Fatigue point
Young couples, especially those who worked hard in first-and second-tier cities after 1980 s and 1990 s, have only worked for four or five years. Under the looting of mortgages and car loans, they have little savings. Once they have children, it is undoubtedly a disaster for young parents. Everything related to the baby has become one of the most profitable industries at present. The road to the baby's growth is paved with RMB, not to mention the school district, which is the sword of Damocles hanging overhead all the time. Those who can grind their teeth and wander in first-and second-tier cities are malicious people. It doesn't want to go with the flow to a nearby school. The high cost of childcare is also a realistic dilemma. My body and my heart will always be affected.
In the plot, the woman is a fashion buyer and the man is a wine salesman in a high-end restaurant. Their income is enough to support them to live a decent life in Hong Kong, but everything related to their children is high, and they are unwilling to save money on their children, so once they get pregnant, money becomes the first problem to surface.
Ma Bao this year is not simple. She has at least one undergraduate degree. She began to learn all kinds of scientific parenting methods from pregnancy, steaming bottles, feeding, recording work and rest, disinfection and hygiene, and keeping everything by books. However, geese are prone to emotional crisis after giving birth, and the desire to protect their mothers for the first time is bursting. As a Virgo, it is inevitable that she will carry out perfectionism to the end. Even a small negligence can be entangled for a long time. However, the result of constant entanglement is tragic milk return, and you can't give your child the best food according to the book. You feel distressed and blame yourself. When you are tired, you will encounter tears and ask if you are tired.
In the TV series, as soon as the baby is brought home, the woman takes the man to give her parents all-round military training. Opening her mouth is professional judgment, and closing her mouth is an encyclopedia of parenting. In order to strictly implement the scientific standards of child-rearing, she was exhausted, and finally her emotional problems met with lack of sleep, so she returned to milk properly. Back to the milk, the idea of not giving the baby the best food stagnated in my heart, which immediately brought greater guilt and self-blame to the hostess. The emotional crisis spirals up, and it's terrible to think about it.
According to the life tradition of China people, after having a baby, the whole family is still mobilized, and two generations go into battle together. It is difficult for novice mothers and in-laws to unify the concept of parenting, and contradictions are everywhere. Postpartum depression waves to you in minutes and asks if you are tired.
In the play, after the hostess blablabla finished a bunch of scientific parenting classics, her mother said, "Your mother and I brought six before, but I still raised you." The hostess and mother-in-law quarreled about whether to give the baby a pacifier. Mother-in-law responded that you used to eat pacifiers, and now you still have a small cherry mouth.
pain spot
Nowadays, women are about 23 years old when they graduate from college, almost 26 years old when they graduate from graduate school, and about 30 years old when they have been employed for five to seven years, showing an upward trend. Once they have a baby, they have to leave their jobs for at least six months, not to mention that it is inconvenient to travel in infancy and they don't want to work overtime. Even civil servants or institutions are inevitably rejected by leaders, let alone the vast number of foreign companies and private enterprises. I don't know how many teenagers I need before I can relax and concentrate on my career after giving birth. The high probability event is that I will take raising a baby as my main business from now on, and my career will be muddling along. The economic base determines the superstructure, and even my family status may be unstable. Are you hurt?
The heroine in the play had the opportunity to be sent to Paris for further study before she got pregnant, because the arrival of the child not only missed the opportunity of career promotion, but also simply left her job. Although with the development of the plot, with the help of her mother, the hostess got a well-run Yue Yue intermediary company at a very low price, but this is a story blessed by the protagonist's aura after all. If we were ordinary people, I'm afraid it wouldn't be so easy to have a happy ending.
After pregnancy, you will gain weight. Under the action of hormones and skin, you will also get acne, spots and stretch marks. After giving birth to a child, the woman seems to have been drained of energy, her figure is out of shape and withered, and her appearance and figure are ruined. After giving birth to a baby, in order to be a good cow, everything is stuffed into the mouth, just asking the child to eat. It is common for him not to wash his face and comb his hair for a day during maternity leave. Once he loves beauty, he will be kidnapped by morality, accused of not loving children, and unwilling to spend more time and thought on them. Did it hurt you?
The heroine in the play has been worried about being out of shape since she got pregnant. Colleagues also warned of various negative changes in her appearance during pregnancy. Although there is artistic exaggeration in it, what she said is true.
After talking so much about the history of pregnancy and childbirth, don't scare the unmarried and childless sisters. Although parenting is tiring and painful, some people have joined the ranks of teachers, nurses and mothers, and they are bitter about small things. Giving birth to a child is indeed a major change in life and a major crisis in the family. Whether it can pass smoothly depends on its own adjustment.
1. Not very demanding.
Scientific parenting is good, but you don't need to be demanding. Excessive scientific implementation will inevitably lead to overcorrection and become dogma. Children are not produced on the assembly line, and every baby has his own habits, not to mention cats and dogs for three days. Too much adherence to the so-called science will easily disrupt children's work and rest, and tossing adults will also pit children. It is better to be a little Buddhist and let yourself and your family live.
take one's time in reaching a decision
The figure is ruined, and the unkempt appearance every day is only for a period of time. With the passage of time, although there will always be different problems in parenting, I believe that time can also turn a weak woman into a superman mother. After the upgrade, you can not only take care of your baby's work one day, go out beautifully every day, but also appreciate yourself who insisted on biting your teeth. Looking at Eva's angelic smile, all the hard work is worth it.
3. Love home
After having a baby, everything revolves around the baby, and unconsciously a baby-centered mindset is formed. But in fact, the family is a whole, and the baby is just a member of the family. Whether it is yourself, the elderly or teammates, they need care. So Eva should love her family, create a good family atmosphere for her, and let her grow up in a loving family.