In this incident, everyone is limited by gender and age, which is problematic in itself. When we think about age, then this matter is doomed to have no result and no follow-up. After all, legally, people under 14 can only give priority to criticism and education.
The behavior of children and men can be said to be the same as obscenity and SQ action. At least it shows that it is not the first time for him to see such a scene, so he can follow the gourd painting gourd ladle, and his behavior can only come from his family. We are thinking about all the words and deeds of the boy's mother. To put it bluntly, this is the continuation of the three views! There may be no relevant laws and regulations in China, but the parents of boys are subject to investigation abroad!
The boy's mother casually said that she was willing to do something hastily, so what is voluntary? Self-origin means that I am voluntary, not forced by others, but for a 5-year-old girl, her physical development and brain development should still remain in a state of ignorance, that is, I will do it if you ask me to, and I will not do it if you don't let me. Isn't it ridiculous for a five-year-old to say voluntary?
In contrast, the behavior of boys aged 10 deserves further study and discussion! At least he will know more, know more! You are so obscene, you must let him know the seriousness of this behavior! At the same time, his parents should be blamed, because his parents not only protect their children, but also may be cultivating a scum for society. If we don't pay attention to it now, this boy may become another Li Tianyi in the future!
At the just-concluded National People's Congress, a representative suggested that the age of criminal responsibility should be lowered to 14, so that young people can realize the importance of obeying the law, instead of playing the trump card of age. Personally, I think this is necessary. Juvenile delinquency is increasing, and age is their biggest umbrella! Social discovery is fast, children are precocious, and even some children will use their age to commit crimes!
Children are the shadows of parents, and parents are the mirrors of children. If this matter is applied to this sentence, we can see how shameless the boy and his parents are! Don't say there are all kinds of birds in the forest, because such birds are not worth feeding at all!
This happened in Shanghai Vanke Sisyphury Bookstore. The story is about two mothers taking their sons and daughters to the bookstore to read books. Generally, we all know that after the children go, they just sit and look for books as usual, but in the process of reading, the girl comes back and tells her mother that a boy asked her to do it.
Finally, the girl's mother felt that something was wrong and asked for investigation and monitoring. This is a big bang. Boys actually let girls touch their nakedness and made a series of adult behaviors. Finally, the bookstore closed the surveillance. Boys 10 years old, girls are 5 years old.
Finally, the girl's mother went to the boy to discuss the current theory. Finally, people say that the girl is voluntary, that we are from Shanghai and so on.
Result. Later, I reported the case and contacted my lawyer, but after media reports, the other party refused to show up after being summoned. The lawyer means that/kloc-children under 0/4 years old are not enough to constitute a crime, and they can only apologize at most. So what happened after about nine days?
0 1. Although I knew I could get nothing, I entrusted a lawyer and tried my best.
02. The child is fine, probably because she is young, and she may understand when she grows up, but we won't tell her, and we hope that after she understands, she will feel more about her current love. At any time, we can tell her personally that your mother has made all efforts to protect you, bravely stood up and understood her love, and there are many uncles and aunts who have never met. Finally, thank you for your help and support.
1. I always think, the boy's mother, are you really embarrassed? You are like a mouse now, just hiding in a dark corner! I believe that you will be known to us in the near future.
The second thing we want to tell you is that your education method is really incorrect. Children are so young, can't you do anything without them?
Third, we want to tell you, do you know Li Tianyi? It's not the way to escape when the child makes a mistake. Blindly protecting the final result will make him feel that everything he does in the future is right.
4. the fourth point. Personality problem has nothing to do with anywhere, Shanghai or other places. We just want to tell you that quality knows no borders.
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Guo Ge's point of view: Both children are minors, and their actions cannot be punished by law.
But this does not mean that the boy's guardian should not be punished by law!
In China, the issue of sex education for minors has always been very sensitive, and the lack and lag of education has always been a big problem. Because people in China are shy, sex education is very closed.
This leads to a question: who will do the sex education and sexual enlightenment for children? What if the child is curious? Can only illegal and criminal acts occur?
Recently, a very shocking thing happened in Shanghai Qibao Vanke Xifuli Bookstore, because the protagonist of the incident was two children under 0/kloc-0!
The surveillance of the bookstore recorded the "criminal facts" of a boy who was only ten years old.
How irritating! Does a 5-year-old girl know what is voluntary? !
In this question, I found three problems:
Because of the relationship between traditional ideas and China people's personality, sex education in China has been very backward. Sex education has always been a sensitive topic in families and schools, so many minors are curious and suspicious, and no one can give them scientific answers, which further enhances their curiosity and leads to adverse consequences.
There are blind spots and lags in the laws for the elderly and minors in China. Sadly, many minors who have committed crimes have not tasted the bitter fruit because of legal problems in the end, while the families of the victims can only watch the criminals escape or mitigate the legal treatment. Like what happened the day before yesterday: an 80-year-old man harassed a girl in the street. Because he is over 70, he can be exempted from administrative detention and let this "old pervert" get away with it!
Parents are the children's first teachers, and the boy's behavior in public shows that the children's parents have great problems in their education on weekdays.
Therefore, as parents, we must not force our children to go to school. Blind love is not love, but hurt! Parents should do a good job in educating their children when they are young, and the universal knowledge should be popularized. You should know that the current "sorry" is for the better and healthier growth of children!
In addition, with the development of the times, children are becoming more and more precocious, and people's life expectancy is getting longer and longer. Relevant departments should consider amending the age stipulated by law as appropriate!
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Venue: Shanghai Qibao Vanke Xixi Fuli Bookstore
The reason is that a 10-year-old boy took off his girl's underwear in the bookstore and made an indecent move to her, asking the girl to lick the boy's nakedness.
The girls' mothers on both sides found the boys' parents. The other party said that the girl was voluntary and refused to apologize. They say they are from Shanghai and are not afraid of the police.
1. Today's children are precocious, but ten-year-old boys have not yet entered adolescence, and they are curious and imitative. It is possible that they will try to invade the girl without knowing it. As guardians, parents should give their children the necessary sex education and self-protection awareness from an early age, and of course, they should also educate their children to respect others and not to hurt others at will.
2. After the incident, facing the anger of the girl's mother, the boy's parents said that the girl was voluntary and refused to apologize. This shows that as a parent, she has no responsibility and lacks positive influence on the education and guidance of her children. This will make children feel that as long as they don't admit it, as long as they fight for three points unreasonably, they can escape responsibility and punishment.
Call yourself a Shanghainese, not afraid of the police. Locals should not rightfully do something wrong in the local area and discriminate against foreigners. No matter where they made mistakes, they should apologize and be punished accordingly.
4. Girls' parents usually lack guidance and education on their children's self-protection. Regardless of boys and girls, the earlier the self-protection education, the better. Children should take the initiative to refuse other people's touch and other violations when they are young, and leave in time to find help objects. The occurrence of this incident also shows that the parents of the girl do not supervise their children enough, and it is very dangerous to let a five-year-old child leave his sight.
1. Parents should start from themselves first. If they want to educate their children well, they must first cultivate themselves. Some unhealthy and disharmonious family behaviors should be avoided as much as possible. Don't think that children don't know anything, but children will imitate and try out of curiosity, which will hurt others.
2. After the child makes a mistake, the guardian's parents should take the initiative to take responsibility and set an example to let the child know that he has made a mistake and it is wrong to infringe on others.
3. Parents are advised to guide and educate their children's awareness of self-protection and basic sex education in their daily lives, so that children can actively refuse and seek help from people around them when they are violated and escape from possible dangers.
Through the whole incident, it is not difficult to find out why you let your 5-year-old daughter leave your sight for a long time. Even girls don't know that they are being bullied, and the mother of the girl has an unshirkable responsibility for poor supervision.
The attitude of the boy's parents is the most hateful. Can a 5-year-old girl volunteer? Is your mind full of paste? 10-year-old children can understand so many things. How do you usually educate your children? Isn't this a hooligan? 10-year-old children are still immature and are in psychological development. Your son's behavior will affect his life!
When dealing with people, we should learn to put ourselves in others' shoes. If 10-year-old boy's parents were hurt, would you still say so? This is outrageous!
Analyze this matter from the legal level: the boy is 10 years old and does not have full capacity, so the boy does not have to bear all legal responsibilities. This is the focus of the whole event. There's nothing you can do with this 10-year-old boy. It's not enough to catch a sentence! This is why the girl's parents risked the girl's reputation and published the whole incident on the Internet, seeking justice through the Internet!
Reflection, in today's highly developed science and technology, people have mobile phones, and the channels for obtaining sexual knowledge are getting wider and wider. How to guide children correctly and prevent them from going astray! What should be done in children's education to avoid the recurrence of similar incidents? This is what we should think about. It's never too late to mend!
I looked around the Internet, and there seems to be no new progress about the indecent behavior of the Shanghai 10-year-old boy bookstore and the subsequent treatment results. Will it disappear with time? But the girl's mother sent Weibo an update.
I am glad that the subject with a sense of justice has re-published the question and let more and more friends participate in the discussion. And this matter, I think it is the boy's mother who should be condemned more. That ignorant and hateful attitude is really shocking!
According to the latest progress of the girl's mother Weibo:
1. I have entrusted a lawyer to handle the formalities. Do my best.
It has been more than a week, and the child is in a good mental state now.
This kind of condemnation and contempt for the boy's mother not only makes no apologies for her children's behavior, but also denies it in every way, claiming that the girl did it voluntarily. What kind of "social person" is this? Difficulties "Like mother, like son" is the truth?
Imagine a girl who is only five years old. What can she understand? If it weren't for this "big brother", I really can't figure out what caused this.
Children's words and deeds fully reflect the educational level of a family. For misbehaving children, either their parents are not well educated or their parents are not well educated at all.
10-year-old children are immature, and their words and deeds will only follow suit. Who should they learn from? This is a serious problem. At present, I can only think of parents or other bad people who set an example and all kinds of network information.
The Internet is becoming more and more developed and rich in content, but it is also full of information, pictures, video clips and so on. It is inappropriate or even illegal for children. For example, some live programs openly abuse each other in front of fans, and there are vulgar performances, which seriously pollute the healthy growth of children.
In addition, some unscrupulous game developers, with vulgar and eye-catching as their selling points, download online for netizens, which is the fundamental reason that affects the physical and mental health of the next generation.
Who is to blame for not teaching? I believe everyone understands. Parents are always the first responsible person for children's education. Recently, there was a school violence incident in which four boys attacked a girl, which triggered a heated discussion in society.
Back to this question, if every parent, like a boy's mother, knows that his child has made a mistake and is still spoiling, he will "protect" his child without restraint and not let him know his mistake. Then, in the end, the child will suffer.
This kind of thing happened to a boy of 10, which is shocking. Although this is only an example, any responsible person will have a cold back, and the boy's mother simply said "the girl is voluntary", but her heart did not jump, and her extremely irresponsible words and deeds were incomprehensible.
Such parents, such family education methods, and such shielding of their children will only harm him for life!
How to purify the bad network environment, how to educate such a boy, and how to protect a little girl are worthy of deep thinking by responsible people in the whole society!
The best result is that boys and mothers take the initiative to find girls and mothers to apologize sincerely and give them appropriate compensation to calm the anger of girls and mothers and prevent the situation from continuing to develop. Then make up the child's sex education class and regard this as a small mistake in the child's life. Only by treating mistakes correctly can we not go further and further on the wrong road.
Although today's children are precocious, no matter how precocious they are, 10-year-old children are not mature yet. Children of this age are curious about the opposite sex, while adults are secretive about sex. Children can only find other ways to satisfy their curiosity.
Now that the Internet is so developed, it is easy for children to find this information. At the same time, to a great extent, the information that children find on the Internet is incorrect, even unsuitable for children. Children will simply imitate and even make such indecent things.
I brought up children of grade 5/6, almost 10 years old, 1 1 years old, which is really strange to the opposite sex. A girl has her period. After going to the toilet, the little boy went to the toilet to have a look, and then came back to tell the other boys, and then another boy went to have a look. ...
To tell the truth, everything in our society is developed now, but sex education for children is really lacking. If you don't avoid it, children won't be curious. We just found other ways to understand it. Once we come into contact with unhealthy things, it will actually destroy the children.
My neighbor 15 years old was convicted of hooliganism 12. Although he was less than 30 years old when he came out, his life was basically ruined. No job, no partner, classmates and neighbors try to avoid it. Once when chatting, he regretted it very much. He said that he really didn't know anything at that time, but he was just curious and imitating, and there was no real sex at all. In today's words, it should be obscene, but at that time it was convicted of hooliganism.
At that time, people who were sentenced for fighting or even stealing were better, because most of the people sentenced for hooliganism were ruined.
The fault of Shanghai bookstore lies in the boy and mother. To be sure, she didn't give her children proper sex education before, and I guess she didn't expect her children to do such indecent things (parents who leave again won't condone 10-year-old children to do so, which is not conducive to their healthy growth after all). So, first of all, I choose to throw the pot and run away. I don't know how to put myself in others' shoes. I always want to scare people, swear and hurt people with my own momentum. Actually, I don't have much skill. This kind of person is actually quite pitiful.
Is it that hard to admit mistakes? If you don't educate your children well, you will have the courage to admit your mistakes. What happened? Whoever does not make mistakes, whoever makes mistakes, will correct them. And then give the girl some compensation, which is also appropriate. Put yourself in others' shoes. If your home was a girl, would you walk away? Come out and apologize. You should take responsibility and set a good example for your children.
Finally, I want to say that the Shanghai Bookstore incident has also sounded the alarm for us. It's time to put children's sex education class on the agenda as soon as possible.
Netizen "Here Zhang Congya" asked for help in Weibo the other day, and her child (a 5-year-old girl) was insulted by a child of 10.
"In the beginning, I tricked my child into going to the men's room with him. A ten-year-old child is so conceited. What kind of parents are there? I can't treat you legally, but my children can't be insulted in vain. The mall won't let me take more disgusting photos. Let my child lick your son's nakedness, take off my child's underwear and touch it casually. It's disgusting. My child is only five years old. You wronged my child of your own free will. As a parent, how do you behave? What happened to you Shanghainese? The boy's parents have a very bad attitude and refuse to apologize. "
This incident caused a great sensation at that time. One is that a child of 10 can do such unnatural things, which really makes people unable to understand what the child has experienced.
The second is the attitude of the boy's parents. In the face of the boy's shameless behavior, instead of sincere education and apology, parents first framed the girl. If there is no monitoring, it is hard to say that it is innocent. What is even more irritating is that the boy's parents have a bad attitude and even say that he is from Shanghai, which is even more shameless. What's wrong with Shanghainese? Shanghainese are superior.
It's been 1 week since this happened, and the result hasn't come out yet. The girl's mother recently replied online: I didn't mean to ruin the little boy, I just wanted an apology, but now the police can't contact the boy's parents. And the girl's mother has entrusted a lawyer to go through the procedure, but they also know that they will get nothing in the end, but they still want to do their best.
We understand the feelings of the girl's mother very well. Our children have been hurt. Instead of being apologized, they were slandered by the other side. More importantly, the mother is worried about her daughter's future life. But we also know that it is difficult to have a substantive result because the child is too young. What we are worried about is the future of this girl. We don't want what is happening now to have any other influence on her future. We just want her to grow up carefree.
I believe everyone wants to know the final disposal result. This incident really makes people understand what kind of parents bring out what kind of children. There is no shame in admitting mistakes. Children are not sensible, but adults are so overprotective of their children to do something. Is this to protect their reputation?
No. Dare to admit your mistakes in order to maintain your reputation! Don't worry, the child is very happy at this time, but he will cry one day. At this time, he will not be educated. When he grows up, he will definitely be educated, or he will break his heart. I think a beating is a good way to treat such parents.
This thing is really a shocking thing, and it is also a problem worthy of serious consideration by every adult. 10-year-old children are still familiar with such things. I don't believe this is the first time.
Have schools, parents and police paid enough attention to it? The boy's guardian should really take responsibility! Now that the internet is developed, children are not the children they used to be, and they are more mature than before. As parents of children, we should pay attention to that when children reach the critical point of adolescence, we should clearly understand their intentions, find and correct problems as soon as possible, and of course, don't probe into their privacy too much.
Such parents are actually not protecting their children, but harming their children, and it will be very harmful.
This thing is really almost stunned. How can there be such a shock? What kind of environment does that boy live in to make such shameful behavior? Do parents often show their children at home? Why mosaic? Only children aged 10 will have this kind of thinking and practice. The boy's mother has a mentality that I want to protect the child. It really should be exposed. Always thinking about the psychology of juvenile offenders.
If the boy is not exposed, how many such things will be ignored and ignored, and how many children will be hurt. Expose her directly and make him feel ashamed of his behavior! If you have a daughter, especially when you are young, don't let a man other than your father, grandfather and grandfather take care of your child at any time, so something may happen. It is best to have a mother to take care of you, and don't leave your family's sight when you go out.
This kind of thing is intolerable! The law must be severely punished! Otherwise, I don't know how many girls will be hurt in this boy's future growth! If the wicked don't get what they deserve and the good get hurt for nothing, where is the so-called fairness and justice? We really should supplement and amend laws and regulations! Our country can no longer condone minors to commit crimes because they are young! Things like this should be severely punished! So no one dares to be arrogant! It has the effect of killing chickens and making an example.
Judging from the parents' care for their calves, it is not difficult to see that boys will do such jaw-dropping things. Children and parents who dare to challenge the law will never escape the punishment of the law! Parents are really good examples. If they don't admit their mistakes and run away by themselves, their children will naturally have nothing to hide. It is human nature to make mistakes. If my child does such a thing, I will certainly educate him well. Such behavior is wrong. Incorrect, let him try to correct it. I won't make excuses for the lack of sex education or my mistakes. I can only say that this mother's education is a failure! I hope the law can punish them! Let them remember!
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