When I have no children, I am free and unrestrained. After having children, even my views have changed inexplicably, and I have a warm concern for the world.
Although we will also vomit all kinds of rush and discomfort after having a child, we can't help laughing at the thought of the child's pink smile, funny expression and even crying. Children are really the softest place in our hearts.
I'm from the Rainbow is written by Barbara Patterson, who has been engaged in early childhood education in the United States, and Pamela Brad, her parents. The book tells how to get in touch with the educational concept of "Waldorf" and outlines how to cultivate healthy, happy and capable children, as well as the discipline of play and creativity.
This book covers all aspects of children's education, but there is no long-term concept. There are many experiences and practices based on teaching practice, as well as records of discussions with parents, solutions to specific problems (mom is extremely confused), practices of kindergarten toys, and recommended books.
The book is full of warmth about the influence of the surrounding environment and rhythm on children, and the skills of playing and raising children. Easy to read, easy to produce * * * sounds, which is very helpful to me.
Speaking of rhythm, I think of exploding drums, and I want to know what rhythm is needed to raise children.
Rhythm is the external environment perceived by children and its changing law.
For children, rhythm is very important. When to eat, when to sleep and when to go out for a walk, they are more sensitive than us. Once this rhythm is disrupted, children will not adapt and often cry.
For older children, rhythm is a way to know the world, which has entered their hearts in the form of the sum of external environment. Regular rhythm will make them more self-disciplined and more secure.
In the Japanese drama Love of Sages, Makoto's childhood family environment was beautiful and harmonious. Although there are many things at home, they are all arranged in an orderly way and full of warmth. Lily's home is messy and full of violence, although there are servants. There is a pool of water left in the swimming pool, which is a mess. Despite the twisted story, Macocco is gentle, confident and cultured, while Lily is more aggressive and full of self-distrust.
I have a child who grew up together. Her mother tends to be neat. It is forbidden to eat snacks such as melon seeds and biscuits at home. Even children can't make an exception for neatness. Although she is not a neat freak, living on campus, she'd better keep her things in order, even the dirty clothes she took off before going to bed should be folded and put aside. This is the influence of the rhythm she felt since she was a child.
To establish rhythm, it is necessary to create a good external environment and formulate rules.
A clean and comfortable home, decent clothes and relaxed and harmonious atmosphere will remain in the child's heart and gradually form what he looks like when he grows up.
Establishing the rhythm of eating, sleeping and playing will make these things easier to complete, and will also help children form a confident and strong heart, because he can "control" life.
Feel the rhythm of the four seasons, experience the changes of nature, and learn to fear, which will make your heart stronger.
It is mentioned in the book that a boy's mother wants a better Christmas present. After all, children already have many toys.
Teacher Barbara's suggestions are as follows:
It's incredible, isn't it? Electric toys that can sing, scream, walk and shine are really "weak". However, the children liked it very much and immediately started to play.
It is mentioned in the book that all the toys in their kindergarten are "original", including dolls, dolls, silk cloth, smooth wood and so on. The children had a good time.
Two children at home bought a lot of toys, all of which were given by others, and it was a headache to clean them up. They don't often play with many toys, such as toys with a pillar and large and small circles in the middle, as well as children's mobile phones, planes, small trains, fitness racks, marbles, balls and so on. Maybe they are old. These are their childhood toys. What they play most often now is Duckling on Wheels. Riding a duckling can run very fast and often "drag" and "drift" at home.
The book thinks that these simple toys can have unlimited combinations to stimulate all kinds of imagination, and also meet the needs of children at this stage: touch and feel different materials to stimulate imagination.
I want to have a try. I will prepare some small baskets for my children, and I will make my own dolls.
Today's children have to attend early childhood classes. Some parents think playing is a waste of time. They like to buy educational toys, play educational games and watch educational programs for their children. For the sake of time, safety and health, outdoor activities are rarely played.
This book thinks that TV is the biggest obstacle for children. Watching TV is inevitable, and monitoring content and setting time limit may be more feasible choices. Outdoor activities can release children's excessive energy and better contact with nature. If possible, it is also fun for children to experience the four elements of wind, fire, water and earth.
Games are the source of children's healthy growth. The simplest and rustic toys can meet the needs of children; Doing more outdoor activities has many benefits, especially for energetic children.
Raising children is a long and arduous task, and mastering some tips can make it easier for us to get along with each other. There are many cases in the book that deserve our careful reading.
The first is to master the laws of children's growth and development. Most of the problems that children have in the process of growing up are staged. If you have a certain understanding of these problems, you will not panic when problems arise, and you can make preparations in advance to help yourself and your children get through this stage smoothly.
Children from 6 months to 1 year may suddenly have a high fever, most likely an acute rash in children. Don't rush to give your child antipyretics;
When a child is about two and a half years old, his memory will get better and better. At this time, he developed associative memory. He may see strawberries and think of his grandmother who gave them to him, but it is hard to remember what he ate and did in the morning. Avoid asking children such questions;
Children aged 3 to 5 will like to ask "why". They don't want to know the answer to the question, but they are experiencing the facts they can ask. Compared with real answers, simple, humorous and poetic answers are often better.
When my little niece was this age, she also liked to keep asking why. Before the answer to one question is finished, the next question comes. She likes to ask a question at the beginning and then repeat "why" Always answer carefully first, and say "bean foam" if you don't want to answer! Then the two of us will laugh and ask questions.
The second is to be a conscientious person in life. Because children's growth and development can be found to be regular, the problems they encounter have their own characteristics, so the experience of others is often very effective. Be a conscientious person in life and do your homework in advance according to the possible problems of your child. When there is a problem, we can handle it easily and then say "it's so easy" smartly!
At the stage of "no", children will be "rebellious" and often say "no". Adults should avoid confrontational attitudes and don't think about "twisting Xiong Haizi". They can distract themselves and do other things together. You can achieve this goal by playing word games, so that children can say "no, I want to sleep" with "I guess you don't want to sleep"; You can also have a sense of humor.
When children keep asking "why", you can also end the topic with "bean foam" like me, paying attention to the exaggeration of tone and the friendliness of expression.
When a child is naughty, don't use violence to stop it, let alone preach endlessly. It is said that the church can stimulate children's boredom and anger, and we can calm children down by "remodeling" the harmonious space around him, such as silently sorting out his messy things, touching his head and tidying his clothes.
When the child doesn't have a good meal, you can seriously draw a mark on his stomach and exaggerate a little: Ah, mom (dad/grandpa/grandma) sees rice here, meat here and apples here in your stomach, huh? Where are the vegetables? Why are there no vegetables? At this time, the child will giggle and be willing to eat some vegetables. If he says he is full, you can do the same, and then give him a light meal and tell him that he is free and can have some more rice or anything you want him to eat. (This is the method I saw in an article on WeChat)
More and more people think that the best education for children is parents' love, family harmony and creating a good external environment for him.
I know I can't be perfect, and I'm not ready to be perfect. I am groping for being a mother, and I am also groping for this road of growth with the children from Rainbow.