First, the legendary life
I started reading the book "Rebuilding Life" from the third part of the book "My Story". I felt a strong spiritual tremor from her life story and lamented her suffering and strong and open-minded attitude towards life.
Childhood with self-esteem
One and a half years old, parents divorced.
At the age of five, my mother remarried, suffered domestic violence from her stepfather, and was sexually assaulted by a neighbor alcoholic.
In the fourth grade, what impressed me the most was the final distribution of cakes. By the time she arrived, she had already distributed them.
I spent my childhood in abuse and humiliation.
Resist and run away
Fifteen years old, escaped from home and worked as a waiter in a small restaurant.
At the age of sixteen, I gave birth to a baby girl and gave it away.
Help my mother escape, settle her down, and leave my hometown of Los Angeles for Chicago.
Temporary happiness
Came to new york and became a fashion model.
Marry an excellent English gentleman and live a good life.
14 years later, the husband found a new lover and suffered a blow.
? Study and start a new life.
By chance, I attended a party of new york Religious Science Church.
Become a hungry student and gobble up knowledge.
Three years later, he passed the exam and became a qualified church therapist.
Take an active part in church social activities, start giving speeches and giving advice to people.
Write a short book "Heal Your Body".
Travel around, give lectures and hold small training courses.
Started the cause that I have been fighting for all my life.
Disaster arrival heals the heart.
Cancer was found in the reproductive system.
Refuse the operation, fight for three months from the doctor, and start healing from the heart.
Dissolve childhood anger and resentment.
Self-study, using plantar reflex therapy and colon lavage therapy.
Give vent to the accumulated anger by beating the pillow and shouting loudly.
Strictly control the diet, purify the body and detoxify.
After six months, all the cancer cells disappeared.
Leave new york, a city without green trees, and return to my hometown.
? Heal emotions
Living with a completely blind and almost deaf mother. Take her to install hearing AIDS, perform cataract surgery on her, start to sit down and chat with her mother, cry and laugh together, and then hug each other.
Create a safe atmosphere for my sister to treat. When she brought her mother out of her stepfather's house, his stepfather took it out on his sister and often beat her. Because of years of fear and tension, my sister's body has been in pain for a long time.
? ? follow-up action
Help AIDS patients, hold "What Night Tour" and get together regularly.
The publishing company "Ho Bookstore" was established to support some promising writers and help more people change their lives.
Enjoy the fun of the countryside, make compost and harvest your own vegetables and fruits.
Experience the fun of painting.
Save animals.
Write books, make audio and video recordings, support new writers and excellent teachers.
? Views on old age
When I was seventy-five, I started practicing yoga and taking pilates classes. I walk for an hour three times a week.
At the age of seventy-six, he held a birthday party and announced that "the next decade will be the most wonderful decade of his life".
Eighty-one-year-old, making the film Miracle of Life.
Eighty-two years old, with David? Kessler co-authored The Reconstruction of the Heart.
Second, rebuild your life.
1, how we look at ourselves will make us what kind of people.
Our views on ourselves and life will become our real life situations. If we believe that life is lonely and no one loves me, then this situation will really appear in our real life. Most of us have paranoid thoughts and false beliefs.
2. Your restrictive ideas come from your past.
All the problems in your life: physical problems, interpersonal problems, financial problems, work problems, marriage problems … are often not "real problems". The real problem is "not loving yourself".
Then, how can we change from a little baby who knows how perfect he and his life are to an unlovable adult with many problems and think that he is worthless?
When we were young, we learned how to look at ourselves and life from the adults around us: parents, brothers and sisters, school teachers, relatives and friends, neighbors and so on.
We all write our own life scripts according to the information we received in the early days, because we are all good children, and we obediently accept what "they" say and take it as truth.
3. Change your thinking mode
No matter what the problem is, it all comes from a certain mode of thinking. However, the way of thinking can be changed.
Those restrictive ideas are only what you learned when you were a child.
The past has happened and cannot be changed, but we can change our view of the past.
People who have hurt you are just like you. They have been hurt and frightened, and they feel helpless. All they can teach you is what they have learned. They have exhausted their understanding, knowledge and insight.
If we choose to believe that we are helpless victims and there is no hope in front of us, then this belief will become a reality.
The past cannot be changed, but the present thoughts are shaping our future.
We are all on an eternal journey. For spiritual evolution, we came to this world to learn specific life lessons.
The thoughts and beliefs of the past created you now; And the beliefs, thoughts and words you choose now will also become your next moment, next day, next month and next year.
Only you can control your inner thoughts. You are the master of your own world.
The most powerful moment in life is the present. You will never be trapped, because our hearts are changing at the moment. No matter how long negative thinking patterns, diseases, unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships, lack of money or self-hatred last, we can change from today.
4. Find out your resistance to change.
Everyone has his own lessons to learn. Those difficult things are the life courses we choose ourselves. If you think of the most difficult thing that is very contradictory to you, then you have found the best lesson at this moment.
Check your resistance:
Non-verbal clues: changing the subject, delaying excuses, going to the toilet, and diverting attention. ...
Assumption: No matter what you do, it is useless. They don't help my problem. My situation is different. ...
Faith: It's no use doing that. I can't get love. I don't believe it. ...
They: No good teachers were found. It's their fault. This environment is not suitable for me. ...
Self-concept: We feel too old, too fat, too short and too stupid. ...
Procrastination strategy: do it later, there is no time, it is too late, and the timing is not right. ...
Denial: I'm fine. What are the benefits of change? Maybe leave it alone and the problem will disappear. ...
Fear: I'm not ready. They may refuse me. I don't want to talk about it. I'm not good enough. ...
Wait a minute.
5, the method of change
? Cultivate the will to abandon negative thoughts.
When we try to abandon a certain model, our life may be chaotic for a while. This is actually not a bad thing, because it is a sign that things are starting to improve.
? Keep saying yes to yourself.
As long as you persist slowly and are willing to give yourself some time to observe your changes every day, you will get the answer. Your inner wisdom is the same as the wisdom of creating the whole planet, so please trust your inner guidance and it will give you all the answers.
? Control your thoughts.
Don't think that your mind is in charge. It is you who control your mind.
The past is over, and you can only survive the life experience they caused. However, what you think now and what you think in your mind at this moment is entirely in your own hands. As long as you concentrate and persevere, it won't be long before a new way of thinking will be established.
Forgive yourself and forgive others.
At the moment when we are willing to forgive everything, the healing process really begins.
All diseases stem from unwillingness to forgive.
When life is stagnant, it often means that we must forgive more; If we can't flow freely with the present life, it usually means that we are still clinging to the past moments.
The person you find the hardest to forgive is actually the one you need to let go of most. We are well aware of our own pain, but few people can realize that those who need our forgiveness are actually in pain.
Love is the answer to any treatment, and forgiveness is the road to love.
There is a lot of love in our hearts, which is enough to heal the whole earth, but let's heal ourselves with this love first.
Step 6 build new beliefs
"Love yourself" can be said to be the "magic weapon" to solve all problems.
Affirming yourself and accepting yourself is the true love for yourself. First, find out some small "good qualities" in yourself. Second, let go of other people's opinions. Nature does not repeat itself, and neither do we. We were born different. If we can accept this, there will be no competition and no comparison. To want to be like others is to wither our souls, because we came to this world to show our true selves.
Think of ideas that make you happy, do things that make you feel great, get along with people that make you happy, and eat food that makes your body feel comfortable, so that you can live a happy life.
Sow positive seeds and create new life experiences. Irrigate it with affirmative sentences, let the sunshine of positive thoughts shine on it, and remove the weeds of negative thoughts. Then, you will watch it grow and gradually become what you expect.
7. Heal your body and mind every day
Just like learning other new things, you must keep practicing and make it a part of your life.
Wake up in the morning and be thankful for everything that has happened in your life.
Do some exercise.
Eat healthily.
Read some positive sentences aloud or even sing them out in front of the mirror.
Read and study.
Meditate.
After going to bed, sort out the thoughts of the day, review what happened in the day, and bless your every action.
Sleep peacefully, believe that the process of life will support you, and take care of everything for your greatest happiness and happiness.
Love yourself, love the real you, and love everything you do. As long as you can laugh at yourself and your life, nothing can affect you. Even practicing forgiveness and releasing resentment can be fun if you want.
? Third, feelings
In the past few years, you have suffered more or less failure or loss, but what about with Louise? Do you feel luckier than your humiliating childhood and the invasion of illness?
It is such a person who is teased by fate and may be defeated at any time, but with his firm belief and a tolerant and compassionate heart, he has lived a wonderful life.
Suffering on the road of life is inevitable, and the key is your attitude towards suffering. Do you choose to compromise negatively or face it positively?
One of my thoughts is that only by changing the mental model can we remove the obstacles in life.
Our past experience, experience, education and social environment determine our mental model. Although we can't change our past, we can change our view of it. The past cannot be changed, but the present thoughts are shaping our future. So, if your present is troubled by your past and you want your future to be better than your present, then you should put aside your past paranoia and wrong ideas and cultivate positive thoughts and beliefs from now on.
Kōnosuke Matsushita, a famous Japanese entrepreneur, once said: I succeeded largely because I was blessed by God. He helped me three times, which benefited me a lot.
The first favor, the family is so poor that it can hardly eat. Thanks to poverty, I have tasted the hard work of shoeshine and selling newspapers since I was a child, and gained valuable life experience from it.
Second, since birth, my body has been very weak. Because of my weakness, I got the opportunity to exercise, which enabled me to stay healthy in my old age.
The last favor is that my education level is low, because I haven't even graduated from primary school. Because of my low level of education, I consulted all the people in the world and never neglected my study.
Everyone who has achieved something seems to have an optimistic and open-minded attitude towards life, and can laugh off the sufferings such as poverty, illness and failure that have befallen him. However, we who are healthy and well-fed are always complaining, cynical, critical and vengeful. When life is not satisfactory, it is either because of one's own background and growing environment, or complaining about overwork, harsh leadership, unkind and considerate partner, disobedient children and mediocre intelligence.
Your past restrictive ideas are hindering your progress and growth. It is the right way to change our view of the past and look at the setbacks and sufferings in life with a positive and open mind.
My other feeling is that forgiveness has a broader meaning.
We all know this truth: many times, hating others is to punish ourselves with other people's mistakes, so we should learn to forgive, and forgiving others is also forgiving ourselves.
Where's Louise The sea tells us that forgiving others is more than that. We are well aware of our own pain, but few people know that those who need our forgiveness are also in pain. This is a broader mind. You need to put yourself in the position of the person who hurts you and feel his pain and injury. Don't just think about self-salvation, but also think about saving each other.
The harm caused by others, especially those major wounds, may accompany our hearts for life. We may choose revenge, we may choose to escape, we may pretend that the clouds are light and the wind is light, but the mark of the wound is there to remind you of its ugly appearance from time to time. It is not easy to choose forgiveness, let alone stand in the other person's perspective, feel his pain and save his soul.
But only in this way can we achieve true forgiveness, and only true forgiveness is the beginning of spiritual healing.
This is indeed a difficult and long road, but if you can do it, you will also realize the true meaning of love.