First, we should properly keep personal privacy for our girlfriends.
When chatting with your best friend, don't talk about everything, and keep personal and family privacy properly. Don't let your best friend know everything you do, even everything your husband says and does. As the saying goes, personal privacy should be properly protected. You think she is your best friend, but it is often this kind of person who stabbed you in the back and made you very painful.
Second, don't leave your best friend alone with your husband.
You should always be on your guard against your best friend being alone with your husband. In other words, you should put an end to the opportunities and phenomena of being alone between your best friend and your husband. Because lonely men and few women live in the same room, it is easy to wipe the gun off. Therefore, don't be separated from your husband for a long time, but take care of your husband. You should give your best friend no chance and no space to do it.
Third, you should consolidate your marriage and win your husband's heart.
As the saying goes, flies don't bite seamless eggs. The reason why your best friend is with your husband is to see the cracks and loopholes in your marriage. When your marriage is impeccable, your best friend will naturally not make a move. After all, I still have to unite with my husband. You should let your husband love you from the heart and be loyal to you.
What you have to do now is to find a suitable opportunity, have a good talk with your husband and tell him not to cheat again. Otherwise, you will never forgive him. In addition, you and your husband should try not to be separated for a long time, and make it clear in person if there is anything. The most important thing is whether you really care about him and this marriage. If the answer is no, then you can naturally choose to divorce him.
Love is not an emotional thing, you need a rational heart and a clear method. The departure of your ex-boyfriend may have a great influence on you. What should you do if you still miss him? Do you really love him? Why did you save him? True love or self-esteem?
In some classic student cases, after breaking up, women will unconsciously make some radical behaviors, such as the threat of illness, tossing their bodies, and even suicide threats, because they are eager to save their boyfriends. What are the consequences of this? If men do this, they will scare women. The same psychology is, fortunately, I left him/her, otherwise it would be even worse! Excessive behavior is bound to make it difficult to save your predecessor. What should he do in the face of his emotional entanglements?
Rainbow emotional tutor suggested that if you really love him and want to save him, I hope you can save him in the following ways and stick to it.
First, leave with dignity for a while.
Is leaving giving up? No, I left to come back. This is the preparation before breaking off diplomatic relations, and the method and discretion should be well balanced. Since the other party broke up, it shows that he has made up his mind. A man's breakup is very different from a woman's breakup. Women say these things for temptation, but men are serious, which only shows that he has decided not to love you anymore. What will happen if he keeps pestering you? Let's leave with dignity.
There is a bottom line in being a man, so you should keep it. Keep your posture in your relationship, instead of letting the other person tear his face again and again. After you leave, whether you cry or talk to your friends, you should give yourself some time to buffer your injuries and get out of your sad mood. Calm down and prepare for the next recovery step. Be responsible for your feelings!
Second, learn to improve yourself.
The problem in love is that you are not fully prepared, lacking, and need to study patiently. In a calm and peaceful state of mind, you should reflect on the failure in your feelings at this time. Only when we find the failure and know how to make up for it can we recover the capital.
At this moment, you don't need to contact your predecessor and complete your self-construction as soon as possible. Although you can't be perfect, you can keep improving, and attracting him again is your goal. It is very helpful for you to maintain a good living condition for your goals. When the other person has a regretful attitude towards you, you still have a chance to save it.
Third, restore friendship with him and have a lot of interaction to stick to him.
It takes a lot of courage to seize the effective opportunity to appear in front of him. Find the right identity in the preliminary preparation, and make all preparations for redemption with your ex-boyfriend. After seeing him, interact well and try to keep a certain distance, which is attractive to him. Attract him with a new look, infect him with internal promotion, and do warm things to influence him. Be sure to keep feeling ambiguous. Don't give up easily once your plan encounters setbacks. Keep a good attitude and break with him. Opportunities are created by people, and there are also accidents. Ingeniously borrow the wisdom of life, create a mysterious intimacy, thus prompting him to have a new love for you.
Fourth, do some effective help to make him really need you.
Maybe your little skill will narrow the distance with him, but he may have other reasons not to get close to you. What you need to do at this time is to do more substantial help and let him see your value and significance. Men will be much more realistic than women. A woman who is helpful to his life and career will always give you a little face to keep in touch with you.
In daily life, use the previous emotional foundation to mobilize his love for you. There are many couples who are sweeter after getting back together, have experienced the twists and turns of love and learned more ways to get along. Compared with same-sex relationship, it must be very difficult for both sexes to get along. After all, they are two worlds, and it takes some wisdom to walk through them. For people who are really intelligent and have high emotional intelligence, the problem of love is only a trivial matter.
How to save your ex-boyfriend four strokes to successfully save your ex-boyfriend
Many friends asked me how I saved my ex-boyfriend, so I want to share here how I saved Mingming.
Mingming and I have been together for more than two years. He chased me, but it didn't take much effort. After all, I was the first to be tempted, and I always carried it green, but it didn't take long. In less than a month, I surrendered and went to eat fried chicken hand in hand with him.
Obviously a typical pragmatist. At the beginning, when we are together, at my strong request, we can play a little romance. Later, we gradually began to be practical. When buying a gift, ask directly what you lack. Any oven or juicer can be used as a gift. Going to the movies, popcorn and potato chips are junk food, which is expensive and nutritious. You have to buy it yourself. Fortunately, he is handsome and considerate at ordinary times. When he was ill, he was caring and attentive, and even did laundry and cooked. So sometimes, although I am unhappy, and in this relationship, I value him more, and I am more afraid of losing than him.
It's just that during this time, he has become less and less interested in me. That weekend, he came to see me as usual. We had a meal together and came back after eating. I've been playing games since I came back. Tell him to ignore it. I suggest that while the weather is just right, we look around and find a place to have a drink. He wants to play games and has no time.
We only meet once a week, and he plays games almost every time he comes over. I finally couldn't help it. The eldest lady had a big temper and broke up.
He paused for a long time before saying, are you serious?
All right, let's break up. I regretted it at that time, but I couldn't pull my face down. I have to bite the bullet and go on.
He didn't say anything, packed his things and left directly.
I regret it at the moment, but I can't just go back to him. I turned off my cell phone and refrained from calling him. I have a hunch that I will go back to him now, and he will have the final say in the future.
I searched the internet, found a lot of big moves, bought a lot of books about how to get along, and finally made a three-month recovery plan.
The first stage: disconnection (key: emotional control)
From now on, stop all contacts, prohibit all stalking and beating, and take a step back to exchange.
I locked everything he gave me in the drawer and stopped thinking about him. The best way to be lovelorn is to let go and move on. If he still loves you, he will follow in your footsteps. If he doesn't, looking forward will make him better and meet better people.
On the fourth day of breaking up, Mingming took the initiative to chat with me on WeChat. I took my mobile phone, typed it, and immediately deleted it. I stared at the avatar in the upper left corner of the screen, which is a pair with my avatar. I'm afraid I can't hold back and call my best friend for help.
Turn off WeChat and read a book. If you dare come back, we will break up! My best friend shouted on the other end of the phone.
I grabbed the palm of my right hand with my left thumb, suppressed my crazy thoughts, turned off WeChat and started reading.
I bought a lot of books about how to get along, and learned more about how to get along, how to manage each other's expectations, how to manage each other's conflicts and control their emotions.
I have to say that managing your expectations is a battle with yourself. The hard part is that the main opponent here is yourself, and it is too painful to deny yourself. And managing your own expectations is a compulsory course to obtain good intimacy.
The second stage: transformation
I signed up for a French class and have always been interested in French. This time, I used the opportunity of breaking up with him to make time to study. On the holiday weekend, I invited three or five friends to play. On the one hand, I can spend less time thinking about him. On the other hand, I can enrich myself and improve myself.
Because the place where I go to work and attend classes is not far from where I live, I always take two pairs of shoes out, a pair of small high heels and a pair of sports shoes, and run to work and attend classes. I remember who said that exercise can make a person emit positive energy. Of course, I exercise for another purpose to lose weight.
Although I can't get in touch, the best way to let them know my recent situation is to send a circle of friends. Every three to five days, I photographed my recent positive state, especially the sunny and pure side after changing my dressing style and making friends.
The third stage: restoring friendship and interaction
One day two months later, his mother was ill, and he invited me to see her. His words are so sincere that I can't refuse them. His mother has always liked me. Because of his mother's poor health, he has been afraid to tell her after breaking up for so long. I consulted Mr. Lenggai, and I went with the teacher's permission.
On the way back from visiting menstruation, he tried to hold my hand, but I gently avoided him: what happened between us will be told to menstruation sooner or later.
He paused, looked at me for a long time, nodded and said, have you changed?
How did it become?
It seems that you don't need me to be independent and strong ... I don't know, you are beautiful now.
I looked at him, expecting him to continue, but he said nothing. I looked up at the sky to hide my disappointment.
Active, passive for life. Believe in yourself and stick to it. Whether he finally comes back to you or not, after these four stages, your life will get better and better only after you have a full heart and know how to control your emotions. I wrote this sentence on a post-it note and put it on the dresser to remind myself.
Mingming and I are still friends. I will accept his separate invitation, but I insist on being friends.
When we met, we didn't ask him if he had any new objects. I talked to him about everything in the world, that is, avoiding getting back together and why we broke up in the first place. Even when I was mentioned, he cleverly avoided it.
Once he took me home, went downstairs to my house and said he wanted to sit up for a while. I looked at him affectionately and finally sighed: forget it, we have broken up.
Yes, we broke up. He let me go. Go home. I'll watch you go up.
When I got home, I kept telling myself: stable, his language is ambiguous and his behavior is intimate, which doesn't mean he wants to get back together. I want to be patient and unwavering until he thinks clearly about being with me. If he doesn't look back, it's his loss, not mine!
This is probably the most difficult stage. You can be as hard as iron when you don't meet. I can't help shaking every time I'm with him.
The fourth stage: art negotiation
At this stage, you can have some intimate contact, you can guide him slowly, make him more and more infatuated with me, but you can't kiss or even cross the line. If the other person is dishonest, I can pretend that it's all right and avoid it with a smile.
Every date, I will obviously send me back, and sometimes I will take the initiative to kiss me, but I will avoid it: this is not good, we have broken up, and I don't want to do this anymore.
So ambiguous for a period of time, a Mid-Autumn night, we went to a western restaurant by the river. After dinner, we chatted hand in hand on the railing by the river and drank some wine. The lighting atmosphere is romantic and ambiguous, which makes people unable to extricate themselves. I let go of the bottom line and kissed him, but he offered to go to a nearby hotel and he refused: I don't want us to be friends. I really enjoy the wonderful feeling of being with you, and I hope to give each other one.
After that night, he ignored me for two days.
Hang in there. If he really loves me, he will come to me.
Three days later, he finally came to me and expressed his hope to start over with me. I told him: Yesterday my cousin said she would help me with a blind date. Can I say that we are back together, so that I can refuse her? Otherwise, she will keep introducing, and it is difficult to push.
Well, that's it. We're back together.
Hand over the materials left by her ex-husband to her husband.
She's just a child. She must be super patient with her. She really loves you and will be good to you. She will do anything for you. Please cherish her.
When you go to the playground, please spend this sweet time with her with a smile, because you will find that she is the cutest girl in the world at this time.
She likes KT, and remembers that she usually has cute little objects or dolls of KT, so she will be much happier if she buys them.
You can't force her to do something she doesn't like. She has her reasons. You can guess and move her, but don't impose your wishes on her.
When crossing the road, always stand near the car. Even if something happens, you can bear the greatest harm for her. Remember, hold her hand.
She will have nightmares. When she wakes up from a nightmare, remember to hold her tight and comfort her. Don't sleep alone. You'd better stay half awake unless you are very tired.
Don't always try to criticize her. Sometimes, she just needs a shoulder to lean on, not a lot of things she already knows.
Remember to buy her medicine at once when she is ill. She is a little lazy, so she must be tough without taking medicine at this time, because more often, she likes to be the wife of an innocent girl.
When quarreling, remember to coax her at once. If she doesn't listen, wait until she calms down before coaxing her.
When you go out on the street, let her guide you, not drag her around. 1 1. When she wants to break up with you, please don't ignore her just because she thinks it's true. In fact, she just wants you to care more about her, coax her patiently, and add some blame when appropriate, until she comes to you.
Remember, only she can hang up on you. She called, please don't be angry, don't answer it. Even if you are really angry, call her as soon as you press the button, because at this time, she may feel worse than you.
She really needs someone who loves her, but she needs her own space more. At this time, please show your generosity and trust her.
When you need to play ball or participate in any activities, please tell her truthfully, because she will be worried about your sudden disappearance and will be flustered.
When eating with her, remember to give her more dishes she likes, so that you will feel her warmer return.
Don't ignore her just because you play games or go out with friends. If she agrees, bring her into your circle, and you will be envied by others for having this girlfriend.
Sometimes when she makes you feel bad, but refuses to apologize, please don't think that she doesn't love you. She changed her mind, because the more she loves you, the more she cares about you.
Her computer is broken, remember to help her find out the reason and solve it. If you don't have the ability, help her find a place to understand computers or repair them.
When her composition and thesis need help, please take your time to finish it for her, and try to explain your point of view to her and make her accept it. When she doesn't understand English, teach her slowly bit by bit. When she has no patience to do something well, try to encourage her. If you don't have these abilities, try to help her, but don't ignore her, because her business is also your business.
If you can achieve the above 19 and stick to it, then you must be a person who loves her very much. Remember that love is a responsibility. When love is sublimated, it will be transformed into a kind of family relationship that is constantly giving up. If you can always love her so much, please promise her. If not, please don't promise her again. Be kind to her and she will be kind to you. I wish you happiness.
She will kick the quilt around, remember to cover it for her.
She will be patient with you, but she can't stand it.
Many times, she has to pretend to be poor on purpose, so as to show her great womanism.
She is unhappy and wants to take her shopping.
Remember to take her to eat more delicious food when shopping. You'd better eat well in all those shops.
I often give her fruit, because she is very dense, and I have to rub her stomach.
Don't stop her when she is shopping. For whatever reason, if she has no money to steal, please satisfy her. Even if the skirt really doesn't suit her, let her buy it, or she will be angry.
I know more about cosmetics than she does, and some of them are best tested on myself first.
Sometimes what she says will make you fantasize a lot, but if it's not practical, don't dwell on it but trust her.
You should wash it fragrant, eat some meat, and let her sleep comfortably.
Don't ask her about it in the future, or she will think it is an insult to her.
Don't show any dissatisfaction in front of her,
Don't tease her on purpose, especially when she doesn't give it, or she will take it seriously.
Be good at cooking for her, although she has done a good job.
Always pay attention to your expression, she is easily biased.
Pay more attention to her emotions and know how to read and read.
Watch the way you treat her. Even if she hurts you, you can't look at her with resentment, or she will have other ideas.
Even if it is to maintain feelings, you can't lie to her, otherwise she will turn against you at any time, but she can lie to you.
Dear, how do I want to express your sentence?
1, I love you, husband! It's a pain to be unable to look at you all the time; I can't let you eat my lunch every day, which is a kind of helplessness; I hope I can be with you at night, let's hug and sleep!
Dear husband, this is my first birthday with you. Although I can't spend it with you, I believe that one day will come. Today is temporary, thinking about your happiness is long-term, caring about you is eternal, and love for you can't be taken away by others! Dear, no matter where you are, no matter how far you are from me, I love you! My heart and I miss you very much!
We should miss each other every day, but don't meet each other every day. I am responsible for beauty, you are responsible for making money, and you can fall in love with others, but don't let me find out. If I meet you, hum, cook noodles with rat poison.
4. I miss you, I miss you crazy. A husband, a wife, simple but sweet. I love you, which contains a deep call.
Husband, I know that your love for me is like a volcano about to erupt, which makes me deeply feel that a flame is burning me slowly. Kiss me, hold me tight, miss you so much!