"My mother and I will die together. I will let my father clean up the house in the sky, and then we will fly together." Author: Jiang Mumu's mother, Grandpa Jiang Mumu, has been dead for several years. They have never met, but not long ago he suddenly asked me: "Is Grandpa dead?" Mom: "Yes, Grandpa is dead." Jiang Mumu: "If you die, you will never see it again?" Mom: "you can't see grandpa, but grandpa can see you." He looks down on you from the sky. " Jiang Mumu: "Is it in heaven?" Mom: "Yes, it's heaven. Heaven is very high, and you have to fly up to get there. " Jiang Mumu: "Has Grandpa been watching me?" Mom: "Yes, Grandpa likes Jiang Mumu best. He always looks at you. " Jiang Mumu: "How old did Grandpa live and how old did he die?" Mom: "73 years old." Jiang Mumu: "I will never die, and neither will my mother, okay?" Mom: "Everyone will die. When they die, they can go to heaven, live in a new house and look down from the sky. " Jiang Mumu: "How old will Mom and I live before we die?" Mom: "100 years old." Jiang Mumu is thinking ... Jiang Mumu: "Then I will live to be 70 years old and die with my mother. Tell dad to go to heaven to clean up the house first, and then we will fly up together. " Mom (laughs): "My mywood is so cute! Come on, give me a kiss. Jiang Mumu: Mom, I love you. " Mom: "I love you too, baby." The above is a conversation between a good mother and her child. I admire Jiang Mumu's persuasiveness and Jiang Mumu's genius and creativity. I can imagine death so beautifully. But then again, in children's young consciousness, although they don't know much about what "death" is, they know that "death" is not a good thing. Before long, it will be the traditional "Ghost Festival" of China Lunar New Year. Maybe your family will pay homage to their ancestors in the past. At this moment, how should we talk about this heavy topic to young children? How to talk about death with children? Children and adults have different views on death. The child's idea is simple, and love and hate are clear. They can't treat the departure of their favorite things as rationally as adults. The disappearance of a favorite toy and the departure of a favorite person are enough to make children sad. This is actually a beautiful emotion, and most of our treasures in life come from this emotion. On the basis of affirming children's feelings, parents can adopt different ways according to their children's situation. With the enhancement of children's understanding ability, explain it to children from the simple to the deep. First, we need to know what death really means. As far as the changes brought by death are concerned, there are several kinds: 1. People can no longer see him, talk to him or move with him. I can't get in touch when I miss him. That he will never come back. It is the feelings caused by these changes that make children sad. But there are a few things that death can't change: 1 But the original love will continue to affect the living. It may even become more precious because of the disappearance of life. You can still see him and hear his voice through photos or videos. 3. The past experience will not disappear. 4. In fact, it can make children feel gratified. Based on this foundation, we can conduct targeted guidance from the above two aspects. For the changes, you can tell your children this way: when you are in kindergarten or school, you can't see your parents for a day; If you are a child living on campus, you may not see your parents for a week or a month or even a semester. You can't talk to your parents face to face or play together. If mom and dad want to go abroad or work far away, they may not see each other for a year or even many years. But mom and dad love him and miss him. When you leave him, if the place is not far away, you can come back to see him; If the place is far away, but you can call or use the computer, you can also see him or talk to him; In some places where it is inconvenient to talk on the phone, you may write a letter and let him see what you have written; But some places are too far away and inconvenient. Adults can only think of him, love him, hope he is well, can't see or hear him, and can only think so in their hearts. According to the child's situation (age, understanding ability, life experience, etc.). ), parents can choose a better way to compare and let their children accept the reality that "people around me may leave me in various ways and bring some changes to my life". For this unchangeable part, children can experience more and dilute and offset the fear and sadness of death with positive nostalgia and memories. For those who are close to children, you can keep more audio, images and video materials, which are valuable materials for the growth of children themselves and the relationship with people around them. When talking to children about people who have left, parents should first treat them with a calm mind. Don't be too sad in front of the children, but try to remember some beautiful things, so that the children feel that the people who have left are still bringing him a good feeling. In the presence of children, it is also very important for parents to choose topics carefully when talking about birth, disease, disease and death with children or others. Children are actually very sensitive, but their tolerance is poor, so parents joked that "mom will die when she is old." Children are easy to remember. When talking about this in front of children, we should convey healthy and optimistic thoughts to children with a positive attitude and optimistic language. You can use this sentence: "You are getting older, and your mother is very happy to see that you will do more and more things." "When you grow up, your mother will grow old, and then her mother will be a very happy old lady." You can also take your children to see the old ladies playing waist drums and dancing yangko in the street and the old people doing morning exercises, so that children can feel that adults can be healthy and happy when they are old. When a child already knows something about death and talks about someone's death, according to the child's situation, parents can choose to use such language to enlighten the child: "The old man has done a lot of things, and everything he wants to do has been completed. Everyone in his family can take care of themselves, so the old man is at ease when he goes abroad. He will still be very happy there. " "This old woman likes her little grandson very much. Although she went to another place, she still liked him so much. She will ask other adults to help her take care of her little grandson. Just like having a little brother, his mother has to go to work and let the aunt next door take care of the little brother. The little brother's mother is also very relieved. " "As long as we are all well, grandma is also very happy in another place. If you have anything to tell grandma, you can tell grandma in your heart, and grandma will be very happy to hear what you say. " To put it mildly and bluntly, it depends on the situation of the child, but don't lie to the child (for example, tell the child that the dead will come back).