Teacher Du asked me to tell you about my education here. This article mainly talks about how to make this newly-enrolled child who lacks self-discipline and control get rid of some bad habits and gradually develop good habits with the help of teachers and parents.

Let's talk about Sun Jingyuan's last year in kindergarten: at that time, the kindergarten teacher left a message on the home-school contact book: he lost his temper with the children in kindergarten, went to play while attending classes, squatted while doing exercises, and so on. Very free and willful.

Because of the nature of the child's father's work, he has been working in the field for a long time. It used to take months to come back for a few days. Even now, I will come back every weekend. Therefore, when Sun Jingyuan was a child, she got help from her grandmother. Old people love their children, get used to them, and develop dependence. He has to let his grandmother feed him when he eats. If he doesn't feed him, it won't be delicious.

I feel that if this continues, it will be very difficult for children to be educated. So I told my mom and offered to leave him alone for a while. A few months before Sun Jingyuan went to school, I began to take care of him by myself, and at the same time, I also cultivated his self-care ability. I did my own thing. I didn't support myself. If you don't eat, you will be hungry. If you want to eat after dinner, you will not eat. After a few classes, the food is much better and no one needs to feed it.

The kindergarten he attended has always advocated letting children develop freely without too many constraints. So his self-discipline and control ability is very poor. Tell you something about his entrance interview: I brought him to the school for an interview on the afternoon of July 8 last year. He was interviewed by President Li. After answering the second question, he sat on Li's lap and said to Li, "Principal, I just finished running and my stomach hurts. Please help me rub it. " I am very embarrassed and nervous. What I didn't expect, however, was that Li Xiao held him in his lap like that, rubbed his stomach, asked him questions like chatting, and finally let him pass the interview.

Then Li said to me, "dear mother, this child is good, but this child is also free and unrestrained." After school, I hope parents can communicate with the class teacher, and we can help the children improve together. "

What Li did and said touched me a lot. So, after school started, I wrote a letter to Mr. Du on the first page of the "Home-School Contact Book" established by Mr. Du and our parents, and communicated my problems with Mr. Du. Teacher Bendu carefully examines the contact information every day and gives feedback on the performance of the children in school, so that I can know the situation of the children in school in time. In response to the teacher's question, I reasoned with Sun Jingyuan and helped him correct it.

At the beginning of school, he stood in line, staggered, couldn't stand straight or squatted down, just like in kindergarten. Teacher Du educated and helped him, instead of letting him stand in the front, he stood in the second and third position. This method is particularly good. In the past, no matter how I reasoned with him and criticized him, I could only manage it for a while and repeat it later. Now he knows in the back that if the leader doesn't stand straight, the whole team will be untidy; If he squats down, the students behind him can't all squat down with him. It is much more useful for him to realize the problem himself than for us adults to preach. This time, the celebration was held in the museum. Every day when it is hot, the children stand for a long time. I watched his performance from the back, and he always stood well, without squatting or making trouble. After the celebration dinner, I praised him and said, "Jingyuan, mom, I didn't expect you to stand in line so well now." You haven't squatted for such a long time, and you are very disciplined. " He is also very happy. Later, Mr. Du sent me a note in the class record, saying that he had made progress in reform.

During the time when he lived alone with me, I trained him to take care of himself and do his own thing well. Getting up in the morning, getting dressed, folding the quilt, washing your face and brushing your teeth all require him to do it himself. These are also at the beginning of the first grade, and Mr. Du's good habits have long formed the requirements inside. At first, he was still very dependent, and he waited there all the time, waiting for me to help him dress like grandma. In the end, I didn't mean to help at all, so I dressed myself. Every time I make a little progress, I will praise and encourage him. Slowly, in the morning, I don't need to rush him any more, and I can do it myself.

He used to throw toys all over the floor after playing, and never cleaned them up. Finally, grandma cleaned them up. In order to correct this problem, I told him that the toys should be sent home when they are finished, and put back where they were taken, so that they will be easy to find when playing next time. Sometimes he is very obedient and asks me to clean up with him; But sometimes I just cheat. In this case, I will pick up his toys and say to him, "Since you don't tidy up, you just don't like them." Then I'll give it to other children! "This method is very useful for him, and he will clean everything up soon. So now he can put the toys back at any time.

At the beginning of school, Mr. Du sent us "Early Cultivation of Good Habits-Home-School Contact Form". This watch is very helpful for children who have just entered the first grade to develop good habits! ***2 months and 8 weeks, I asked Sun Jingyuan to do it according to the requirements on the contact form, and I also made a careful record. At first, I took him to pack his schoolbag and taught him how to put things. Slowly, I asked him to tidy up his schoolbag by himself, and then checked it for him to see if there were any omissions. Because I helped him check his schoolbag again, I formed the habit of relying on him. He didn't pack his schoolbag carefully. Anyway, his mother will check it again and remind him if it is missing. In the contact book, Mr. Du pointed out to me that Jingyuan always forgot to bring something because of her mother. After that, I said to him, "From now on, I won't help you check your book bag. Let the teacher criticize you if you forget something. " No mine. After checking it again, he can do it himself. Therefore, teachers are not only cultivating children's good habits, but also instructing our parents how to better educate their children.

In order to cultivate Sun Jingyuan's self-care ability, I make a table every month to write down what he should do by himself and what he can do to help his parents. For example: take out the garbage, fold the quilt, wash socks, wash small towels, sweep the floor, wash dishes and so on. Let him check what he has done every day and summarize at the end of the month. The reward for outstanding work can meet his reasonable requirements. If you don't do well or forget to record, there will be no reward and you will be approved. After a long time, habits are formed. Some things, he has become a habit to do, no longer want to get a return. For example, it is his duty to take out the garbage before going out every morning, and others will not be happy to take his place.

In his study habits: grandma loves her children dearly and always brings him some fruit or food when he is studying, so he does his homework while eating. I found that I told my mother not to leave anything lying around when studying, and asked her to drink the water before she started studying, go to the toilet, and then settle down to study. I also asked him to review the lessons he had studied for a week every weekend morning. I asked him to do this from the beginning of school, and he also formed the habit of consciously reviewing on weekends, and didn't think it was extra homework.

Another point is Sun Jingyuan's bad habit of losing his temper with his classmates. The reason is that in his last year of kindergarten, a new child came to the class. Due to my negligence, Sun Jingyuan told me that when he was bullied by that child, I didn't care, just thought that the children were playing with each other. I didn't realize the seriousness of the problem until one day my child said that he didn't want to go to kindergarten because he always bullied him. Only after consulting the teacher and other parents did I know that the child had attacked all the other children in the class. Because Sun Jingyuan is short, he is most willing to bully Sun Jingyuan. In this state, Sun Jingyuan fought back in his own way, lost his temper and shouted at him. That child takes bullying Sun Jingyuan and watching him lose his temper as his daily pleasure. Therefore, it has brought psychological harm to children. As long as other children play a little joke on him, he thinks others are bullying him and getting angry with the children.

I'm worried about this problem. When I was at school, I also communicated with Mr. Du about his problems and let the teacher know about his situation. At the same time, I'm trying to get rid of his psychological shadow. Sure enough, it didn't take long for school to start, and he had problems playing chicken with his classmates. He was angry with his classmates and made a hullabaloo about. When I got home, I didn't criticize him first, but asked him to talk about what happened and his own reasons, and then analyzed whether his approach was right or not. If you do this, will your classmates still play with him and make friends? Later, Xiao Ziyin's mother gave me an idea and told him the story of Xiao Hedgehog making friends, so that he could understand that his classmates didn't mean to bully him, but wanted to be good friends with him. Everyone is very happy to play together. If you lose your temper again, you will lose your friends and no one will care about you. At the same time, Mr. Du has talked to him about this problem many times. He understands the truth and can get along well with his classmates.

He weaves colored ropes in the Dragon Boat Festival class and works with Wang Yi. Because of the hot weather, the colored rope slipped several times, and his little temper came up again. He thought his classmates did it on purpose, so he got angry with them and said no more. As soon as I got home at night, he quickly admitted his mistake and told me that he was angry with his classmates at school and did something wrong. I asked him how to deal with this problem. He said he would go to school tomorrow and apologize to his classmates. In the evening, I also received a message from Mr. Du on a small note recorded in the class, saying his problems. I replied to Mr. Du, admitted my mistake and apologized to my classmates. It was impossible for him to admit his mistake and apologize before. Now, with the help of teachers and parents, his small temper has been corrected a little bit, and he knows how to apologize when he does something wrong.

When Sun Jingyuan first went to school, he couldn't sit still in class. Sometimes he will stand up or lie prone on the table. The teachers sent me a note in the yearbook to reflect this problem and reminded him many times in school. I also had a heart-to-heart talk with him about this problem, so that he could see how other students did it and how he should study. Through this year, he can sit still in class and manage himself well.

Sun Jingyuan doesn't want to raise his hand in class. Teacher Hou once told me that when he was in class, the teacher asked questions that seemed to have nothing to do with him and didn't like to raise his hand. I asked him why he didn't raise his hand to speak in class. He said that the teacher raised his hand and didn't call him, so he didn't want to raise his hand to speak. I let myself count for 40 minutes a class. If the teacher calls the roll and everyone speaks for one minute, do you still need to give a lecture? Raise your hand if you know, or the teacher won't know if you have studied. Let him understand the truth, and then he did a lot better in class. The teacher also praised him in time, saying that his performance in class is getting better and better. He's happy himself.

Parents' speech at the first grade parents' meeting: How do parents cooperate with teachers to educate their children?

Before children go to school, parents say that parents of first-grade children are particularly tired, because we have to take their children to adapt to a new environment and new life rules.

I read a book called "Please come with me-be a good first-grade parent", which was written by Xue Ruiping. She communicated with her parents in the form of 2 1 letter with her daily experience in the third grade examination. She mentioned in the book that she wrote to her parents for the first time to ask for their feedback. Results Among more than 50 children in the class, only 30 parents responded. She said: "We ask our children to finish their homework on time, so as parents, did they finish their first homework in time?" What kind of impression did we leave on our children? What kind of example have you set? "After reading Teacher Xue's article, I want my children to listen to the teacher and finish the tasks assigned by the teacher on time. As a parent, I must set a good example for my children, conscientiously complete what the teacher told me, and cooperate with the teacher to educate the children well. Therefore, from the beginning of children's schooling, I have done what parents should do according to the requirements of teachers, and cooperated with teachers to educate children.

Nowadays, the social competition is fierce, and our parents are also very busy at work. It is inevitable that taking care of children and work are not well coordinated. Before my children go to school, I am also weighing this issue and trying to solve the conflict between busy work and the time and energy of educating children. In the company, I train young people, exercise their ability to deal with problems alone, reduce their workload, and free up more energy to invest in children's education. Because of work, sometimes there are some social things. I try to arrange it until noon, and some can be postponed as much as possible. The time in the evening must be left to the child to accompany him.

Once, Sun Jingyuan said to me, "Mom, after I went to school, you spent too little time with me. I leave in a hurry every morning. I have to go to bed soon after you come back at night. We meet for less than two hours a day. Can you spend more time with me? "

The child's words made me sad, and I promised him that I would spend more time with him. From then on, no matter how busy I am, I will definitely set aside more time and spend more time with him. Sun Jingyuan's father came back at the weekend, and I asked him to take more children to play and spend more time with them. Through this incident, I understand that no one's company can replace my parents. The child is still young and needs the company of our parents. They need us for a few years. When one day we suddenly find that they have grown up and no longer need our company, we will feel lost because we have not set aside more time to accompany his childhood.

In Teacher Xue's book, there are also contents to cultivate children's reading habits. She suggested that not only children but also parents should study. How can parents ask their children to study for several hours every day if they don't sit down and study? Everyone still remembers the good habit cultivated by Mr. Du in his early days, which also requires children to read books every day, and also requires children to read more books during holidays. The teacher's view of education is the same. Reading can really help children make progress and develop better. When Sun Jingyuan was young, I would read him stories and point to the words in the book while reading. After a long time, he also knows a lot of words. When he can read by himself, I will let him choose his favorite books to read. In our family, there are often three people in a family, each with a book. They don't bother each other, and each looks at his own. On Sun Jingyuan's bedside table, I often put some books for him. He is also used to reading in bed for 20-30 minutes before going to bed every day. I don't limit what books he must read, as long as he is interested. But when I buy books for him, I will carefully select and guide him to read some books with intention. Every time he finishes reading a book, I don't immediately ask him what he has read and learned. Doing so will make him feel that reading is a burden, because after reading, his mother will have an exam. Children will lose interest and take reading as a burden. In fact, when we chat, he will tell me something. I asked him how he knew and which book he said he read. It's in the book. I think this kind of reading can achieve the goal and cultivate children's reading habits. Every book that Sun Jingyuan has read, I read it by myself first, so that when I communicate with my child, he will regard you as a friend. Some time ago, Mr. Du sent me a note asking if he had the habit of reading silently at home. Later, I thought about it, except for the Chinese textbook, when he read aloud, all the books he read after class were really read silently. So, during the holidays, I asked him to read aloud when he was reading. I told him that my grandparents had never heard of these stories. Can you read? He is very motivated and willing to read to the elderly every day.

When I read Mr. Xue's book, I felt that we were 1. All the teachers in Class 8 are doing this. Sometimes I talk to my colleagues or neighbors about my children's teachers. They all envy Sun Jingyuan for having such a good teacher. As we all know, you have to meet good teachers when you enter a good school. I said to Sun Jingyuan more than once, "You are lucky to meet these responsible and caring teachers at the beginning of your study. You may not understand now, don't understand. When you are older, you will know how happy you are when you look back. " (Demonstration speech)

Teacher Du always leaves me notes to communicate with me. I also attach great importance to the teacher's opinions, and I reply carefully every time. I also give feedback to the teacher about what I talked with Sun Jingyuan and his corrections through a note. Because what we see at home is only one of our own children, and what the teacher sees is many children. Since the problem raised by the teacher is something that the child must correct, it will be helpful to his future development. When I have problems in educating Sun Jingyuan, I will also send notes to the teachers for help, and the teachers will help me solve my children's problems together. I have communicated with Mr. Jiang many times about careless mistakes and careless inspections when studying mathematics. At school, Mr. Jiang talked to him. At home, I asked him to do more exercises and teach himself some inspection methods.

After talking so much nonsense, everyone can feel that it is inseparable from the attention and teaching of school teachers and the education of parents to let a child who lacks self-restraint and control get rid of bad habits and develop good habits. Parents should communicate with teachers more and cooperate with them well, which is the key to educating their children.

I hope everyone can better cooperate with teachers in the new school year and let our children behave better. Our parents study hard and our children make progress every day. Thank you all.