You must be very upset now, but what others say is advice. You'd better follow your heart. How do you want to go in the future?
I can give you some suggestions for your reference. First of all, you can give your children to your grandparents or grandparents, so that you can go to work. Secondly, the child is three years old, so you can let him go to kindergarten. Find a job from nine to five, and it is also convenient to pick up and drop off children. Thirdly, if you don't want to go to work, you can do some part-time jobs, and it's not bad to do part-time jobs while taking care of your children. There are many part-time babysitters now. You can search online. Or, if you only have one child and conditions permit, it's time to consider having a second child.
In short, how you want to go after that depends on your own choice and your actual situation.
I hope the above will help you!
Hello, I am very lucky to answer your question.
From the your language, I feel your anxiety and fear about the future. Why does a person feel anxious about himself and the future? There are several reasons.
First, the inner sense of security, which is the driving force for our life from family background. People with inner strength and security can break through any problem, which is the difference between ordinary people and successful people.
Second: lack of self-knowledge, which is caused by our lack of self-confidence and our failure to correctly analyze ourselves.
From it, we can find a solution to the problem.
First: Before the age of 20, the strength of life comes from parents. After the age of 20, we should be very clear that our life path needs to go step by step, and no one can replace ourselves. When you encounter anxiety, fear and difficulties, give yourself a big hug, feel the flow of this emotion in your body, accept it, recognize it and cure it. When you can be with your emotions, you can feel the power that these emotions bring you.
Second: Understand and analyze yourself scientifically, correctly and objectively. Every personality, everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. How to make full use of our own advantages and correct our own shortcomings is a lesson we have been practicing all our lives, and we need to find, summarize and improve it in our life practice. After you know yourself, you can do things more calmly, what I can do, what I can't do, and what I need to do to do well. There are ways and routines in my heart to realize what I want to do.
Finally, all the problems and sufferings in the world are for self-growth, and everything is the most beautiful encounter. May you find the joy of life in this misery and realize the life you want.
There are still many ways for stay-at-home mothers, provided that you can't stop studying and plan a life goal for yourself. This goal may take ten or twenty years, because your children will grow up and one day you will be liberated!
Why should we leave home to take care of the children? We are easily out of touch with society, and the gap with our husbands is getting bigger and bigger. It is because we spend too much time in the daily work of taking care of our children, and the rest of the time is physically and mentally exhausted, which is basically used to brush Tik Tok, see friends and catch up with the drama. Over time, we became "third-class women", waiting for our husband to leave work, waiting for our son to leave school, and waiting for the TV series to start. After a long time, my sense of self-worth is getting lower and lower, and I feel very confused.
I think stay-at-home mothers can live in a different way. You can meet Japanese housewives and live a very refined and progressive life. It is because of them that I reinvented myself from the above-mentioned common problems of full-time mothers and grew up to be a child tutor.
I'm glad to answer this question. First of all, in your case, it's not a big problem to maintain the existing standard of living, and you are a stay-at-home mother, so you have enough time to think about what to do and how to do it. First, you are a stay-at-home mom. To a certain extent, you have to spend a lot of time with your children and husband, and you don't have complete time to do your own thing, so you can only use scattered time to earn money. Second, you were born in 1990. You are not old, and your education is not high. You have resigned for three or four years and have little experience. This is the status quo. Third, what you have to do now can be considered from the following aspects: improving academic qualifications, reasonably contacting new social things and increasing income. 1, to upgrade your academic qualifications, you can teach yourself undergraduate courses and take various certificates, such as dietitian, health manager certificate and teacher certificate. Within their own conditions, according to their own preferences and plans. 2, reasonable contact with society, increase income, at present, all kinds of short videos, live broadcast with goods are very popular, community group buying and so on. You have done similar work before, you can add this part to your life, in fact, it doesn't take much time. Hand in hand to share, I hope it will help you.
I am also the mother of the post-90s generation. My baby is two and a half years old now. I haven't been to work for three years, but I really hope I can go to work. First, I can have a source of income. Second, it can help my husband reduce some pressure. In fact, everyone's life is very stressful. We want to give our children a good living environment. We feel that our parents are older and have more places to spend money. Now one person earns money, and the whole family uses it. If two people work together, they will always get better. If no one takes care of the baby, you can wait until the baby goes to school before going to work. In fact, in the case of taking care of children at home, my husband thinks that you have not paid for your family, but he doesn't know that time at home is much more worry-free than going to work. Babies should be taken care of, cleaned, washed and cooked. Actually, it's not easier than going to work.
Your problem is the problem of many young stay-at-home mothers. You can ask this question, which means that this will be a turning point in your growth. My elder sister, born in 1990, is also a full-time mother, but she is too absorbed in games to realize her own problems.
I want to put forward the following ideas about her life during this period:
Parents are the first teachers of the children. From this perspective, you should also think about how your words and deeds affect your children. So it is very important to cultivate a healthy hobby.
Buy some books on literature, history, society and other humanities, read a few pages every day and write about your feelings. It not only enriches and polishes one's life and thoughts, but also creates a scholarly environment for children.
Writing and recording life. Keeping a diary, writing about the moment when children grow up, and writing tips for going home … all these will become their precious wealth in the process of children's growth.
Nowadays, mobile phone photography is becoming more and more popular and easier to learn. Why not freeze the beauty of home, country, community and nature with a heart that loves life?
It is also a great skill to keep the house in good order and cook well. How to make the home more warm and harmonious is a problem that full-time mothers need to consider.
In fact, if family conditions permit, growing up with children is the biggest investment, and studying with children instead of playing mobile games alone; Play games with children to improve their personality.
You will become an elegant woman.
In fact, I have always disapproved of women being full-time mothers, but sometimes I can't help being forced to be a full-time mother, so don't give up the pursuit of beauty! I have many stay-at-home mothers around me. Although they both take care of their children at home, the images of the two mothers don't look like full-time mothers at all. They take time out to maintain themselves every day, run every morning when their husband and children are sleeping, and take turns to take care of their children with their father at night, so that she can have time to do yoga or go out for a while. Although the living standard is not high, there are fixed mortgages and car loans every month, but the mentality has always been good. My people admire her good attitude and want her to study, but everyone's personality is different, so I can only say that I will try my best to keep a positive and optimistic attitude!
Tell me more about you. Your child is 3 years old. Now we can find a kindergarten for our children, so that we can have more time to do other things. For the convenience of picking up and dropping off children, you can go to the kindergarten to see if there is a need for a nanny (kindergarten teachers need a qualification certificate and often work overtime, so it is not recommended), so that you can earn money and have time to pick up and drop off children, and you can also do WeChat business with them at ordinary times (it is best not to let parents know that you are doing WeChat business)! Finally, we must manage our own image and maintain a positive and optimistic attitude!
As an experienced person, I can especially understand how Ma Bao feels now.
Yes, the baby should go to kindergarten at the age of three. The mother has her own time during the day and can relax temporarily, but she is faced with the problem of time conflict between going out to find a job and picking up the children.
Let me talk about my mental journey as an experienced person. Kindergarten finishes school at three or four and goes out to look for a job. It's hard to find someone who can get off work after three o'clock, unless it's a part-time job, but the income is limited.
I used to work full-time for a while, and as a result, my children were always the last to be picked up in class, which was unbearable. Later, I resigned.
Just after the New Year, my friend recommended me to contact social e-commerce. There are many big coffees from all walks of life, and there are also many treasure moms doing it. I don't need to invest a penny, dozens or hundreds a day. I have free time, which is enough for me, and my heart is not so panic.
To sum up, after children go to school, they actually face the problems of transportation and tutoring. Therefore, a sideline with no investment and free time is quite suitable. Can refer to.
First of all, you can start from yourself. Children around the age of four can be taken care of by their families and sent to school. Then you can start by slimming, without discriminating against your weight, but you feel that your body has become perfect and the whole person will become more confident.
Then you can continue your WeChat career. Take your time, don't be impatient, everything needs a process of accumulation. If you don't want to do WeChat business, you can also choose a career that suits you. As long as you think you can do it, stick to it.
Only by changing yourself and changing your dissatisfied state can you have everything you want.
For many women, the game between family and career is an eternal problem.
There is no such thing as being a mother, only men are more difficult, just like a line in the movie Looking for You.
If you choose to be a professional woman
Some people will say that you are a bad mother.
If you choose to be a full-time mother, some people will think that it is not a career. If there is only one choice between career and family, most women will choose the latter without hesitation. However, I have to say that stay-at-home mothers are forced to give up their careers. They don't understand how important it is to have a job, but they have no choice. How will they go in the future? It depends on personal planning, find your own direction and realize it step by step.