I'll consult Cao Zeneng, the chief psychological consultant of Bangda psychological institution. The following is his written answer, hoping to help you. I believe everyone who speaks is an enthusiastic netizen (living Lei Feng), hoping to help you: pretend that you don't care about anything: your worry is that you have realized that your son's irrational attachment will affect his healthy growth. From a psychological point of view, children will form a sense of attachment with their mothers at 6-7 months. These feelings can be roughly divided into three types: first, safety, children can form good interaction with their mothers, be emotionally stable and actively explore; Second, the avoidance type, the child does not form a benign interaction with his mother, and likes to "steal fun" alone; Third, it is contradictory. The interaction between children and their mothers is conflicting, easily agitated and insecure. The latter two kinds of attachment are also called insecure attachment. In the process of children's growth, the relationship with parents is easy to fall into a vicious circle, that is, parents are particularly accommodating to children, children are too attached to their parents or too indifferent to their parents, parents keep making concessions, children are constantly strong, and parent-child relationship is relatively bad, which is not conducive to children's mental health growth. Children in a safe state are lively and cheerful, confident and self-respecting, love others, can put themselves in others' shoes, have no tendency to violence, are kind, tolerant and enterprising, know the boundaries of themselves, and will not ask too much of others. Can correctly interpret the information of parents' education, scold their parents, children will not hate their parents, and generally will not make their parents too sad. Children who are not attached enough should not beat and scold, because their parents will arouse their deep distrust of their parents. When children are young, their behavior is not particularly obvious. But when children grow up, they will be more and more divided, and the greater the difference. His behavior habits are closely related to his childhood life experience and his attachment. Under normal circumstances, children need to sleep in separate rooms with their parents at the latest after primary school to cultivate their independent living ability. If children live in different rooms for a long time, they will be over-dependent, reduce their adaptability to the environment, be cautious about their new life, not take the initiative to contact strangers, have little interest in contacting new things, and lack enthusiasm and curiosity. This is mostly caused by parents' overindulgence and overprotection. For boys, they will be particularly attached to their mothers and alienated from their fathers at the early stage of growth, while girls are very close to their fathers. This is a normal physiological transition period. In the following years, if this attachment relationship is handled properly, it will be barrier-free for children's psychological development. Boys will gradually mature, gradually approach their father, regard him as an idol, and hope to live like their father, succeed in their work and gain respect in their lives. Girls will imitate their mothers from time to time, learn how to be an attractive woman, and regard their mothers as a good example of their own lives. It should be noted that if boys are too close to their mothers and girls are too close to their fathers, it may lead to abnormal puberty and even an unfortunate family tragedy. So, pretend you don't care. My advice to you is: First, you should keep a peaceful mood and don't be too anxious, because your emotions will infect your children. Although sometimes you don't talk, you will form an "aura" with your child, and your emotions will stimulate his emotions; The second is to gradually cultivate his son's independent ability, draw a clear line with him, lead him to exercise in unfamiliar environments, such as attending interest classes and summer camps, encourage him to express himself bravely, and help him get rid of the psychological crutches that rely on his parents everywhere. Once the child's positive behavior is found, he will continue to praise and strengthen him; The third is to pull dad "into the table." No matter how busy dad is at work, he can't ignore the education of his children, otherwise it's too late to regret it. You can let dad get along with his son alone and cultivate the relationship between father and son. When your son is close to his father, his son will be sunny and tough, and your troubles will become happiness.