The words often seen in comments are: Sister Lan, Aries (Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, lion, virgin ...) is so bitter, when is good luck?

Also: when do you want to change jobs and have good luck? I seem to be saying goodbye to a person's life. When can I have good luck?

It sounds as if everything can change as long as good luck comes.

But almost all successful scholars and psychologists will earnestly say: where there is luck, it is a little effort; You are confused but not diligent enough; If you think more about others, they will pay a lot for you. ...

There are more words, which will also come from elders, leaders and online questions and answers:

There is no choice but to work hard so as not to be confused.

Many people are lax and lazy just because there is still a way out.

If diligence can change fate, why not work hard?

Ah, oh, well ... all this seems reasonable, but the reason is very good. It seems that it is not the same thing to fall on each of us.

I saw a few messages and guests' words in my circle of friends these two days:

A: I really tried my best, but the market has been open for half a year, and there is still no good movement. Do I have to continue? Can you give me some luck?

B: I really want to stop texting him, but I can't help it; I really want to delete all his messages, but I can't bear to; What is wrong with me? I have one more leg or one less hand than others. How do you say you don't love? I'm so unwilling ...

C: Every time I read a blue article, my inner impetuousness will turn into calmness. Thank you, light light blue, thank God for letting me know you and pay attention to you! However, when will work get better, Aquarius, I feel that no matter how hard I try, I will always fall behind the team.

C: Sometimes I don't understand why I chose such a difficult road. If I simply do an ordinary job, get married and have children, or go back to live with my family in a small city, will life be different? Others look glamorous, and they were bought on days when they were afraid to cry. I dare not cry in front of my family, because it will only make them worry. Don't cry in front of colleagues, because it will make people question your major. Don't cry in front of your friends, because no one is worth being your trash can. So I had to go home and cry in front of the TV with my pillow in my arms. Wash your face after crying and force yourself to continue the next day. Then send a circle of friends to tell yourself that you can only climb the road of your choice!

Don't they work hard? No, but why? How do we continue?

2.

We live in the present. This three or five years ago, not three or five decades ago, has all the characteristics of the present era: rapid, iterative and cliff-like changes, many traditional fortresses have been broken, many new ways of playing have been submerged, and many emotional vagrancies are really changing.

But we must live in the present. In this era, how much you have learned and how much you have are far from enough.

At this time, some cattle people introduced a "game reward mechanism", almost everyone likes to play games, so many people are immersed in gambling slot machines because as long as you pay, you will gain immediately, and as long as you invest, you will lose gold coins immediately. This kind of direct stimulation has made many people want to stop.

At work, it is hard to get this kind of harvest-you have worked hard for a day and a week, maybe the boss "pointed out" a small mistake, so depressed.

When starting a business, try to use the best materials, maintain the team and open up the market. Therefore, the customer gave the worst evaluation of uncontrollable risks in the transportation process.

When you were studying, it took you two years to read all the exam contents, and when the results came out, you found yourself failing the exam for the third time. Before that, you had no idea you would be so poor. ...

In a long time, there must be endless "failure, failure, failure again", that is, there is no gold coin, no gold coin, no gold coin.

At this time, you should give yourself a "self-reward mechanism"-within 3 days, insist on going to bed early and reward yourself with an ice cream cone; Exercise for 30 minutes every day for 7 days, and reward yourself with watching a movie on weekends. 2 1 day, I completed the memory of 500 words and rewarded myself with a swim in my favorite hotel.

These quantitative+rewarding things are the best guidance and help for you who have patience and leadership.

Don't wait for others to praise you, don't wait for fate to reward you immediately, and on the way forward, you should start to forget others and only compare with yourself.

Compared with you last year and the year before, if you keep working hard and making progress, you should be rewarded.

The road is very long, no matter how sincere you pay, you also need "routines" to help yourself.

3.

I have a good friend p.

P married a young and eager boy. Although the boy dated her for the first time, the divorced wife of the other party suddenly appeared, forcing her to write a repentance book and even slashing her with a knife, but after a year of panic, she and divorced P entered the marriage.

It's a mistress, not a mistress, but also a grievance. Moreover, in order to wash away this grievance, she devoted herself to the most desperate commercial company, dealing with government agencies, shouldering the most arduous task, working from 7- 1 1 every day, and buying luxury cars from 7 am to evening 1 1, so that her young and studious husband can drive to work at any time with a monthly salary of 5,000 yuan.

Friends are not optimistic about her marriage, but she is as sweet as honey milk. After two years, she is happily pregnant and fat 160 kg. After giving birth to the baby, she changed to an easy job and didn't want to go anywhere. She said that as soon as the child goes out, she will take five washbasins, wash her face, wash her hair and wash clothes ... This new image scares everyone who used to know her.

I had a dinner date with her, and she moved around, saying that the living expenses were too high and her husband was very depressed. She really wanted to change a well-paid job, slim herself down and prepare well, but for a long time, she didn't have a job.

But just when everyone thought she was so "happy", she once again appeared in the rivers and lakes of business, and it was the latest industry, and she lost 90 pounds, wore short skirts+10 cm high heels and said: I want a divorce. All formalities will be completed in two weeks.

Seeing her circle of friends recently, her job has also changed. She keeps taking part in various charity activities. Instead of wearing an evening dress inlaid with jewels, she went to the barren hills to help out-of-school children and tell stories to disabled or sick children's beds.

You say, what is the need to live so fluctuating and so tired?

However, she was in love at that time, that is, happy, and then happily picked a ring to get married; She wants to have children, study pregnancy knowledge well, and get through one day after another of sleep deprivation on the way to raising children; Want to lose weight, exercise hard, and lose more than 50 kilograms, which is not something that ordinary people can do; And really have the courage to deal with inappropriate marriages. ...

Feelings, as well as work, are really not a one-time game to decide the outcome. It is a game with many levels, each level has a reward, each level has a monster, and each level will knock you down.

You say some people just fall in love, get married, have children, and then stay until they are 90 years old? That's because you won't tell others all your sadness, fear and loss, right? Neither will they.

They just learn, modify, understand and accept. If you get used to it, you won't think it's persistence, but the normal state of life.

4.

Look at the previous A\B\C\D message, and I'll try to answer it:

A: I really tried my best, but the market has been open for half a year, and there is still no good movement. Do I have to continue? Can you give me some luck?

-I have been in this industry for over 15 years. In the first nine years, I didn't find any truth, but I had a lot of "information and knowledge". How did I choose such a difficult road to compete with so many ancient geniuses? But in the tenth year, I discovered a secret: as long as you get used to this kind of effort, you will find that after the fifth year, your skills are the same as many people often give up in the first year.

B: I really want to stop texting him, but I can't help it; I really want to delete all his messages, but I can't bear to; What is wrong with me? I have one more leg or one less hand than others. How do you say you don't love? I'm so unwilling ...

Love is a matter of mutual pleasure, not self-denial. Love needs luck and timely choice. When you feel very tired, it is better to leave the wrong situation than to persist, whether it is to correct each other or to choose someone who can understand and love you better than to live in the abyss.

When will work luck get better ... I feel that no matter how hard I work, I will always be behind the team.

Life is really not a short-distance race, but an uninterrupted relay race. Compared with yourself, you worked harder than last month and were in better shape than last year, which is something to celebrate. People with too many depressive tendencies are actually asking too much of themselves, and if they can't reach it, the whole thing will be in chaos.

D: Sometimes I don't understand why I chose such a difficult road. If I simply do an ordinary job, get married and have children, or go back to live with my family in a small city, will life be different? Others look glamorous, and they were bought on days when they were afraid to cry.

-fatally speaking, life is decided at birth, family background and general education have been decided, and numerology believes that "life and character" have also been roughly decided. Therefore, the choices left to us are not as many as imagined, nor as terrible as imagined.

I seem to have said this once-in fact, we all have to accept this: this life is not satisfactory, everyone is. Therefore, when saying "it will be fine", do as much as possible and do it with expectation; When you say "a little weak", work hard normally, expect less and reward yourself more, so you can relax a lot.

Everyone is already so tired. Yes, I told Chen Xiao on a very tired night 19: 00: I have an unfortunate news for you. I haven't finished writing today's WeChat article. Now I need to go home for dinner and then go back to the studio at 2 1: 00. He said: What are you afraid of? You just need to believe that you can finish it, tell yourself that you must finish it, and then you will forget the rest and focus on it.

Sure enough!

So, when I am very tired, I think of Sister Lan. I may work seven days a week 12 hours a day, but I'm still going on. It's not a matter of gnashing your teeth, but getting used to it after doing it. After many years, you have learned to reward yourself, give yourself sincerity, and give yourself routines.

There must be routines and methods!

Yesterday, I shared my favorite sky of a lion month with you, and then many fans in the background shared with me your beautiful sky around the world in the past two days, saying those feelings of love and pain.

Well, everyone has loved, been hurt and tired, and everything is beautiful, just like a touch of rosy clouds in the gray-blue sky. I can't imagine what it will look like before I see it. If it appears, it will be beyond your imagination. ...

Let Xiao Chen choose the 12 sky shared by fans, which is the great light of the sun in the lion month, so that everyone can touch the "light", please accept it:)