If the person you love faces the last moment of life, how will you spend the next day?
Living in this popular world, where you will go is the normal state of life, but many times, in fact, we are not good at saying goodbye and will not learn to accept it.
In the book Confessions on Earth, the author Goldfish Sauce provides us with a reference answer based on her own personal experience:
"Every one of us is afraid of death. God gave everyone a bottle of time hourglass, which belongs to us. There is not much sand on it. Even so, we try our best to live seriously. "
Goldfish sauce is an illustrator. Confessions on Earth is a love letter she wrote to her husband, Xiao Hu, and also a book that answers life.
In the barren world, there will always be a person, neither early nor late, impartial, embedded in your life, just stuck in the gap of your soul.
Even if death separates you, the warmth he gave you and the love he gave you will last forever, enough to accompany you through the rest of your life, so that you can still love life and settle down with yourself without him.
Next, the ashtray will take you into the book.
The best feeling is mutual achievement.
Goldfish sauce and husband Xiao Hu, their love story is not complicated.
They fell in love at first sight, and it was a two-way street.
In 2003, Goldfish Sauce and Xiao Hu met for the first time on the day when freshmen reported for duty. Xiao Hu, who is shy by nature, actually took the initiative to chat with goldfish sauce on the first side and asked her what book she was reading. Because of this book, they became familiar with it.
In the winter of sixteen years, goldfish sauce suddenly confessed, and the two formally established a love relationship and became real lovers.
From school uniforms to wedding dresses, they accompanied each other for a whole youth. Witnessed every important moment in each other's lives. I have shared every joys and sorrows in each other's lives, laughed and cried.
Goldfish sauce likes painting. In order to fulfill his lover, Xiao Hu took the initiative to give in and compromise, shouldered all the burdens of life, supported his wife to open a studio, and encouraged her to pursue her dreams without regrets.
Every time goldfish sauce makes a little progress, Xiao suddenly is happier than her. Xiao Hu regards his wife as the most precious gift in his life and feels that his wife is his greatest pride.
Good love probably means meeting the right person and growing up with each other. Let yourself become better and better because of each other.
Such as actor Chen and his wife.
When they got married, Chen's acting career had just started.
Shortly after the marriage, my daughter was born. In order to take care of the family and reassure Chen in his career, it was originally the news anchor's decision to give up his job and take a back seat.
But Chen refused, and he advised his wife:
"I think if a woman is only at home, she may have an imbalance from her heart. Women must be independent and have their own careers. "
Therefore, he encouraged his wife to continue working and let her try new fields and master new knowledge and skills, thus enriching and expanding herself.
Marriage is the practice of two people working together. Only when the two sides work together, go hand in hand and achieve each other can we finally reach the other side of happiness smoothly.
The significance of husband and wife's marriage lies not only in the mundane things such as three meals a day, dressing, eating and having children, but also in nourishing and supporting each other, increasing the breadth of life and improving the taste of life.
In the ashtray's view, the best emotional state should be hello, I'm not bad. We are evenly matched. If you have difficulties, face the burden together. Have happiness, share happiness together.
The greatest significance of a high-quality marriage and love is to let two people who love each other grow up together.
Love will make people reborn again and again.
Goldfish sauce and Xiao Hu, they changed from lovers to husband and wife, with smooth sailing, happy feelings and happy families.
Soon after their marriage, they ushered in the crystallization of love and gave birth to a very lovely child.
Their feelings are envied by many people. Just when everyone thought they would always be so happy and sweet, fate gave them a heavy blow.
By chance, Xiao was suddenly diagnosed with cancer, and it was terminal. The sudden bad news brought a storm to the couple's life. Let the originally happy family of three fall apart overnight.
In order to take care of Xiao Hu, goldfish sauce was forced to stop work. She put down the brush, picked up the medicine bowl and ran back and forth between home and the hospital all day.
Goldfish sauce is in the hospital all the time except babysitting. During Xiao Hu's hospitalization, goldfish sauce was always with him. Accompany him in surgery, chemotherapy and postoperative rehabilitation. Feed him food and medicine, wash his clothes and wipe his body, carry water and carry urine.
Watching the beloved suffer from illness, goldfish sauce feels like a knife. But in order to take good care of Xiao Hu, she seldom shows her sadness in front of her husband. During the whole treatment, she was stronger and braver than anyone else.
This reminds the ashtray of a love story told by Luo Yonghao on New Year's Eve:
There is a famous artist Gonzalez, who often exhibits a work of art in exhibition halls all over the world. This work of art, a pile of candy, weighs 79.4 kilograms. This weight is the weight of Gonzalez's lover before he got sick.
After his lover left, Gonzalez chose a special way to commemorate his lover in the darkest and most painful time of his life. That is to pile your lover's weight into a pile of candy with the same weight.
There is no guardrail around the candy. Whoever goes to the exhibition hall and passes by can grab one and even eat it on the spot. Every night, after the exhibition, Gonzalez will weigh the candy once, and then make up the weight to restore it to 79.4 kilograms.
Gonzalez did this to convey this meaning to the world:
Life is so sweet, just like candy. But life will always pass, just like candy will always be taken away.
But the most important thing is that no matter what happens, the person who loves him will always be born again and again.
Just like goldfish sauce, it is Xiao Hu's love for her that supports her to walk through the storm again and again. She should constantly do her own ideological work, encourage and warn herself from time to time, and never collapse.
At the same time, for Xiao Hu, it is also his wife who constantly soothes his spirit, clears the haze for him and illuminates the spiritual world that has been shrouded in his illness for a long time.
Good love always gives life hope and makes you reborn again and again.
The ashtray also thinks that death is not the end of life. Even if a person dies, the love he left in this world can still last forever.
Especially for the person he loves deeply, that unique love saved his lover at a critical moment in life to some extent.
The best thing about love is that I continue to live like you after you leave.
You can't finish your life in time. I'll walk for you. I will see the scenery you can't see in time for you. You don't have time to cherish and care about people, I will guard for you.
The pain of love is the best growth.
On March 20 19, the day before Goldfish Sauce's birthday and wedding anniversary, Xiao suddenly left.
Accompanied by parents and relatives, Goldfish Sauce soon ended Xiao Hu's funeral.
She took Xiao Hu back to her hometown of Wuhan for burial. The photo on the tombstone was personally selected by her, and was taken in the Aegean Sea of Greece during their honeymoon. The tombstone is engraved with Xiao Hu's birthday and death taboo, and the words written in goldfish sauce:
"May you turn into spring breeze, drizzle and warmth. We will always love you, miss you and miss you. "
For a long time after Xiao suddenly left, goldfish sauce slept by alcohol every night.
She has thought about leaving countless times and wants to go with her beloved. But the child is still young and the parents are still there. She thinks she can't be too selfish.
She quietly hides her sadness, takes care of her children and comforts her parents every day. In order to fulfill Xiao Hu's wish before her death, she began to bear all the burdens of life alone.
She stopped complaining, complaining and indulging in the past. Needless to say, because of the pain, the color of life has been erased.
She picked up the brush again and continued her career. She opened a studio to teach children to draw. After work, she also takes her children and parents out to travel and see the outside world.
After Xiao suddenly left, she dressed herself up to look the best.
In the movie "Dear, Don't Cross that River", an 89-year-old grandmother stayed with her wife for decades.
After her wife suddenly left, she also thought about it. But for children, she lived alone for many years.
She cooks for two people every day and puts one of them in front of his wife's coffin. Take care of yourself according to your wife's wishes.
Even as a person, I have never failed my life and myself.
In our journey to this world, everyone has to go through the hardships of life to some extent. Have a plenty of life and death choices, have a plenty of gain and loss measurement.
No matter how you cried last night, when you woke up in the morning, the city was still full of traffic.
In the ashtray's view, in the world of adults, there is no freedom to collapse and be sad.
Life goes on. Instead of falling into sorrow and letting it waste time and energy, it is better to cheer up, tidy up yourself, turn grief into strength and start a new life.
Life is a sea, even if you encounter misfortune, you can't lose your hope and enthusiasm for life. But with a warm heart, to love life and love the world.
I used to be young, but whenever I met some difficulties and setbacks, I blamed others and looked forward to it.
Later, after experiencing the ups and downs of life and the impermanence of the world, you gradually realized that these are just the normal state of life.
It is precisely because of this that life is more precious. More importantly, we should live an infinitely wonderful life in a limited time.
If the end of the party is inevitable, it will be enough for us to have a good time.
Just like the line in Wukong's story:
"I have been to this world, I have fought, I have loved deeply, and I don't care about the ending."
Besides, no matter what happens, we should treat life with normality and be grateful for it.
You have to believe that the tiredness, bitterness and pain you bear will one day turn into light and illuminate your way forward.