Respecting the elderly includes not only material contributions, but also psychological care. Some old people feel helpless because of their special hobbies. For example, some elderly people who have good living conditions and are obviously filial to their children are particularly frugal and even like to pick up beverage bottles and sell them on the street. And most of them don't listen to their children's dissuasion and go their separate ways. It is difficult for children and outsiders of the elderly to understand their behavior, and even think that it is a quirk similar to Alzheimer's disease.
So, what are the real psychology of these old people? Let's explain one by one:
Case one, send away loneliness and find a sense of existence.
Uncle Li is 74 years old. He used to be a senior engineer in an enterprise. His wife died three years ago. He has two sons and a daughter, both of whom have good jobs and careers at present. After sending several grandchildren to middle school, Uncle Li suddenly became idle. I don't know when he started, he picked up drink bottles in parks, squares and schools every day. After his children knew it, it was useless to persuade them many times, and then they had to give up. It was not until Uncle Li fell to the hospital to pick up the bottle that his children learned from the old population. Uncle Li went out all day just to find something to do for himself, and his pension could not be spent. He picked up the bottle just to see more people and talk to others in crowded places, that's all.
What Uncle Li really lacks is the company of children. Instead of picking up the bottle, he drove away loneliness.
Example 2: Grandma Zhang is used to being poor.
Grandma Zhang should be over 80 years old now. Her youngest son is a real estate developer with a net worth of over 100 million yuan. Grandma Zhang's husband died a long time ago, leaving her in her thirties, three daughters and a son. The youngest is still in her belly and not yet born. Grandma Zhang worked hard to bring up her four children and suffered a lot. Unexpectedly, the younger son went out with the construction team and gradually became a famous local developer. Although her son is rich, Grandma Zhang Can can't change her frugal habit. She wouldn't let her son buy her gold and silver jewelry, let alone designer clothes. She won't let the lights at home be afraid of power consumption. She can't hide leftovers. Even if the steamed bread is moldy, she will remove the moldy place and continue to eat. What annoys her son most is that no matter what the occasion is, Grandma Zhang always cleans up the leftovers when she meets people. She always takes a woven bag when she goes out. When she saw the drink bottle and waste paper, she picked it up like a baby. If she was not a local, she would never have thought that her son was a rich man if she saw her dress and picked up bottles everywhere.
Grandma Zhang is the kind of old man who is afraid of eating. She always thinks people are too wasteful. In the past, people didn't even have enough coarse grains and wild vegetables.
Example 3: Grandpa Wu and Grandpa Hu who want to exert their waste heat.
Although there is no famous old man riding a tricycle to donate money to students, the 80-year-old man is also one of the touching figures in China. As a retired principal, Grandpa Wu's retirement salary is also considerable, with an annual income of about 65,000 yuan. He doesn't smoke or drink himself and seldom buys clothes. After wearing a shabby sweatshirt for 30 years, he donated his 35-year pension to poor children. In addition, he also collects bottles and cans, and the money from selling waste products is also used to donate money to help students. Another grandfather, Hu Chengfa, was rated as one of the top ten people who moved the Central Plains that year, and he was also a model for helping others. Grandpa Hu has been a village cadre for decades. He has been doing 18 charity since he was 67 years old. One of his financial sources of charity is collecting bottles and selling waste products. The old man is disabled because he hurt his leg at work. Even so, he insisted on buying school supplies for children in rural schools and sending moon cakes to the elderly in nursing homes. The day before his death, he was still collecting rubbish in the street.
Grandpa Bai, Grandpa Wu and Grandpa Hu are all noble people. They are all people with lofty pursuits. People who are all capitalized. They really dedicated the afterheat of their lives to the society, which deserves the praise of all of us!
The above three examples respectively illustrate the psychology of three kinds of old people. No matter what their purpose is, I hope young people can be more understanding and tolerant.