That is to say, even if a person has learned more knowledge and read more books, there is no way to restrain his words and deeds from conforming to etiquette norms, benefiting his body and mind and helping others achieve good deeds. What he learned was nothing more than "Shuiyue Dojo, a Buddhist event in a dream."
The essence of self-cultivation is a long-term struggle against one's bad habits and weak will. We should always check our physical and mental words and deeds, and use sincere, loving and humble sentiments to remove impurities from our thoughts, so as to eradicate the external and internal causes that make us frivolous, proud, arrogant and eccentric.
The most practical way to cultivate one's self-cultivation is to choose good friends, make friends widely, increase virtue through mutual encouragement of good friends, cultivate interest, and understand kindness with the least affectation. We must stay away from worldly empty talk. Those who love to show off their knowledge, rhetoric, comparison, boasting, telling dirty jokes, telling lies and joking should stay away. These things can only make people corrupt.
"The ancient scholars are themselves, and today's scholars are human beings." The ancients studied to enrich and perfect their personality, and put it into practice in words and deeds without going beyond the truth. Modern people study only to show off their knowledge, which has nothing to do with their personality cultivation, but is boring.
Never flinch in the process of learning, but always thirst for knowledge, admire the personality and wisdom of the sages, and carefully study their life ending, the realm of life they opened up, and their legacy to future generations. Over time, the good results of life will gradually mature, not flashy, and what you learn will only be lip service without substance.
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Ten methods and one method
First, in life, don't always miss tomorrow, and don't always regret what happened yesterday. Focus your attention on what you want to do today.
Second, live here.
There is nothing we can do about what happened in the distance. Worrying doesn't help anything. So remember, you live here and now, not far away.
Third, stop speculating and face the reality.
You may have encountered such a situation: in the unit, when you meet leaders or colleagues, you say hello, but they don't respond, and Lian Xiao doesn't even smile.
Think about it, why do they treat themselves like this? Is there something wrong with this person? Are you demeaning yourself In fact, maybe you didn't expect you to say hello to him, but he may be absent-minded and in a bad mood and didn't pay attention to your greeting. Many psychological barriers are often caused by "taking it for granted" without practical basis.
Fourth, stop thinking and feel more.
Modern society requires people to think more and feel less. What people think about all day is how to do a good job, how to get good grades in exams, and how to improve the relationship with leaders and colleagues. So it's easy to ignore or have no mind to see beautiful scenery and listen to good music.
One of the characteristics of Gestalt therapy is to emphasize "feeling" on the basis of thinking, which can adjust and enrich your thinking. However, people overemphasize logical thinking and intuitive thinking is often ignored. The terrible consequence is that people will become a machine without feelings.
Fifth, accept unpleasant emotions. People usually want to have happy feelings, but they are unwilling to accept melancholy, sadness and unpleasant feelings. Happiness and unhappiness are relative, and they also exist and transform each other. Therefore, the correct attitude is: not only to accept happy emotions, but also to be psychologically prepared to accept unpleasant emotions.
Sixth, don't judge at will. When others make a small mistake or fail, people tend to jump to conclusions. The correct way to treat people and interpersonal relationships should be: don't judge people first, say your own thoughts first. In this way, you can prevent and avoid unnecessary friction and conflict with others, and you can also avoid unnecessary trouble and depression.
Seven, don't blindly worship idols and authority. There are many disguised authorities and idols in modern society, who will imprison your thoughts and bind your hands and feet, such as education, money and so on. Don't blindly agree with public opinion, thus losing the habit of independent thinking; Don't succumb to others unprincipled, thus being deprived of the ability to act independently.
Eight, I am me. Anyway, if I were someone, I would have succeeded. We should start from our own starting point and give full play to our potential. Don't complain, start from me, start from scratch, try my best to give full play to my talents and do what I can.
Nine, be responsible for yourself. People tend to pass the buck easily. For example, if you don't do well in the exam, you will blame the failure on your poor family environment, you will say that your leadership ability is poor and your conditions are too poor, and you will blame your mistakes and failures on objective reasons. This important principle of gestalt therapy is to ask yourself to be responsible for what you have done.
X. Correct self-estimation. In other words, put yourself in a correct position. Everyone occupies a specific position in society, so you should fulfill your rights and obligations according to the requirements of this specific position. If you don't act according to this universally recognized and observed norm, you will be condemned and opposed by society and others.