions in his life. Among them, he experienced many failures, but he did not give up his career. He once said: "failure is what I need, and it is as valuable to me as success." Third, opportunity is also one of the factors of success. In my opinion, only when the opportunity comes, can we define our goals and fight for them, and we can succeed.
Let's struggle on the road to success and exchange sweat for the fruits of success.
Where there is a will, there is a way.
Ambition is the determination to make a difference; Success is achievement. People who can achieve something in their studies and careers, from getting the first place in the exam and seeking an official position to the prosperity of the country and the nation, are all people with lofty aspirations.
"What foreigners can do, China people can certainly do it!" This is not an impulsive rhetoric, but the "ambition" of the discriminated people in China, which made Tong Dizhou and Zhan Tianyou express the pride of the China people in front of the world.
Lu Xun, the most difficult bone to chew in modern China, became the greatest writer and thinker in modern times when the situation was changeable, the disaster was severe, and the contradictions between nationalities and classes were extremely acute and complicated. At the beginning, Lu Xun, a young man who is keen on natural science, realized that even if China people are physically strong, they can only be shot for public display, or be a numb audience, which is meaningless to China's social reform, so he got a pen and wished "I commend Xuanyuan with blood". Such unforgettable choices and firm aspirations make Lu Xun the Kunlun of modern culture in China.
All the examples of bowed piles show the importance of "ambition" to "success". A person without ambition is like being exhausted in a vast desert without an oasis.
At the age of five, Zhong Yong, who could "refer to things and write poems", lost his ambition because his father was greedy for interests. What's more, there is no "ambition" and "Jiang Lang is exhausted" everywhere. If "Zhong Yong" and "Jiang Lang" are determined by their talents, our ancestors may have too many "Edison".
However, yearning is easy, but it is difficult to achieve. There are two monks in West Shu, one is poor and the other is rich. They both have ambitions to go to the South China Sea. However, the rich have been trying to buy a boat for several years, but they have failed, while the poor have a bottle and a bowl. Why? It's just that for the rich, only the "desire" has not moved, while the poor are making unremitting efforts. In this way, the rich are just daydreaming, or their ambitions have not been put into action. What's the difference between such an armchair strategist and a man without ambition?
Because of ambition, the stream flows into the sea; Because of ambition, the dead branches look forward to the green leaves in spring; Because of ambition, human beings have contributed to the height of mountain peaks. Let's stand on the horizon and build our dreams, because we are ambitious and will fight for our dreams. We will be the sea and green leaves, and we will stand on the top of the mountain.
Where there is a will, there is a way.
My concept of money
People need money to live, but they can't live just for money. Money is the condition of life, but it is not the only thing in life. There are many things more important than money in human society.
I once read an article called "Chasing money makes people go to jail" (a money-chasing ghost-Amin's regret): Amin really wants to buy social status with money. He thought that money makes the mare go, so he quit his job as a public security officer to sell clothes. His business is very good, and he is getting rich. He thinks his "value" is increasing day by day like money, and he worships money even more. Apart from money, he is arrogant. The endless desire for money has become a catalyst for his accelerated decline. In order to get more money, he gradually embarked on the criminal road of fraud. He cheated his elders in his hometown by 654.38+0.47 million, and cheated a unit in the south by 654.38+0.3 million, leading a life of spending money like water. He wants to get ahead and get rich, but his hands are tightly handcuffed by a pair of cold handcuffs. Finally sentenced to fixed-term imprisonment 15 years. His wife left him, and the golden moment of his life will be spent in prison. He lost his family, relatives and freedom.
Amin is a typical example of the wrong view of money. Although he has a lot of money, he also had a short period of joy and enjoyment, but it was only a flash in the pan. His blind and illegal pursuit of money not only ruined his future, but also brought pain to many people and ruined the happiness of many innocent people! Is it worth it? Is money really that important?
Don't! Money can buy a bed, but it can't buy sleep; Money can buy tonic, but it can't buy health; Money can buy food, but it can't buy appetite; Money can buy books, but not knowledge; Money can buy clocks, but not time. The pursuit of life is colorful, and the satisfaction of material life is of course important, but lofty ideals, career success, family happiness, knowledge and health are the pursuit of life. Although many of them are related to money, money can't be bought, and money is not a value.
Money, life does not bring, death does not bring, life is too short, and the immediate fame and wealth will disappear one day. Only by making good use of opportunities, making good use of time, making selfless contributions to society, the country and the world, making inventions, creating wealth (spiritual wealth and material wealth) for mankind and bringing happiness to others, can we turn short into eternity.
Paul Cochakin once said: "The most precious thing for human beings is life. Life belongs to human beings only once, and human life should be spent like this;" When he looks back on the past, he will not regret wasting his time, nor will he be ashamed of doing nothing. "Money is not the whole of life. Create a meaningful life, draw a rainbow for life, create a meaningful life in a limited life, constantly improve yourself, create brilliant achievements, benefit future generations, and let "life" continue.
In human society, there are many things more important than money, such as noble personality, sincere friendship, parental affection and so on. These are all money "out of reach". Even if your family is rich and there are no relatives and friends to share, what if there is more money? Although you seem to have a lot of things (bought with money), can money heal you and cheer you up when you are sick or frustrated? What's it like to enjoy food alone? A person's life should have material life and spiritual life. Material life is our living state, and spiritual life is the road sign that dominates life, which is more important than material life. In other words: having a sincere, kind, aboveboard heart and noble sentiment is more important than money.
There is a passage in Xin Ying's Revelation of Epiphyllum: "Epiphyllum condenses its life in just two hours and blooms brilliantly in the world. I think the moment it blooms, it has become an inseparable part of eternity. So I suddenly realized that people's lives don't care about the length of years, but about whether people's lives reveal the fragrance of life and the brilliance of human nature in a short time, shining through the ages, coexisting with the universe and competing with the sun and the moon. My view of money is that happiness is not an unattainable flower built on the cliff of money. Money is small, meaningful life is great, and it is a peak worthy of our admiration and climbing. Only by taking noble character as the road sign can we climb the meaningful peak of life.
Time and diligence
Time often slips away from us unconsciously. Can't see, can't buy, can't touch, can't stay. Although we can't control it, we can make good use of our time to do meaningful things; Work hard and write a glorious page of history with a short life.
Some people don't know that time is precious, and they are lazy and bored all day. Spend time playing, not making progress, or even committing crimes, so time is wasted. Only when you are old and weak can you understand the value of time and cherish it. Unfortunately, it is too late, and time is gone forever. In the end, you will accomplish nothing, and you will waste your time and regret it!
Some people use their time to do good deeds, and use it to study hard, work hard, study hard, create inventions and make great contributions to the world. Just like Edison invented the electric light, he not only had strong determination, but also succeeded by persevering, trying to seize every minute and forgetting to eat and sleep. Great celebrities at all times and all over the world have made countless great achievements and are immortal, all because they are successful time managers who can seize the time, give full play to their intelligence and diligence, and make themselves full and happy.
There is a proverb in China: "An inch of time is worth an inch of gold, and an inch of gold cannot buy an inch of time". Success is not a fluke. Students should cherish time, study hard and don't be lazy at school. Don't neglect your studies day after day. Qian Hetan of the Qing Dynasty pointed out: "Tomorrow is tomorrow, and there are so many tomorrows. I will wait for tomorrow, and everything will be wasted. "
Besides making good use of time, we should not forget the importance of diligence, so as to achieve excellent results. If you are lazy and afraid of suffering, you will never achieve anything. Edison once said, "Genius is one percent inspiration and ninety-nine percent perspiration". This is what we must remember.
Ideal and success
Ideal is the great ambition in the future. Everyone has an ideal, some people want to be scientists, some people want to be athletes ... If someone asks me what my ideal is, I will not hesitate to say, "Be a doctor!" " "If he wants to break what comes next, he will have to speak slowly.
I remember when I was in the third grade, I caught a cold and went to the hospital for an injection every day. At that time, I had a bad cold, so I couldn't go to exercise and play with my classmates on the playground, so I was depressed. Mother stroked my head and said, "don't lose your spirit because of such a minor illness." Some people are more abnormal than you, but they still do what they should do like normal people. It is not worth frowning because you are sick. " From that day on, I was not only refreshed, but much better. From then on, I made up my mind to be an excellent doctor and cure all diseases.
The ideal is simple to say, but not easy to realize. We have to start from the usual bit by bit. As the saying goes, "No pains are too sweet to come". Only when you are bitter now can you relax later.
One day, I was busy during the day and didn't finish my homework. It was past 9 pm when I got home, and I just opened the Chinese book. 30 minutes have passed, 1 hour has passed, and I am still writing hard. Dad urged me to eat watermelon, and I ate watermelon with two teeth in less than 5 minutes. For the first time, I feel that time is so important. After eating the melon, I continued to "work" It's almost 1 1 o'clock, and my mother advised me, "Take a bath and go to sleep. Today is special, and the rest of the homework will be done tomorrow. " I was so sleepy that I couldn't open my eyes at that time, but in order not to increase my homework the next day, I took out my last energy and finally finished my homework at 1 1. The next day, my father gave me an "excellent" evaluation. This is the result of my own efforts, and I am very happy.
When I used to do my homework in the back room, I was attracted by the sound of TV and would secretly climb to the door to eavesdrop. Now, I know the importance of studying, and I can restrain myself. This is also a big step forward. Learning sometimes squeezes out the time to play, but only by studying hard now can we realize our ideals in the future and have no regrets.
The fragrance of plum blossoms comes from the cold.
Yang Zhonghua (a student of our factory) was admitted to the University of Pennsylvania with excellent results. This news spread like wildfire in Jinjiang factory and immediately became a hot topic. What made this ordinary worker's child admitted to a famous American school? Is it his genius? Or is he lucky? No. All this is due to his extraordinary hard work. Look at him, a young man in his early twenties, with gray hair. You can imagine how hard he works. It can be seen that excellent achievements come from diligence, hard work and hard work. The so-called "plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold".
There is an old saying in China: "There is no limit to learning the sea." During the Warring States Period in China, Su Qin was the prime minister of the six countries because he studied hard when he was a child. There are many examples of being diligent and eager to learn, such as: Che Yin, in order to study, reflected snow at any cost; When Wang Xizhi was studying calligraphy, he wrote eighteen jars of water and became a generation of calligraphers in China ... This shows that learning requires perseverance, perseverance and hard work. There is nothing in the world for nothing. Even if you are interested, you must be strong and focused at the same time to succeed.
The great inventor Edison once said, "Genius is 99% sweat and 1% inspiration." Chen Jingrun, a famous mathematician in China, studies hard and diligently, and there are several sacks of draft paper for calculating math problems every time. It is precisely because of this that he can not be influenced by other people's bad words. In this way, he carefully calculated again and again in the studio, and finally climbed to the peak of the mathematical problem "1+2" in Goldbach's conjecture.
"If it's not freezing, how can there be plum blossom fragrance?" From ancient times to the present, he has made great achievements, but he works very hard and has a spirit of endurance. Only by doing it diligently is the real way. The new semester is about to begin. I will redouble my efforts to learn knowledge, strive for good grades, and let all scientific fields go up a storey still higher!