I have a friend who was born in an unhappy family. Parents always quarrel and always talk about divorce. They always talk about divorce, and they actually got a marriage certificate and went to the Civil Affairs Bureau for divorce. However, every time I arrive at the door, I cringe.

Seeing such a thing makes people laugh and cry. Couples who always talk about divorce will not be happy even if they live together in the future.

In my opinion, marriage is a contract concluded by two people together. It takes two people to support each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, keep their original sincerity and be willing to take responsibility for each other, so that the marriage can last longer. Marriage is sacrosanct.

Although marriage is sacred, not all marriages are perfect. As Russell said, "If marriage breaks down, divorce will be destroyed, because divorce is a system that exists because of marriage, and divorce is the safety valve of marriage."

When two people can't go on, the marriage cracks and betrays, and the two people drift away, so there is no need to be together. It is also a kind of luck to break off the fate of husband and wife early in such a sad marriage. Because not all predecessors will realize their mistakes and take care of your good after marriage problems.

Mei Lin and Jia Kai got married with resentment. Moreover, the biggest mistake in marriage is Jia Kai. Mei Lin and Jia Kai have been married for more than ten years. They have a son and a daughter, which is a twins. But it happened that Jia Kai didn't live up to expectations, and she cheated in her marriage.

When talking about the cause of love, Jia Kai also rightfully thought that it was a problem of two people, and also scolded Mei Lin for a lot of faults. For example, Meilin's weight soared from more than 90 to 140, with out-of-shape figure, flabby skin and good temper. She keeps a straight face every day as if someone owed her money. Besides, Mei Lin's mouth never stops. She is always a nag. Jia Kai is under great pressure in the company, and it is common to feel bored. She had to listen to Mei Lin's nagging when she got home. In the long run, Jia Kai will get bored.

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Jia Kai's lover is a woman with a child. She is really good-natured and soft-spoken, but cheating is cheating. Jia Kai bought the woman an expensive bag and gave her a meal allowance, but the two had never had a substantive relationship, so Jia Kai, who was cheeky, thought it was a good match for Merlin.

Mei Lin is not easy to bully. When two people are together, they promise to be loyal to each other, so she can't stand Jia Kai's betrayal, even emotional infidelity, so she asked him for a divorce. However, after the divorce, Jia Kai's actions made Mei Lin very angry.

Merlin's parents are very traditional and don't want their daughter to divorce. Besides, Jia Kai didn't really betray her family, so their parents persuaded Merlin not to make trouble. In the end, my parents were still afraid that Merlin would get divorced. They know Merlin and will take care of the children then. Second marriage is hard to find, and life will definitely be hard.

Jia Kai has a successful career now, and both of them have no credit and hard work along the way. They are both original children and same-sex children. Parents feel that this marriage is inseparable. Unexpectedly, Jia Kai had the cheek to put all the blame on Merlin. He also complained to Merlin's parents: "Do you know how angry your daughter is? Mei Lin is so nagging at home that she doesn't leave me any space. She is so suspicious all day. Women's dress is so old-fashioned, that every time the company holds an annual meeting, it has to find its own secretary to follow. "

Then Merlin's parents are not really confused. Knowing that Jia Kai was wrong, he also complained a lot about his daughter, so he could see the man clearly.

On the other hand, she supported Meilin's divorce. Meilin was cruel and really divorced.

After the divorce, Mei Lin didn't have any problems with the division of property and house, only about the children, and she was unwilling to give up either one. Jia Kai's family passed the story for three generations, and she certainly wouldn't give up her son, so in the end, Mei Lin took her daughter away and left her son to Jia Kai.

Who would have thought that after the divorce, the intersection of the two people was less, but Merlin heard gossip from his former classmates and two friends with friendship. After the divorce, Jia Kai told everyone the fact of his divorce. He also said how irresponsible Mei Lin was and how suspicious she was with him. Mei Lin was not satisfied with this. Even Mei Lin didn't do anything, but Jia Kai made it colorful.

In the face of Jia Kai's disparaging remarks, Merlin chose to endure.

She was so angry that she didn't contact Jia Kai for two years after marriage, but every once in a while, she would let her daughter go back to their home to see her brother.

After the divorce, Mei Lin took her daughter with her. Although it was very difficult at first, slowly, after her life returned to the right track, Mei Lin succeeded in her career and later gained her own love. But Jia Kai is not so lucky. Jia Kai had an affair with his lover, but when he wanted to establish a real marriage relationship with the other party, the lover refused.

So Jia Kai found a new home. However, with his son and bad temper, he didn't find someone to take over. Most of them have been in love and can't get married, so they have to be single for two years. The days when my son is with him are even worse. When Jia Kai was not good at cooking, he used to be a butcher. Besides ordering takeout, he eats instant noodles. He lost weight and his children were malnourished.

Meilin knew that she was upset. She didn't refuse to take back her son Jia Kai. He can't let the children suffer with him. At this time, he remembered the kindness of his ex-wife and wanted to take this opportunity to remarry. Mei Lin told him, "thank you, I'm getting engaged soon, but it's none of your business." His mind is much broader than yours. They all said I would never trust you again. Give me the baby, give me the living expenses. As for if you really want to find one, try a blind date. I can't help you.

It is common for them not to wait for you in the same place after divorce, but what they never expected was that Mei Lin's refusal made Jia Kai make a big fuss again, telling everyone how sincere his confession was this time and asking whether Mei Lin had had a relationship with his second marriage partner.

Mei Lin was very calm when she heard this. She also specially sent a circle of friends: "There is a kind of man who is too selfish and will not let you go after divorce. Only people with bad lives will criticize each other everywhere, but they don't know that this is their own fault and deserve it. "

Even if you are divorced, you should not tell your ex what to do. In the entertainment circle, there are many divorced couples who expose each other's shortcomings and make each other like enemies. It's really unnecessary. Where the truth is, it will always surface and usher in retribution.

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Mei Lin's case reminds me of a previous online discussion: When a man reaches middle age, if a man and a woman divorce, and then the man comes back to find his ex-wife, what do you think his purpose is? Is it true repentance?

In fact, there is probably only one purpose for a man to take the initiative to find his ex-wife, that is, after leaving you, he must have suffered a loss before discovering your kindness and realizing that you are the only one who is really kind to him, and only you are willing to put up with his temper and his consistent style. If you don't meet inappropriate people after marriage, or if you are too sloppy, you can't do trivial things at home well. No one will take care of the family for him, and you will never think of your ex-wife's kindness.

There is a saying in The Kite Runner: The man who was willing to pick up a kite for me in Qian Qian a thousand times has passed away. If you miss life, you will never get it again. Maybe we will repent and redeem, but it seems too late. Whenever we fly kites, we should ask ourselves whether we really cherish everything we have.

But time waits for no one. If a cold heart can be easily covered by heat, it is inevitable that this heart will be trampled again. Therefore, advise men not to cherish when someone can take care of you.

You were together because you really liked each other. Now that you are married, it means that you have to bear the responsibility of marriage. She will grow old, and so will you. Don't always find fault with each other. You have to accept each other's aging, accept each other's changes and reflect on your own shortcomings.

Of course, this also reminds all girls that they must keep their eyes open when they are in love and keep their luster after marriage. Maybe their figure, clothes and looks are not suitable for men, but they look good and like them.

In the face of unworthy people and unworthy marriages, it is also a good thing to stop losses in time. Don't be afraid to bet the happiness of your life on such a person.

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