There is always such a question in Zhihu that will be recommended by the homepage-how did you lose weight successfully, or what habits can make your face look good?

The answer to high praise always begins with a sad story: I fell in love with a boy with high face value, but the result was that my confession was rejected because of my low face value, or I found that someone had a female ticket with excellent face value, which made me feel more inferior.

After being hit, I began to realize that it is so important to lose weight and become beautiful, or that the motivation to change myself has doubled compared with before.

In this process, the rotten nonsense will be verified again-once a person wants to do something from the heart, the whole world will make way for you.

I used to think that these chicken soups for the soul were poisonous. Look at them.

However, after a series of unsuccessful blind date experiences, in order to avenge the past, I took losing weight as the top priority, and I lost 6 pounds a month.

The first time I went to class after I resumed school, my classmates also said that I had lost weight.

My mother wants to find me a date with my photos. Everyone hates my old photos and says I look better now.

Although we all looked a little miserable at first, it was because of the stimulation after the blow that we had the opportunity to learn to love ourselves and then get better step by step!

02

I read an article in high school called Youth without Beautiful Clothes. When I was in middle school, I felt inferior because my family was poor and I couldn't wear beautiful clothes like other female students. At the end of the article, the author said that the youth in school is used to study hard, whether there are beautiful clothes or not.

Later, the author changed his fate through learning, and he was very proud.

My high school is similar to the author of the article. Although I felt inferior, I didn't realize it at that time. I began to pay attention to myself, and I didn't like my performance as adolescence.

Just glad to find psychological comfort, it turns out that I was not poor or ugly when I was in middle school alone!

I also think a blessing in disguise is a blessing in disguise. After all, parents and teachers paid more attention to academic performance at that time.

Isn't this a good thing that is more conducive to learning?

03

It was hard to survive until I graduated from high school for six years and went to college. I think I have done my best and fulfilled my parents' wish to let us go to school.

I have grown up, and my true self, who loves beauty, has grown up and matured. I hope I can decide my own life direction in the future.

But look in the mirror and find yourself poor and ugly.

I also try to buy some discounted clothes to dress myself up, but I still can't count on cosmetics.

Plus, my father, who has always had an important influence on me, is still chasing my ass to get grades like high school.

Then I will continue to paralyze myself-God still wants me to achieve a counterattack through hard work, and it is impossible to rely on the face value!

Still compromise to patriarchy. Self-awareness, want to love their true self, still no breakthrough success.

At that time, I kept thinking, why can't I get up early and be self-disciplined like a top student? Why do I just lie in bed and can't sleep, so that I basically waste it in bed the next morning?

I haven't found it yet. It was my subconscious that began to resist the life arranged by my father.

Including once, I also considered taking the postgraduate entrance examination or taking the civil service examination. Although I finally gave up, economic conditions were the direct cause. The root cause is that my father recognizes these two ways, so I won't choose!

My body just obeyed my true will.

I didn't really understand this until I saw the book "The Body Know the Answer" by psychologist Wu Zhihong this year (Douban score is 8.0, which is highly recommended).

It was in the fifth year after graduation that I did not choose the postgraduate entrance examination and civil servants that my father was optimistic about, and I changed five or six jobs myself.

During this period, my father and I had a big fight because we didn't take the postgraduate entrance examination in senior three. I cried and he gave up. Because there is no civil service exam again, the result is the same as above.

The last time was the Spring Festival in 2020. My parents and I came back from my brother's house in Wuhan and were isolated together in our hometown for nearly a month.

Sure enough, everyone can't stand each other without the filter of distance producing beauty. Especially for our family that lacks love and has not learned to love ourselves.

World War III broke out between us. He asked me when I would get married, and I said I didn't want to. What if, like my mother, I meet my father (of course, I didn't tell him this)?

As a father, I am very grateful to him. But as a husband, I think it will be better for my mother to love herself, and divorce may be happier!

I'm also worried that the person I'm looking for can't meet his requirements, such as not working in a state-owned enterprise and having a low education.

You see, I still don't put my own needs first, it's all a habit!

You asked me the result, of course I cried, and he gave up!

My father and daughter probably like to play this game. They are all naive enough.

But through these two times, the self-awareness of loving oneself began to prevail. Do you have any wood?

04

In the past, I only paid attention to studying at school and working after graduation, but I never put my feelings first.

Obviously, I spare no effort. I still feel that everything is not going well. I love to lose my temper and complain, which makes others hate me. The pressure is so great that I lose my hair and often catch a cold. I can't concentrate on my work and I can't get any results.

After I met "the body knows the answer", I was sure that this was not what I really wanted, so my body was fighting for me.

From then on, I began to pay attention to my health.

If my parents can't give me the love I really want and need, then I will be my own parents and love myself more.

I began to look for my true self in my subconscious, instead of being controlled by my own thoughts and becoming a "self" as a brain tool.

Then my world began to become different and better.

Since the leader doesn't like me, my grades are not recognized. I no longer force myself to prepare lessons in the office and dormitory.

Start running to lose weight after work and exercise for at least one hour every day.

It's not that I didn't want to exercise before, but I was exhausted from work and I didn't have the strength to lie in bed after work.

Go to bed before 10 at night, and turn off the lights and mobile phones at 1 1 0, and feel your body wholeheartedly, just like Wu Zhihong said in his book.

If something is wrong, ask it what is wrong, and then the picture that comes to mind is the answer it tells you.

Then, tell you my recent changes:

The most remarkable change is that I lost 6 pounds of meat.

Quit snacks such as puffed food. If you are hungry, you usually eat fruit and drink yogurt. After eating less, I ate less dinner, and now I can basically not eat it.

I can wake up naturally after 6 o'clock in the morning, and I still have time to go to work after breakfast.

The work that used to be put off after work was done unconsciously at work.

The relationship with colleagues is also relatively harmonious, and there are more contacts.

There is basically no acne on the face, and there is basically no hair loss when washing your hair and taking a shower.

I get into the habit of moving, I can do whatever I think at once, and I can wash the dirty clothes one hour before going to bed, instead of just piling them up.

After the start of school, students scored well in the joint exam, better than in the first half of the year.

The little girl who was specially encouraged and cared for by me made a great leap in her grades, which made her feel a sense of accomplishment!

05

This is what I got after I really loved myself!

Although it is not as obvious as the achievements of the wise tiger gods, I can lose 6 pounds a month and 36 pounds in half a year, and it is no longer out of reach, right?

Rather than saying that we prefer the beautiful and thin self, we prefer the self-love self.

The world of looking at faces is not all wrong.

Some people only see people who love themselves by looking at their faces.

My heart is full of love, so I will not blindly ask others for it. I will be more grateful and less complaining. Only in this way can there be a surplus to give love to others. Because there is living water in my heart, this love will not dry up.

If you can't be a rich man for the time being, start by becoming a rich man who loves you, start by loving yourself, and finally arrive!

May we all achieve-

The glass is clear, and the oranges are brilliant!