Second, we will never stop until we reach our goal. People are naturally lazy. When they can't see the effect for a day or two, they will be disappointed and give up, thinking that there is no effect and there is no point in sticking to it. In fact, sometimes things will succeed if you take one more step. As the cloud says, today is cruel, tomorrow is even more cruel, but the day after tomorrow is beautiful, but most people will die tomorrow night. This sentence fully illustrates the importance of persistence. As the saying goes, everything depends on human effort. As long as you persevere, you are not afraid of being thick-skinned and unable to practice. Success comes from understanding. If you want to destroy your self-esteem and cultivate your cheekiness, you must carry out the rogue spirit of "I am a rogue, who am I afraid of" to the end, because only with this fearless spirit can you overcome one difficulty after another on the road of cheekiness and finally reach the peak. In the TV series Big Dyeing Workshop, Liu told Zhao that a rogue wanted to rob him of his money and cut meat at the gate of his factory. People are a little scared when they see you cut a piece and I eat one. As a result, the hooligans couldn't hold back and ran away, never making trouble again. If this rascal persists for a while, with Chen's lofty sentiments, he will respect the hero and will definitely give him some money, but it is precisely because he did not persist.
Third, don't move like a mountain. On the road of impudence, some people criticize and others laugh. No matter what others say, we should correct our attitude and do what we should do. Don't be impatient, don't move blindly, slowly and steadily, go down step by step on the cheeky road, and finally reach the peak. Just like Sima Yi in the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang called him a woman who didn't dare to go to war, and gave him a bright set of women's clothes, but Sima Yi put them on to show Zhuge Liang in Shu. This shows that Sima Yi is thick-skinned and Xiang Yu wants to cook Liu Bang's biological father. Liu bang said, we are sworn brothers. Cooking my father means cooking your father. Don't forget to give me a cake if you want to cook. This is not only thick-skinned, but also scheming.
To sum up, thick skin is built on the basis of strong self-confidence, which is a shameless performance, and vice versa. Because thick skin can only be shown when you overcome considerable fear, and no one can do it. It is not easy for timid, stingy and shy people to want to be cheeky.
Question 2: How can I be a cheeky person? No one will be particularly interested in mental patients unless he is a psychiatrist. However, when a person tells you that I am a mental derangement, I believe that at this time you may have a little emotion, either curiosity or disgust. But why did this man say that? I believe that people who talk about themselves in this way can never be real psychopaths. He did this for only two purposes. One is that he wants to interest you, and the other is that he wants to avoid responsibility. There are many ways to arouse others' interest in yourself, such as being an idiot, saying that you have six toes, saying that you have practiced the sunflower collection, living in the palace, and so on. Yes, calling yourself a psycho is one of them. In the impression of ordinary people, mental patients usually stay in the hospital or talk to themselves with broken quilts on the roadside. However, a well-dressed and normal-looking person told you that I was a mental derangement. At this time, I believe that as long as I am not a psychopath, I will always be a little curious. However, when your emotions are mobilized, what he started to say has nothing to do with mental illness. He speaks cheerfully or pretends to be deeply silent, and your curiosity will be aroused bit by bit. At this time, he knew that his purpose had been achieved. No normal person is willing to seriously say that he is a mental derangement in public, because it requires a lot of courage, and this courage usually comes from a fearless and strong heart, and there is no shameful footnote, which is often called cheekiness. No one will be particularly interested in mental patients unless he is a psychiatrist. However, when a person tells you that I am a mental derangement, I believe that at this time you may have a little emotion, either curiosity or disgust. But why did this man say that? I believe that people who talk about themselves in this way can never be real psychopaths. He did this for only two purposes. One is that he wants to interest you, and the other is that he wants to avoid responsibility. There are many ways to arouse others' interest in yourself, such as being an idiot, saying that you have six toes, saying that you have practiced the sunflower collection, living in the palace, and so on. Yes, calling yourself a psycho is one of them. In the impression of ordinary people, mental patients usually stay in the hospital or talk to themselves with broken quilts on the roadside. However, a well-dressed and normal-looking person told you that I was a mental derangement. At this time, I believe that as long as I am not a psychopath, I will always be a little curious. However, when your emotions are mobilized, what he started to say has nothing to do with mental illness. He speaks cheerfully or pretends to be deeply silent, and your curiosity will be aroused bit by bit. At this time, he knew that his purpose had been achieved. No normal person is willing to seriously say that he is a mental derangement in public, because it requires a lot of courage, and this courage usually comes from a fearless and strong heart, and there is no shameful footnote, which is often called cheekiness. If someone says that a thick-skinned person is born, you must not believe it, because this person is probably a thick-skinned person. Thick-skinned people have three main characteristics, one is lying without blinking, the other is lying without blushing when caught red-handed, and the other is that no one is watching. Thick skin is a lie in itself. If someone tells you that, you have reason to start to suspect that he is thick-skinned. Yes, thick-skinned people are trained and beaten and honed countless times, but we have to admit that this is a hard process, and the hardships are far from comparable to those with thin skin. Anyone who knows and has seen thick skin knows the benefits of thick skin, but often, when it's his turn to be thick-skinned, he can't pull his face down. Cheap is also taken by thick-skinned people. When cursing secretly in their hearts, they are still complacent, as if nothing had happened, which is really irritating. But is thick skin really that hateful? No, in fact, you often envy those thick-skinned guys. What they have, what you never have, they are often happy, and you are often angry. How can you not envy them? No one wants to be called cheeky, but many people are willing to be cheeky, which is the main reason. Maybe when you eat another dumb loss, you will secretly swear, damn it, I want to be a thick-skinned guy, too. However, are you really ready to be a cheeky person? Are you sure you can bear the loss of being a cheeky person? If the answer is yes, then I want to talk to you again about how thick-skinned people are formed. First of all ... >>
Question 3: How can I be cheeky? Don't read other people's thoughts.
Question 4: How to become a little cheeky? 100 slowly learn not to care too much about what others think of you, especially rude words, and don't care about your own language. Don't be afraid to say the wrong thing. Everyone sometimes says the wrong thing. As long as your words don't mean to hurt others, speak out boldly. Even if someone doesn't like to hear it, don't care. Our words are not for performance. To exercise self-confidence, it is important to "persist". Only by persisting in doing it will there be no failure. Here are some methods that suit you:
Believe in yourself, you can try boldly and accept the challenge. To this end, we should be full of confidence when recalling past successful experiences. At the same time, we should do more, try to do things well and get more encouragement from them. There will be some failures and mistakes in the attempt. If we believe what Edison said,' There is no failure, only a little closer to success', then we can look down on the problems, difficulties and even failures in the process of progress, calmly deal with them, concentrate on completing the task and constantly enhance our strength. And strength is the most important pillar to support confidence.
(1) Pick the front seat.
Have you noticed how the seats in the back row are filled first, whether it's teaching or various parties in the classroom? Most people who occupy the back seat hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason why they are afraid of being noticed is their lack of self-confidence.
Sitting in the front can build confidence. Try to make it a rule and sit as forward as possible from now on. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but remember that everything that succeeds is conspicuous.
(2) Practice facing others.
A person's eyes can reveal a lot about him. When someone doesn't look you in the eye, you will intuitively ask yourself, "What are you trying to hide? What is he afraid of? Will he be bad to me? "
Not looking directly at others usually means: I feel inferior around you; I feel inferior to you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding other people's eyes means: I feel guilty; What have I done or thought of that I don't want you to know? I'm afraid that once I touch your eyes, you will see through me. This is all bad information.
Looking into other people's eyes is telling you that I am honest and aboveboard. I believe what I told you is true. I have no conscience.
(3) Increase your walking speed by 25%
David, when? When Schwartz was a teenager, it was very interesting to go to the town center. After getting on the bus after all the errands, my mother often says, "David, let's sit for a while and look at passers-by."
Mother is a great observer. She would say, "Look at that guy. What do you think is bothering him? " Or "What do you think the lady over there will do?" Or "Look at that man, he seems a little lost."
It's a pleasure to watch people walk. This is much cheaper and more enlightening than watching movies.
Many psychologists associate lazy posture and slow pace with unpleasant feelings about themselves, work and others. But psychologists also tell us that we can change our mental state by changing posture and speed. If you observe carefully, you will find that the movement of the body is the result of mental activity. Those who are hit and rejected are dragging their feet and have no self-confidence.
Ordinary people walk like "ordinary people" and make a confession that "I'm not very proud of myself".
Another kind of person shows extraordinary self-confidence, walks faster than the average person and likes running. Their pace tells the world: "I want to go to an important place and do very important things." More importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes. "
Use this "25% faster" technology, strut faster, and you will feel your self-confidence growing.
(d) Practice public speaking.
Napoleon? Hill pointed out that there are many people with sharp thinking and high talent, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It's not that they don't want to participate, just because they lack self-confidence.
The taciturn people in the meeting thought, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel silly. I'd better say nothing. Moreover, others may know more than me, and I don't want you to know that I am so ignorant. " These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until the next time." But they know very well that they can't keep this promise. Every time these taciturn people don't talk, he is poisoned by lack of self-confidence again, and he will lose self-confidence more and more. On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence and it will be easier to speak next time. Therefore, we should talk more.
Question 5: How can I be thick-skinned? This is not the reason for being thin-skinned, but your own mentality. You really care too much about your image in the eyes of others. In fact, your image in the eyes of others is not someone else's business, but your own. For example, if you fart in public, people will laugh at you for a long time if you feel embarrassed. If you act as if nothing has happened, people won't actually feel funny, even if they laugh for a while. What you see will be believed by you. Good luck. . .
Question 6: How to become cheeky and learn not to care too much about what others think of you, especially rude words and disrespect for your own language. Don't be afraid to say the wrong thing. Everyone sometimes says the wrong thing. As long as your words don't mean to hurt others, speak out boldly. Even if someone doesn't like to hear it, don't care. Our words are not for performance. To exercise self-confidence, it is important to "persist". Only by persisting in doing it will there be no failure. Here are some methods that suit you:
Believe in yourself, you can try boldly and accept the challenge. To this end, we should be full of confidence when recalling past successful experiences. At the same time, we should do more, try to do things well and get more encouragement from them. There will be some failures and mistakes in the attempt. If we believe what Edison said,' There is no failure, only a little closer to success', then we can look down on the problems, difficulties and even failures in the process of progress, calmly deal with them, concentrate on completing the task and constantly enhance our strength. And strength is the most important pillar to support confidence.
(1) Pick the front seat.
Have you noticed how Dan's seats in the back row are filled first, whether it's teaching or various parties in the classroom? Most people who occupy the back seat hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". And the reason why they are afraid of being noticed is their lack of self-confidence.
Sitting in the front can build confidence. Try to make it a rule and sit as forward as possible from now on. Of course, sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, but remember that everything that succeeds is conspicuous.
(2) Practice facing others.
A person's eyes can reveal a lot about him. When someone doesn't look you in the eye, you will intuitively ask yourself, "What are you trying to hide? What is he afraid of? Will he be bad to me? "
Not looking directly at others usually means: I feel inferior around you; I feel inferior to you; I am afraid of you. Avoiding other people's eyes means: I feel guilty; What have I done or thought of that I don't want you to know? I'm afraid that once I touch your eyes, you will see through me. This is all bad information.
Looking into other people's eyes is telling you that I am honest and aboveboard. I believe what I told you is true. I have no conscience.
(3) Increase your walking speed by 25%
David, when? When Schwartz was a teenager, it was very interesting to go to the town center. After getting on the bus after all the errands, my mother often says, "David, let's sit for a while and look at passers-by."
Mother is a great observer. She would say, "Look at that guy. What do you think is bothering him? " Or "What do you think the lady over there will do?" Or "Look at that man, he seems a little lost."
It's a pleasure to watch people walk. This is much cheaper and more enlightening than watching movies.
Many psychologists associate lazy posture and slow pace with unpleasant feelings about themselves, work and others. But psychologists also tell us that we can change our mental state by changing posture and speed. If you observe carefully, you will find that the movement of the body is the result of mental activity. Those who are hit and rejected are dragging their feet and have no self-confidence.
Ordinary people walk like "ordinary people" and make a confession that "I'm not very proud of myself".
Another kind of person shows extraordinary self-confidence, walks faster than the average person and likes running. Their pace tells the world: "I want to go to an important place and do very important things." More importantly, I will succeed in 15 minutes. "
Use this "25% faster" technology, strut faster, and you will feel your self-confidence growing.
(d) Practice public speaking.
Napoleon? Hill pointed out that there are many people with sharp thinking and high talent, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It's not that they don't want to participate, just because they lack self-confidence.
The taciturn people in the meeting thought, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel silly. I'd better say nothing. Moreover, others may know more than me, and I don't want you to know that I am so ignorant. " These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "Wait until the next time." But they know very well that they can't keep this promise. Every time these taciturn people don't talk, he is poisoned by lack of self-confidence again, and he will lose self-confidence more and more. On the positive side, if you try your best to speak, you will increase your confidence and be more likely to give a speech next time ... >>
Question 7: How to learn to be thick-skinned? No one is born a bad person.
The secret of bad guys' quick success: do something that will be scolded by the whole society as soon as you do it.
Then if you can live unconsciously in the reviling of others, you are a bad person!
The last sentence: good and bad are relative, and no bad person will feel wrong when doing bad things.
The most important thing is that you must be thick-skinned
It's really important to have a thick skin. The first word mentioned in Li Zongwu's Lala is "thick", and DD means thick-skinned. Thick skin is a skill that needs to be exercised. Once you have this skill, you will have indomitable spirit and perseverance.
I saw someone ask a good question on Baidu Know: How did your skin get thicker?
In fact, people have been in society for a long time, met more people, and touched more nails, and gradually they can bear the burden of humiliation. However, it is indeed a painful process for the skin to change from thin to thick, just like a caterpillar has to go through the pain of breaking a chrysalis into a butterfly.
Going to an internship can best practice a person's thick-skinned kung fu. Gillian said that one of her friends told her that when you go to the internship, you must always tell yourself "My face is a pancake, my face is a pancake" ... Now that I think about it, the seven-character motto "Dare, be cautious and be cheeky" for boys chasing girls is really universal. Lack of courage, carefulness and thick skin will make many opportunities around you slip away in vain …
Question 8: How can I become cheeky? . . You can take what you said as a joke. I am also cheeky, but I don't know how to tell you the amount. Anyway, don't be afraid of shame, just say what you think. Don't be afraid of being hit, in fact, people are similar to you, just thinking in their hearts and not saying it.
Finally, I wish you become a qualified thick-skinned and honest person.
Question 9: How can a man be cheeky? Streaking in crowded places for three courses, one course for three times, each time until the police appear.
Question 10: How can we cultivate thick skin? First, put aside the sense of shame. China people value face more than life, but they don't really understand that face is earned by themselves. When you are a grass, others will have no pity when you are trampled. It's a pity that you have met several people who have stepped on grass. Only when you grow into a towering tree will others dare not despise you. From a distance, you are a landscape. From a close point of view, you are a talented person and people are attached to you. When Ma Yun founded Alibaba, he also experienced many twists and turns. When talking about projects in Beijing, others refused to pay attention to him, because at that time he was still a grass, with no fame and prestige. Ma Yun grew up, talking and laughing, and his social value naturally improved. At this time, who dares to despise him, because at this time, he has been qualified to participate in Huashan sword theory and grow into an excellent master like Feng Qingyang. It's like filling a glass with water. When you hold your face and don't let go, your cup will never hold much water. Only when you face the world with an empty cup again and again can you be reborn and get in touch with things you have never touched before.
Second, we will never stop until we reach our goal. People are naturally lazy. When they can't see the effect for a day or two, they will be disappointed and give up. They don't think it's effective and there's no point in sticking to it. In fact, sometimes one more step will lead to success. As Ma Yun said, today is cruel, tomorrow is even more cruel, but the day after tomorrow is beautiful, but most people will die tomorrow night. This sentence fully illustrates the importance of persistence. As the saying goes, everything depends on human effort. As long as you persevere, you are not afraid of being thick-skinned and unable to practice. Success comes from understanding. If you want to destroy your self-esteem and cultivate your cheekiness, you must carry out the rogue spirit of "I am a rogue, who am I afraid of" to the end, because only with this fearless spirit can you overcome one difficulty after another on the road of cheekiness and finally reach the peak. In the TV series Big Dyeing Workshop, Liu told Zhao that a rogue wanted to rob him of his money and cut meat at the gate of his factory. People are a little scared when they see you cut a piece and I eat one. As a result, the hooligans couldn't hold back and ran away, never making trouble again. If this rascal persists for a while, with Chen's lofty sentiments, he will respect the hero and will definitely give him some money, but it is precisely because he did not persist.
Third, don't move like a mountain. On the road of impudence, some people criticize and others laugh. No matter what others say, we should correct our attitude and do what we should do. Don't be impatient, don't move blindly, slowly and steadily, go down step by step on the cheeky road, and finally reach the peak. Just like Sima Yi in the Three Kingdoms, Zhuge Liang called him a woman who didn't dare to go to war, and gave him a bright set of women's clothes, but Sima Yi put them on to show Zhuge Liang in Shu. This shows that Sima Yi is thick-skinned and Xiang Yu wants to cook Liu Bang's biological father. Liu bang said, we are sworn brothers. Cooking my father means cooking your father. Don't forget to give me a cake if you want to cook. This is not only thick-skinned, but also scheming.
To sum up, thick skin is built on the basis of strong self-confidence, which is a shameless performance, and vice versa. Because thick skin can only be shown when you overcome considerable fear, and no one can do it. It is not easy for timid, stingy and shy people to want to be cheeky.