But my mother-in-law suddenly changed her mind these days, and told her through her son that she might not be able to take care of her children in the next month, but the old couple could give her some money to rest for a month.
Xiao Jiang said that she was very confused. How can the mother-in-law who promised before change? Besides, please spend more money in Yueyue. Having a stranger at home always makes Xiao Jiang feel uncomfortable. However, her mother-in-law's attitude is very firm, which makes Xiao Jiang in a dilemma.
Many new parents are hesitant to ask Yueyue to go home to help take care of themselves and their children. Let's hear what everyone has to say.
Three don't:
1. Bad economic situation
Now there are many people in the second month after 8090, and the price of the second month has also risen. The monthly income has already soared from four figures to five figures, and the monthly housekeeping has even become a high-paying industry.
But1-20,000 yuan a month is still a big burden for young people with little savings. After all, the expenses of newborns are high, and milk powder, diapers, baby products and even various baby insurance are enough for parents to drink a pot.
Especially for families where the husband makes money alone and the wife is a full-time mother, the money can be saved, and when the children are older, the whole family can travel for seven days.
One month passed quickly. In addition to eating and sleeping, it is also a good choice to invite the elderly at home to help look after the children in the second month.
2. In-laws give strength and will take care of the baby.
In-laws are healthy and willing to take care of the newborn, which is the best choice for the mother.
The old people at home know their roots and know their roots, and they are definitely more concerned about their grandchildren than outsiders. Plus their daughter-in-law, their living habits are also known to each other.
Three generations of grandparents and grandchildren live together, take care of each other and accompany each other, which can not only deepen the intimate relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, but also let children know that it is not easy for the elderly to take care of their families, and the family is affectionate and happy.
Ma Bao can take care of the baby alone.
The baby in the month is actually taken care of very well, and it is seamless to switch between eating and sleeping every day. If Ma Bao has a good physical quality after delivery, she can arrange her time reasonably and balance her baby's needs with her own.
Experts point out that children raised and cared for by their mothers will be easier to communicate and get along with when they grow up than children of the same age.
Four, please.
1. No one in the family knows how to raise a newborn.
Nowadays, families pay attention to scientific parenting. Novice parents don't know how to raise children, and in-laws are old-fashioned parenting. At this time, there is a professionally trained Yueyue, which is very helpful to the family.
For example, how to deal with neonatal jaundice, how to bathe the baby, and how to massage and dredge the maternal milk. These family members can't handle things. Yue Yue can help you.
2. Nobody cares after delivery
Confinement can be said to be a "lifetime" event. At this time, the maternal body is weak, the movement is inconvenient, and there are starving children to take care of. At this time, there is definitely no one to take care of. If the mother insists on confinement, it is a joke to take care of the child.
If there is no one to take care of at home, it is recommended to find a reliable new moon before giving birth. Doing so is a sign of being responsible for yourself and your children.
Although someone takes care of it, it is not advisable.
Many women who are cared for by their mother-in-law will still choose to have a new moon after giving birth. This is probably because my mother-in-law is unwilling to take care of them. Maybe the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are at odds. Let the mother-in-law take care of her face. If the mother is in a bad mood, it will greatly affect her recovery. It may also be that although the mother-in-law has good intentions, the daughter-in-law can't accept it because of the differences in ideas.
If the caregiver is unwilling, careless and does not meet the wishes of the parturient, these are not conducive to postpartum recovery, so it is better to ask the new moon to save trouble.
4. The family is well-off and not short of money.
The mother-in-law needs rest, her husband needs to go to work, and her mother-in-law is not young, so it is actually a very hard thing to take care of the mother and children during the second month. If the family is not short of money, in order to alleviate this kind of hard work, it is still necessary to ask for a new moon.
In this way, Yue Yue can use her professional knowledge to carry out more scientific nursing for mother and baby, which is very beneficial to postpartum health.