But the result of remarriage is not satisfactory, and there are not many happy people. Many of them staged a war at home, which ended in both losses, and some old people even got sick.
Let's look at a few real cases first.
1.60-year-old Zhang Yuhua found a wife, but was driven out of the family by the man's children because of property problems.
My wife has been gone for ten years, and I have never thought about remarriage. When you reach an age, you won't be laughed at if you get married again. But by chance, I met him, my young lover.
At that time, the conditions were poor and we could not be together for various reasons. Who would have thought that he was old, but he met again. I was delighted to learn that he is a human now.
Everything is an act of god, and it should be an act of god to let us continue. I ignored the child's dissuasion and moved to his house without a license.
At first, I was happy, too. When I get old, I just want to have a companion to talk to and chat with. On weekdays, children have their own lives, and I dare not disturb them too much.
All of a sudden, I have a companion around me, and I suddenly feel that life has hope. But soon, this short-lived happiness disappeared like a flash in the pan. The reason is simple, because of money. After remarriage, he said that he would support me, would not make me bear everything, and would make it up to me. Moreover, he also chooses to buy expensive things.
Although he has a pension and doesn't live with his son's daughter-in-law, his son is still unwilling, saying that his father is so old that he spends all his money on me and doesn't leave himself a way out. He also said that I just wanted to cheat his father out of his money.
How can I stand his son desecrating our pure feelings so much? Besides, I also have a pension. How can I do it for his money? I was so angry that I moved to my own house. He apologized to me for his son and said many beautiful things, saying that he would live for himself for the rest of his life. He doesn't believe that he can't control his own money. He can spend whatever he wants, and his son has no right to interfere.
In his tearful cry, my heart melted and I followed him back. But on one condition, I want AA system economically. I have been innocent all my life, and I am old. I don't want to be pointed and scolded. On further consideration, he agreed. But when his son's daughter-in-law learned that I was back, she came to me again, scolded me, called me shameless, seduced his father and showed no respect to me.
He argued with his son, shaking with anger and suddenly fainted to the ground. His son quickly called the emergency number, it was an acute myocardial infarction! Fortunately, the rescue was timely, otherwise the consequences would be unimaginable. Think about it. I'm really scared. If anything happens to him, am I not the culprit? I have made up my mind to leave him, and I don't want to do anything at this time. Fortunately, it is not easy to remarry without a license, old friend. Be cautious!
Second, Zhu Jianguo, male, aged 63, was taken away by a woman after remarriage.
After retirement, I feel lonely as never before. After working all my life, my wife is doing housework. Who would have thought of her brain stem bleeding? If she says no, she will leave. My son insisted on taking me to life, but after a long time, I read impatience and disgust from my daughter-in-law's eyes. I have been strong all my life, and no one wants to see my face. I insisted on going home.
My son was reasonable and suggested that I find another companion, for nothing else, just to take care of my daily life. Soon, he found me a nanny, Xiao Zhang, in her fifties.
Said she was a nanny, but in fact she was similar to my wife. I give her a salary of 2000 yuan every month. She is in charge of housework, and shopping is counted separately. Xiao Zhang is diligent and kind, and his cooking is delicious. Soon, I had a good impression on her and felt that with her company, I was no longer lonely.
My son and daughter-in-law are glad to see her taking care of me like this. I often buy this and that for Xiao Zhang when I come back, and I will give her hundreds of dollars more. I rely more and more on Xiao Zhang, and I leave everything at home to her, including going to the bank to withdraw cash. I have never done these things, and I am too lazy to do them.
It is a fact that people are separated. That night, I walked home and found that my house was ransacked. My passbook, cash and gold and silver jewelry were all gone! Xiao Zhang's phone has been disconnected! I realized that I might have been cheated, and she was probably the liar! My son quickly reported to the police, but so far there has been no progress! Xiao Zhang just disappeared!
I'm really crazy. I naively thought that people's hearts can change people's hearts. I trusted her so much that it turned out like this.
If I don't die, I won't die I regret it very much, but who can blame it?
Li, a 69-year-old woman, was kicked out of the house by her family after her remarried partner died.
I have been married to my grandson for nine years and have been with him since I was sixty. For so many years, I worked hard in his house and took care of him wholeheartedly. The relationship with my daughter is ok, and on the whole, I can still go on. I haven't been married to him for a few years, but my old grandson is ill and has sequelae of cerebral infarction. I can take care of myself. I am responsible for what he eats and drinks, Lazar.
At the beginning, I also backed out. Who wants to take care of a patient endlessly, let alone the original match? Think of me. It's not bad for me on weekdays. How can you be left behind when you are sick?
My daughter married far away and turned a blind eye to my remarriage. She once said that she would let me live with her, but she had in-laws and a small house, and I refused.
She just reminded me to be careful not to be calculated. I didn't care. I always thought that after so many years, people's hearts are all fleshy, so how can we say that we turn our faces?
Unexpectedly, my daughter's words came true. My grandson died because of the second cerebral infarction, and he was not rescued in time. His daughter said, I killed her father just to covet his property. God, I'm so wronged. She is usually busy at work, and I am taking care of me, but I am framed as a murderer. If I knew, I would complain for me.
I know, she is just afraid that I will fight for his father's property, but in all fairness, I have worked hard to take care of him for so many years, shouldn't I be rewarded, even though I didn't take care of him in return.
But what happened next stunned me. It turns out that I have made a will, and the house and savings are his daughter's, leaving me only 50 thousand yuan for moving expenses!
It doesn't matter what his daughter does to me, but I didn't expect that I had already thought about my future. What am I? Just a free nanny. It's just that I'm stupid and naive, and I'm being played around. I want to advise your old friend not to remarry. It is really bitter tears.
From the above experience, it can be seen that the biggest problem for the elderly to remarry is children and economic problems. Therefore, before remarriage, we must solve these two aspects in order to get happiness. How to solve it?
First of all, try to get the unanimous approval of the two children. The biggest obstacle to remarriage comes from children, especially when the economies of the two sides are not equal, one side can easily be misunderstood as obsessed with the economically good side. Therefore, no matter how difficult it is to remarry, the two old people who hit it off again must also be recognized by their children. Otherwise, you really live your life, and you must be unhappy.
Secondly, after the child is approved, the biggest problem is the economy. Both sides have children, and they must be aiming at their own children. Therefore, how to distribute the economy and how to support the family must be negotiated in advance by the children of both sides, preferably in black and white. For example, the property is still controlled independently, and the two just live together, and no economic disputes will occur in the future.
As long as these two problems are solved, other problems will be solved. Any marriage relationship, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, whether it is old or young, will not be happy if it is mixed with personal interests and different intentions, especially the marriage of the elderly.
The most beautiful thing is the sunset. Old people who want to remarry can live a happy life for the rest of their lives regardless of economic and human factors!