At this time, our audience was also anxious, thinking that a fierce battle was about to happen. As a result, Hooke said, I know you really want it to change at this moment, but now we have to eat. This is the rule. ? At this time, the fish instantly quieted down and stopped fooling around. In a blink of an eye, I walked to the other end. When the little fish came out of Watertown Castle, it was scared and cried. At this time, our general parents' practice must be to comfort their children. We may give our children a baby or give them verbal comfort. But then Hook said to the little fish, I know you are afraid, but you are doing well. You are very brave. ?
From the above, we can see that in both cases, Hooke didn't say or do anything to the children according to our ideas. Every time Hook says something to the child, he will say three words first. I know, okay? . The simple three words first narrowed the psychological distance between parents and children, indicating that parents are on the same front with us at this time. Second? I know, okay? The three words give children a sense of warmth and psychological identity, indicating that parents look at the problem from their children's point of view, but understand that children understand children, and children will be very happy and warm after listening. After the last three words are finished, Hook can cut to the chase and give the child the right behavior reward or punishment, which is very effective.
In the face of children's tantrums, sometimes our parents don't know what to do. They think that children are unreasonable, so they slap their children or do something about them. Speech education or ideological education doesn't work at all, and children will come again. ? So what should we do? Today, we will give you a professional answer by combining the latest research of educational psychology and child development psychology.
We should do this when children are emotional or unreasonable.
First, give the child a candy psychologically.
What is giving the child a psychological candy first? Specifically, when we see that children are dissatisfied or for some reason? When it's unreasonable? At this time, we should pay attention to the first sentence to say to the child:? I understand that you think or do this. ? This will make children have a very positive attitude psychologically. Many times, children just want to challenge their parents' authority psychologically and are not convinced of their parents. At this point, we support their words. Gas? Maybe half as much.
Second, give children face in language.
When our parents face some wrong behaviors or bad emotions of their children, sometimes we will be in a state of extreme anger, which will further anger our children. At this time, you should calm down and negotiate with your child. At this time, we can let the children enjoy the due respect in language and give them enough face. For example:? I think we can talk or discuss it. ? Not:? It is wrong of you to do so. Or if you say it again, I'll hit you. ? Psychologically speaking, children will imitate and change their roles at this time, and communicate with us in an adult tone, becoming less arrogant. At this time, our goal was naturally achieved.
Third, while adhering to the principle, give children a certain amount? Fault tolerance interval?
While adhering to the above two principles, then negotiate with your child. So who wins and who loses? At this time, our parents must pay attention. If the child has some unreasonable or unreasonable demands at this time, we must refuse. We must stick to the principle. So at this time, what if the child is still there? Do not stop? What shall we do? At this time, we will give our children a certain tolerance zone on the basis of adhering to our correct principles. Allowable error range means that we can allow children to do such things when they are quiet, otherwise they can't do them again? Unreasonable? Yes This tolerance is also based on the premise that we adhere to the principle to ensure that children will not learn? Bad things? . So we still choose to stick to our principles.
Fourth, give the child a hug.
There is an emotional behavior therapy in psychology called hug therapy, which means that when the child's mood is extremely collapsed or unstable, we give the child a hug in time. At this time, children can gain strength from hugs and feel our love for them, so at this time, children will become less arrogant and reduce their confrontation with us.
Therefore, when a child is angry, our best way to deal with it is not to confront with the authority of parents, nor to suppress it psychologically or verbally. At this time, we still have to stand on the children's point of view to unite the front. At this time, children feel our psychological and linguistic understanding of their behavior. Then, if the above four measures are taken, the child will naturally? Very quiet?