What do you think of your figure and appearance? The mirror in the bathroom, the shop window facing the street, the mirror wall in the company compartment, you think about it. How did you feel when you saw yourself for the last time? Have you noticed any "shortcomings" When you stop to look in the mirror, will you smile and say, "Hey! You look good! " Or will you immediately focus on something that is not quite right? We spend too much energy on appearance, so we wait for the most exhausting curse.
There is a saying: "Each of us is wearing a deformable mirror. As long as you mention it, you will see that you are small or big, fat or thin, including you who are usually free, without scars or sores. Once you can break this mirror, your own integrity and happiness of life will become possible. "
As long as we think calmly, it is not difficult to understand that the value of being a person is not how attractive he looks. However, although we try to separate our self-worth from our appearance, we can't help comparing ourselves with others, especially those handsome men and women with flawless skin, attractive figure and classical facial features in movies and advertisements.
Many times, the values we use to evaluate ourselves are what we learned in junior high school. "This person looks beautiful and has a good popularity; That person is stupid and unattractive "and so on. You may not forget the feeling when others make fun of your braces, glasses, clothes, freckles, clumsy figure or exercise.
With the growth of age, we may gradually get rid of the unsightly posture when we were young, but the words you have been described as "big die", "four-eyed chicken" and "little fat pig" seem like a brand and remain in our hearts forever.
Over time, the fear of aging has plunged us into another dilemma. Men began to fear the receding hairline on their foreheads and bulging stomachs. Women seem to be most threatened by wrinkles, pores and white hair. No one respects the ever-changing faces in the years, and people live in unrealistic "either-or" values. If we look young, we are old; We are either poor or too fat; If we have no muscles and exercise, we will be "too rude"; If we don't wear the latest fashion and cut the most fashionable hairstyle, it will be too sloppy and out of date.
In fact, the smell of your whole body is far more important than your actual characteristics. If you despise yourself, you will also send a message telling others "Leave me alone" or "I can't stand it without makeup". This kind of self-criticism will make others underestimate your charm.
People can't help but focus on the "defects" that we are most afraid of being exposed in our bodies. A bald man often tries to hide his bald scalp with a lock of long hair, which invisibly reveals that he is very guilty about the fact that his hair has fallen off. As a result, more people will focus on his baldness.
When a plump woman wears black tights and keeps complaining that the food on her desk tastes terrible, do you think she will give others an impression other than "too fat"? If we give up on ourselves for the sake of small shortcomings in appearance, even if others want to break down obstacles for us and remind us of the truly attractive advantages, I am afraid it will be difficult.
In fact, we can also use this feedback to strengthen our appreciation and affirmation. Everything you pay special attention to in life will be improved. If you show that you are a dynamic and charming person, people will treat you like this. Your manners, eyes, clothes, facial expressions and attitudes always reflect self-confidence and self-affirmation, and others will naturally have trust and affection for you.
No matter whether you are qualified to be a cover girl or a bodybuilder, you can always hold the attitude of "I am the best" without showing any shame, embarrassment or depression, as Mrs. Roosevelt said, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." If you can cultivate an attitude of cherishing your wings, loving yourself and respecting yourself, you can pass on your charm to others.