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A photo of 38-year-old Han Han burst into a circle of friends. True nobility lies in surpassing yourself!
Recently, Han Han basked in his 5-kilometer running performance, and said with emotion: The stadium was empty in the drizzle, and the 5000-meter third-class athlete finally realized it faster than himself 20 years ago.

The performance standard of the national third-level athletes in the 5000m is 17 minutes and 40 seconds, while the 38-year-old Han Han's 5000m time is 17 minutes and 3 1 second, which is 9 seconds faster than the standard.

In fact, on April 8 this year, Han Han showed his running performance. It took 18 minutes and 36 seconds to run 5000 meters. Now two months have passed. He not only improved his past achievements, but also ran faster than 18 years old.

Many people understand it as self-discipline, but it is not. When a person suddenly begins to be keen on fitness, it is often because he realizes the decline of physical function and wants to regain control of his body through fitness.

Because good health and physical fitness are the carriers of dreams, ambitions, careers and all realistic and unrealistic pursuits.

When we say that a person pursues self-realization, the freedom of the body and the ability to dominate and control the body are also part of self-realization.

If you observe carefully, you will find that many people who don't like sports will suddenly start to strengthen physical training when they reach middle age or near middle age.

This is also common among writers. For example, Han Han said that running was very painful when he was studying. After getting fat at the age of 38, he slowly began to embrace running and loved running, surpassing himself again and again.

So is Haruki Murakami. After becoming overweight in his thirties, he became keen on running, and threatened that he always felt that his career as a serious writer started from the day he started running.

Although he had published three novels and had a successful career when he said this, running made him feel that he was constantly breaking through and surpassing.

In the essay collection "What I Talk about Running", Haruki Murakami recorded his mental journey from running to professional iron triangle training, and went further and further in self-shaping.

In his view, running can exercise a novelist's body, spirit and will, and also make people start to think about the meaning and value of being a man.

Jonathan swift, the author of Gulliver's Travels, ran half a mile in the mountains every two hours when he was in his twenties.

Louisa may alcott, the author of Little Women, is also keen on running.

Malcolm Gladwell, an English writer, helped himself to export for a long time by running again even when his writing was interrupted and his career dried up.

This is not explained by simple self-discipline, but comes from people's internal driving force, eager to surpass themselves, eager to realize self-worth, eager to regain physical and mental autonomy.

At the beginning of the 20th century, psychologists generally paid attention to the diseases that afflicted the human mind, but abraham maslow soon realized that this concern was one-sided.

Because the goal of psychology is not only to understand and eliminate our weaknesses, but also to help us thrive.

So Maslow suggested that Freud provided us with the morbid side of psychology, but now, we must fill it with the healthy side.

Therefore, in "Towards Existentialist Psychology", he put forward a viewpoint: the most important part of distinguishing psychological prosperity from mental illness and psychological mediocrity is a person's ability to realize himself.

In other words, many writers are keen on running because they are more committed to self-exploration than most people, and many people who are still eager to realize their self-worth in middle age will regain their self-realization ability through fitness and running.

Because according to Maslow, human beings are driven to meet their so-called "hierarchy of needs".

"Self-realization" occupies the peak of this level.

Some people are committed to self-realization from the beginning, such as artists and senior professionals.

However, some people have been struggling for basic needs, such as food, water and shelter, and some things necessary for mental health, such as security, love, status, belonging and self-esteem.

People who pay attention to self-realization will reduce the satisfaction of other basic needs and focus on the aspects that can realize themselves.

For example, musicians must create music, painters must draw good pictures, and writers must write good works.

There are sixpence everywhere, but he can't see the moon, because for artists, self-realization comes first.

Maslow said in Motivation and Personality: What kind of person you can be, what kind of person you must be. They must be true to their nature. This demand can be called self-realization ... it refers to a person's desire for self-realization, which means a trend that he may become his true self.

When we began to devote ourselves to self-realization, mastering ourselves became our goal in life and gradually evolved into our way of life.

We regard our soul as an unexplored secret, and with endless motivation, we will explore and understand its depth and breadth more.

Therefore, some artists feel pain through self-destruction, such as decadent life, shape the ultimate self-experience, and then realize their artistic pursuit.

However, some artists have achieved physical and spiritual breakthroughs and artistic pursuits through self-shaping and self-transcendence.

When we strive to achieve our goals, we focus on mastering the necessary skills, and in the process, we realize our potential.

The strength of physical fitness is the basis for us to further perceive our own potential.

In all modern terms, I hate touting self-discipline, because I don't agree with the so-called self-discipline, self-demand and self-persistence. I think people do something every day because they get benefits from it.

This is what Maslow put forward: peak experience.

Peak experience has a strong therapeutic and encouraging effect, which can permanently inspire us to do something.

Maslow believes that peak experience can't be stimulated spontaneously, but it appears much more frequently in people who pursue self-realization than most people. This means that peak experience is a by-product of personal growth experienced by self-actualizers when they cultivate skills and strive to realize their potential.

In other words, we see Haruki Murakami running day after day and year after year, not because he is self-disciplined in running, but because he has a very strong writing pursuit. In order to realize his creative ambition, he began to regain his physical and mental autonomy through running and sports, and in the process of regaining it, he experienced the peak experience, so that he could achieve long-term success.

So is Han Han. The self-transcendence realized by running inspired his unconscious peak experience in the process of self-realization and made him keen to do it.

Personally, I feel this way because in the last two years, I have obviously found that my energy has dropped, and I can't stay up late reading and work overtime as before.

During the Chinese New Year this year, I accumulated a lot of meat because of the epidemic at home. I started to do sports at the beginning of the month, and later found that sports actually greatly improved my work efficiency and kept me energetic in writing, instead of getting tired easily.

After that exercise helped me a lot in what I desperately wanted to do, I began to exercise every day, and the amount of exercise gradually escalated, but my energy was getting better and better, and I liked sports more and more. Before that, I hated math and PE the most.

Insist on fitness, not because I am self-disciplined, but because I experienced this peak experience in the process of fitness, thus reshaping my daily life.

In other words, keeping fit is only part of helping me realize my dream. Because I can realize myself through fitness, I began to love fitness.

Therefore, it has nothing to do with self-discipline, because I have never forced myself to do it as before, but I am willing to do it.

The reason why I mentioned self-realization many times in my article is that people who pursue self-realization can heal many physical and mental wounds by themselves, subconsciously get rid of the desire to be accepted and loved, and will not be obsessed with "social comparison" like most people.

In other words, people who pursue self-realization do not expect others' approval, social standards, or an authority to decide their own life, but make judgments according to their own conscience, make choices from the beginning, and decide the direction of life by nature.

The French philosopher Montaigne wrote in his article: I have my own laws and my own courts to judge me. I mean these rather than other places.

This is because people who pay attention to self-realization have become strong enough and brave enough to be independent of the social evaluation system and no longer rely on others' praise, recognition or even emotions to build their own lives.

Because they realize that honor, status, prestige and love are not as important as self-development and inner growth.

Personally, I once forced myself to diet and exercise in order to get thinner and put on more beautiful clothes, but it didn't work after a while.

Because deep down, I pay more attention to experience, including experiencing the pleasure of food, making myself happy by eating food, so as to work more energetically.

Now, I am addicted to sports. As long as I don't exercise for a day, I feel super uncomfortable, because I find that the energy brought by exercise can replace the pleasure provided by food. In other words, my ultimate pursuit is to serve my work, not my beauty.

I can do it with great pleasure for the sake of beauty and more efficient work. After experiencing this peak experience, fitness has become a daily life style, not a deliberate pursuit.

Therefore, when you are eager to establish a certain lifestyle, you should not make plans, set goals and force yourself to implement them, but think clearly first. What are you doing this for?

Self-actualizers establish their own way of life, which is largely determined by their life mission.

All your choices are to help you realize what you are most eager to achieve, and that is your passion in life.

Find this passion, find your mission in life, and you will subconsciously develop skills around it. You will enjoy the process of refining every skill, because every skill tells you that I am getting closer and closer to my goal.

Therefore, instead of enviing Han Han's self-discipline and Haruki Murakami's regular life, it is better to envy them that they have something they like to do and are willing to do things that many people feel painful in order to do what they want to do.

Text | Paris Night Rose

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