And what about the man who told you "share weal and woe"? After giving birth to the child, he seems to be an "invisible man". I don't see the child's discomfort, and I don't consider the wife's needs.
Tangtang feels that life is getting worse every day since she became a mother.
At noon that day, Tang Tang picked up his son from kindergarten and arranged for the children to play with toys at home, then they had time to cook. Half an hour later, sugar and sugar made two dishes and one soup, and my husband went home for dinner, but his son of this age was like a perpetual motion machine, running around the house, just unable to calm down and have a good meal.
In desperation, Tang Tang had to chase after his son with a bowl and spoon to feed him. The child is full of energy. Now he went to the dollhouse, and the next second he went to the living room. Feeding Tang Tang is very painful. Finally, the "little ancestor" settled down, and Tang Tang was hungry, dragging his tired body and wanted to sit down and eat something.
Unexpectedly, what Tang Tang saw when she walked to the dining table touched her deeply.
The dishes on the dining table are basically "empty", and the most left is vegetable soup. There is a lot of rice in the rice cooker, but my husband is burping and lying on the sofa playing with his mobile phone.
I worked so hard to cook and feed for a long time that I didn't even eat cold rice and cold dishes. In the face of this scene, Tang Tang was speechless and chilling. He asked her husband, "Did you eat all of them, and don't leave me any?"
Husband a face of surprise "? I thought you didn't feed the children until after dinner, so I didn't leave it for you. I still try to eat, for fear of wasting. I knew I wouldn't eat that much. Eating this is called raising. " There was no trace of guilt and remorse in the words, and then I bowed my head and played with my mobile phone.
Tang Tang wanted to say a lot, but she held back, because she knew it was useless to say more, so she could only soak the remaining rice in some water as porridge and barely took a bite.
Husband's "virtue" is not a day or two. Sugar sugar doesn't expect him to be warm, but is it difficult for men to "care"?
There is a better saying than a famous saying: "Fuck you" is the most frequently said by fathers in China family.
In many China families, the husband thinks that taking care of children is the "exclusive task" of the mother. As long as the father encounters such a thing as eating, drinking and sleeping, he will be at a loss to shout "wife, come here" and "son, go find your mother", and then quickly escape from the occasion.
Taking care of children, like giving birth, is not only a woman's business, but also the father's participation.
It is understandable that dad is busy at work, and the children don't need your company all the time. Playing with children, drawing graffiti and going out for an outing are all good times for parents and children to get along.
However, it is unreasonable to say that dad can't spare the time and always uses "busy work" as an excuse. When he comes home, he will only lie on the sofa playing games and pointing at his wife and children.
Confessions of mother:
After being promoted to mother, he seems to be omnipotent like superman, turning around like a top, and dad is like an "invisible man" in taking care of the baby. Although I don't expect my husband to help my wife share much, at least I have to look at my heart and understand the hard work and difficulty of my mother with her baby.
When she is busy with the baby, her husband can give a hand; When she is worried about her children, her husband can give some comfort; When she has finished feeding the children, she can have a hot meal without leaving anything behind.
Discussion topic: Who is the main force in your family to take care of the baby? After giving birth, will the husband help with the children and take care of his wife?