Barnum effect, a psychological phenomenon. It is said that it is easy for people to believe a general and single personality description and think that it accurately reflects their own characteristics. Use a certain information point to cut into each other's heart, so if you want to attack each other's defense in intimate relationship, it is not easy to say a few words or meet. It is necessary for us to take the time to explore each other's characteristics and make him feel that you know him best.

According to Barnum effect, we can draw the conclusion that most people may have unrealistic optimism about their personality and ability. A good suitor will inspire the other person's consciousness and make the other person feel that he is constantly affirmed and encouraged when he is with you.

Pursue victory and deepen relations.

When you start to talk to you, all you need to do is to further attack his heart with his behavior. It is precisely because of the good use of Barnum effect that Crush feels that his vulnerability is seen, so he becomes more willing to expose his true self in front of you.

Guide him in the direction you want him to develop.

At first, couples thought each other was the most perfect person in the world, but after a long time, when the filter disappeared, many problems naturally surfaced. When there is a problem in communication with the other party, you can "lie with your eyes open", skillfully turn the other party's shortcomings into advantages with positive language, and repeat them in daily life until such a view is deeply implanted in the other party's brain. After a long time, the other person will be brainwashed by you, correct your shortcomings to a certain extent, and gradually become what you want.