First of all, keep the desire to share.

Sleep for 2 hours, whether to share each other's thoughts and feelings; The vulnerability and pressure of the other party; What you see and hear in a day, even if it's just a strange tree you see on your way to work. This feeling of revealing everything from the inside out and always thinking about each other is the key to a long-term happiness of a relationship.

Note: Many couples draw pictures at night and go home, one sitting in the living room and the other in the bedroom, each playing with his own mobile phone and not talking. They are still close, but they are no longer close. Sharing desire is the most important criterion to test intimacy. To what extent are two people willing to share with each other? What did you share? Do you still know this person around you? Does he still know you?

Second, hug each other every day.

Scientific research shows that the hug between husband and wife is more important than X. Hugging can stimulate our emotional center and make you feel love and care when hugging your partner. A hug does not consume physical strength, but also enhances intimacy. Moreover, when hugging, the human body will secrete oxytocin, which makes people feel relaxed and happy, and can also resist aging.

Third, give life more freshness.

Psychologist Allen did an experiment to divide 60 couples who have been married for more than 10 years into three groups:

The first group, continue to follow the previous lifestyle;

The second group spends half an hour every week doing an interesting activity they have done before;

The third group spends half an hour every week doing an activity that they think is exciting and have never done before;

The final result is very obvious. Couples who follow the previous lifestyle have the lowest happiness index, while couples who do some stimulating activities together have the highest happiness index. The results of this experiment show that the key to maintaining love for a long time lies in the mobility between lovers, especially trying new activities.

Freshness = small surprise+sense of ceremony+playing cards out of common sense

Small surprise: for example, bring a small dessert that Ta likes on the way home.

Ritual sense: the first cup of milk tea in autumn, 99 roses on the wedding anniversary and a birthday wish at zero are all sources of freshness.

Play cards against common sense: give the other half a nickname (Mr. Wang), or two people exchange roles and play roles. Don't be embarrassed. It's like opening a blind box Both of them will wait to get to know each other better.

Fourth, know how to show weakness

The essence of weakness is actually a kind of advanced emotional value, which can make the other person feel needed and appreciated. Weakness requires you to learn to express your needs.

For example, honey, I worked all day today. I'm so tired, I miss you to hug me. Dear, please help me to see how to deal with this matter. You are the best! Only when the other person can feel needed by you can he have a sense of existence in this relationship. You must remember that if he can't find a sense of existence at home, he will go out and look for it. He thinks you need him, and this relationship will last.

5. How to exaggerate each other.

Many people will think that the more I praise the other half, the more he floats. In fact, the truly advanced praise is not to praise him to the sky, but to take him home.

Remember this formula of praise: specific events+praise of advantages+your own feelings.

He sent you a present. You can praise him like this: honey, the red number you gave me today is so beautiful, and your eyes are really good. I am surprised that I love you a little more today.

Six, do housework together

My 20-year experience in marriage counseling shows that the more couples participate in housework, the better their feelings will be. The more appropriate the division of housework between husband and wife, the higher the emotional concentration. On the contrary, those men who act as shopkeepers in the family will definitely have bad feelings between husband and wife.

Two people doing housework together is an emotional baptism and a process of deep communication. And if a man really loves a woman, he will take the initiative to share housework.

At the same time, the research results of the Chinese University of Hong Kong show that for men, the risk of death can be reduced to 765,438+0% by doing heavy housework (mopping the floor, cleaning windows, washing cars, maintaining furniture, taking care of children, etc.). ) every week, for women, do 2.5 hours of light housework (washing dishes, washing clothes, cooking, dust removal, etc. ) every day.

Doing housework can reduce the risk of breast cancer by 8%, while doing heavy housework every week will increase the mortality rate by 92%. Therefore, reasonable arrangement of husband and wife's housework types, matching between men and women, and not being tired of work are also helpful to each other's health.

Conclusion: Finally, I want to tell you that love is a verb, and the action of love precedes the feeling of love, so you have to love each other before you can feel the love for each other. Let's start with these six little things and take action!