The Book of Songs says, "Many words are to be feared." It was hard to meet people before. But after knowing others, it is more difficult to control your mouth, not to comment on other people's lives, and to interfere in other people's lives. I think if a woman has self-restraint, she must have seen the world. What do you mean by seeing the world?
I didn't live the life of a young lady from a luxurious childhood, but I saw the best and accepted the worst, which is to see the world. Then, whether a woman can have self-restraint depends on these three points.
First, speaking elegantly, dressing appropriately and speaking elegantly are necessary skills for an educated person. Elegant and calm. Clothes can be casual, but they must be decent and generous. At first glance, it looks neat. Behavior is not necessarily noble and elegant, but it must be decent. For example, the rhythm of walking, the average breathing and the sharpness of eyes have all been experienced.
Words and deeds are particularly important when expressing ideas and attitudes. Speak slowly, don't worry, give people a feeling of spring breeze. Women can't always put on airs and make trouble without reason, but they should be gentle and give people a warmth that goes with the flow. Be careful what you say and do. Try to say as little as possible, as soon as you say it, it's well-founded, clear in logic and to the point. The less you promise, the better. Once you promise, you must put it into action.
The elegance of a woman comes not only from dressing up, but from nobility and slowness in communication. Those noble women don't use simple cosmetics, but they must have rich life experiences and huge patterns.
Second, the ability to control emotions. Everyone has a mood, good or bad, and we have all kinds of moods every day. A cultured woman will not casually convey sadness, because negative emotions are bursting and often give people a feeling of depression. Or some people have a bad temper, and it is easy to fight when they disagree with others, like a bitch who plays tricks on others. A cultured woman seldom gets angry, which does not mean that she has no temper and character.
I have read such a sentence in a book before: "Sadly, not everyone knows how to get angry". The implication is why people usually feel upset when they are angry, because they should not be angry at all. Anger should be a normal way to vent emotions, and under no circumstances should you vent your emotions on others.
Learn to control your emotions, don't vent your negative emotions on others, don't let your depressed emotions affect me, and be a sunny and positive girl. This is a manifestation of self-restraint.
Third, respect others. How to learn to respect others and not bring trouble to others is a compulsory course that we need to learn all our lives. True respect has nothing to do with others. Just like a Japanese movie "Embarrassed Master" expressed: I have respect for every deceased, and I show the most beautiful side of the deceased with superb skills and calm mind before leaving.
If you respect a person, you are willing and willing to stand in his position to understand or take care of him in advance, not just as an individual, but as a person like me. If you love someone, you must respect him first. The ancients said, don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. That's what it means. Especially in the relationship between men and women, someone always says to the other half, I am doing it for your own good.
But this kindness is selfish and has not been recognized by others. It is also the experience of the ancients to be strict with oneself and lenient with others. As an educated woman, we should judge others less. This judgment refers to nonlinear problems, mainly things in life. Because everyone has their own way of living. Therefore, respect other people's lifestyles, ideas and norms, and you are an educated person.